Mazorski & Albright

Case [2007] FamCA 250


FAMILY COURT OF AUSTRALIA

STATE CENTRAL AUTHORITY & SIGOURAS [2007] FamCA 250
FAMILY LAW - CHILD ABDUCTION – Hague Convention
Family Law (Child Abduction Convention) Regulations 1986 (Cth): Reg: 16(1), 16(2), 16(3), 16(3)(b), 16(3)(a)(ii), 29(2),

Panayotides & Panayotides (1997) FLC 92-733
Re F (A Minor) (Child Abduction) [1992] 1 FLR
Re: H & Ors (1996) 1 All ER 1 at 16
DP v Commonwealth Central Authority; JLM v Director-General NSW Department of Community Services (2001) 206 CLR 401
Re C (A Minor) (Abduction) [1989] 1 FLR 403
Re C (Abduction: Grave Risk of Physical or Psychological Harm) [1999] 2 FLR 478
Director-General, Department of Families, Youth and Community Care v Bennett (2000) FLC 93-011
Re G (abduction: Psychological Harm) [1995] 1 FLR 64
JLM v NSW Department of Community Services (2001) FLC 93-081
Director-General, Department of Human Services and RSP (2003) FLC 93-152
DOF & P [2003] FamCA 691
Re H (abduction: Habitual Residence: Consent) [2000] 3 FCR 412
Re H (Minors) (Abduction: Acquiescence) [1998] A.C. 72
HZ v State Central Authority [2006] FamCA 466
State Central Authority & DB [2002] FamCA 804
Re C (Abduction) [1999] 2 FLR

APPLICANT: State Central Authority
RESPONDENT: Ms Sigouras
FILE NUMBER: MLF 2256 of 2006
DATE DELIVERED: 23 March 2007
PLACE DELIVERED: Melbourne
JUDGMENT OF: Bennett J
HEARING DATE: 15 & 16 January 2007

REPRESENTATION

COUNSEL FOR THE APPLICANT: Mr McFarlane
SOLICITOR FOR THE APPLICANT: Victorian Government Solicitor
COUNSEL FOR THE RESPONDENT: Ms Smallwood
SOLICITOR FOR THE RESPONDENT: Thomas Koutsoupias Lawyers & Co

ORDERS:

  1. That I grant the application of the State Central Authority filed 24 July 2006 for the children the first daughter born in September 2001 and a second daughter born in January 2003 to be returned to Greece pursuant to Regulation 16(1) of the Family Law (Child Abduction Convention) Regulations 1986.

  2. That the return of the children be effected within 14 days.

  3. That the parties have liberty to apply on short notice in relation to implementation of this Order such application to be made by arrangement with my Associate and, in the event that the parties have been unable to agree on the particulars for the return by 12 noon on Tuesday 27 March 2007, the State Central Authority ensure that the matter is relisted.

  4. That any exhibits and documents produced on subpoena be retained by the Court for 30 days after which all such documents be returned to person tendering or requiring production of same unless an appeal is lodged.

FAMILY COURT OF AUSTRALIA AT MELBOURNE

FILE NUMBER: MLF 2256 of 2006

State Central Authority

Applicant

And

Ms Sigouras

Respondent

REASONS FOR JUDGMENT

Introduction

  1. This is an application by the State Central Authority filed on 24 July 2006 seeking the return to Greece of the children E[1] born in September 2001 and N born in January 2003 pursuant to the provisions of the Family Law (Child Abduction Convention) Regulations 1986 (“the Regulations”).

    [1] Also referred to in the requesting parent’s material by the given name “[A]”

  2. The respondent is the mother of the children, Ms S.  The requesting parent, at whose behest the application is made, is the children’s father, Mr F. 

  3. It is conceded that no matters under Regulation 16(1) or (2) of the Regulations prevent the return of the children to Greece pursuant to the Regulations. However, the respondent mother submits that there are two exceptions to the mandatory return of the children to Greece which apply and make available to me, discretion to refuse to order the return of the children to Greece. First, the respondent contends that the return of the children to Greece would expose them to grave risk of physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the children in an intolerable situation[2].  Second, the respondent contends that the requesting parent acquiesced to the respondent retaining the children in Australia until the end of 2006[3].

    [2] Within the terms of Regulation 16(3)(b)

    [3] Within the terms of Regulation 16(3)(a)(ii)

  4. In the event that the respondent mother fails to make out one of the exceptions and the children are ordered to be returned to their home country, the respondent mother will not accompany her daughters back to Greece.  The fact that the children will be separated from their mother is a component of the facts that I am asked to consider in the context of the grave risk exception under Regulation 16(3)(b).  

  5. The elder daughter is now 5½ years old and the younger daughter has just turned 4 years old.  The girls arrived in Australia in mid October 2005, then aged 4 years and 2¾ years respectively, and have been in the care of the respondent mother and her immediate family since that time.  Prior to leaving Greece, the respondent mother was the primary carer of the girls.  The requesting parent has not seen the girls since their departure from Greece in October 2005. 

Evidence and findings of fact

  1. The applicant relied on the following documents:-

    a)Form 2 Application filed 24 July 2006 which includes prescribed documents and an declaration of the requesting parent made 14 June 2006;

    b)The affidavit of Ms J (the solicitor with conduct of the applicant’s case) sworn 24 July 2006 and the annexures.

    c)The affidavit of Ms T(the solicitor with conduct of the applicant’s case) sworn 16 October 2006 and annexures including:-

    i)The declaration of the requesting parent made 5 October 2006 (to which the respondent’s long letter of January 2006 is annexed);

    ii)The declaration of Mr G made 5 October 2006, first cousin of the mother’s father;

    iii)Sworn statement of Mr N made 25 September 2006, family friend of the husband;

    iv)Sworn statement of Mr P made 25 September 2006 family friend of the husband;

    v)Affidavit of Mr A made 25 September 2006, family friend of the husband;

    vi)Sworn statement of Ms F made 25 September 2006, sister of the husband.

    For ease of reference, I will refer to the annexures independently of the affidavit of Ms T. 

  2. The numerous annexures to the affidavits of Ms J and Ms T are admissible pursuant to the evidentiary provisions of the Regulations which provide inter alia that the application, documents attached to or given in support of the application or request are admissible as evidence of the facts stated in that application, request or document (Regulation 29(2)).

  3. The respondent relied on the following documents:-

    a)The Amended Response filed 21 September 2006;

    b)The affidavit of the respondent mother sworn 10 September 2006;

    c)The affidavit of Dr B (psychiatrist) affirmed 7 September 2006;

    d)The affidavit of Mr S (the respondent mother’s father) filed 11 September 2006;

    e)The affidavit of Mr JS (the respondent mother’s brother) filed 11 September 2006 and

    f)The affidavit of Ms K (the respondent mother’s family friend) filed 11 September 2006.

  4. Additionally, there were exhibits tendered during the trial. 

  5. Many facts asserted by one parent are disputed by the other parent, only some of which are actually relevant to exceptions to the mandatory return of the children to Greece.  With the exception of the respondent mother’s father, the evidence of family members and friends, on both sides, did not take the issues any further than the evidence given by the requesting parent and the respondent mother.  Accordingly, I will not discuss the content independently.  

  6. Neither the respondent mother nor the requesting parent gave viva voce evidence.  Save for cross examination of the wife’s expert psychiatrist, the matter proceeded on submissions. 

  7. In Panayotides & Panayotides (1997) FLC 92-733 Fogarty and Baker JJ (with whom Finn J agreed) cited with approval the comments of Jordan J at first instance of the process upon which the Court needs to embark in hearing these matters. At 83,897 the Full Court identified and approved of the following observations of Jordan J:-

    The first thing to observe is that there is much conflict in the evidence.  These are summary proceedings and issues must be determined on the papers.  This often presents the Court with difficulties.  It would generally be inappropriate to absolutely reject the sworn testimony of a deponent (see, Re F (1992) 1 FLR 548).  As was submitted by counsel for the Central Authority, I simply must do the best I can.  I look to the versions of each of the parties, I find the common ground, and I note the areas of conflict.  I can look to the inherent probabilities.  Of course, when one is talking about the intent of parties, where this is a matter of some conjecture, one looks to the conduct of the parties, and any documentary or corroborative evidence which may help to determine that issue. 

  8. The above observations echo the comments of Butler Sloss LJ (with whom the other members of the Court of Appeal agreed) in Re F[4], at page 553, as follows:-

    [4] Re F (A Minor) (Child Abduction) [1992] 1 FLR

    “… the admission of oral evidence in Convention cases should be allowed sparingly.

    If a judge is faced with irreconcilable affidavit evidence and no oral evidence is available or, as in this case, there was no application to call it, how does the judge resolve the disputed evidence?  It may turn out not to be crucial to the decision, thus not requiring a determination.  If the issue has to be faced on disputed non-oral evidence, the judge has to look to see if there is independent extraneous evidence in support of one side.  That evidence has, in my judgment, to be compelling before the judge is entitled to reject the sworn testimony of a deponent.  Alternatively, the evidence contained within the affidavit may in itself be inherently improbable and therefore so unreliable that the judge is entitled to reject it.  If, however, there are no grounds for rejecting the written evidence on either side, the applicant will have failed to establish his case. 

  9. [5] (1996) 1 All ER 1 at 16.

    Where I can or am required to make findings of fact, I make them on a balance of probabilities.  Some allegations in these proceedings are very serious and some are unusual and some are both unusual and serious, such as the chopping block incident to which I will refer.  In an English case involving a wardship application, Lord Nicholls discussed the relevant standard of proof to be applied in non-criminal proceedings, such as these proceedings.  In


    Re: H & Ors [5]

    .  His Lordship stated:

    "[145]. Despite their special features, family proceedings remain essentially a form of civil proceedings.  Family proceedings often raise various serious issues, but so do other forms of civil proceedings. 

    The balance of probability standard means that a court is satisfied an event occurred if the court considers that, on the evidence, the occurrence of the event is more likely than not.  When assessing the probabilities the court will have in mind as a factor, to whatever extent is appropriate in the particular case, that the more serious the allegation the less likely it is that the event occurred and, hence, the stronger should be the evidence before the court concludes that the allegation is established on the balance of probability.  Fraud is usually less likely than negligence.  Deliberate physical injury is usually less likely than accidental physical injury.  . . . Built into the preponderance of probability standard is a generous degree of flexibility in respect of the seriousness of the allegation.

    Although the result is much the same, this does not mean that where a serious allegation is in issue the standard of proof required is higher.  It means only that the inherent probability or improbability of an event is itself a matter to be taken into account when weighing the probabilities and deciding whether, on balance, the event occurred.  The more improbable the event, the stronger must be the evidence that it did occur before, on the balance of probability, its occurrence will be established".

  10. I will proceed in the manner described in the cases of Panayotides and Re F.  At the same time, I am mindful of the particular limitations placed upon the parties in Convention proceedings of this nature.  They must often adduce evidence through governmental and official channels, in a different language and from a legal system structured and/or resourced differently from our own and do so within in a short time frame.  As with many cases brought under the Convention, the evidence in this case is not comprehensive.  Gaps in evidence which in domestic proceedings are routinely filled in oral evidence look like gaping holes in the evidence when we can only proceed only on the papers. 

  11. Where I have made or go on to make statements of fact, they constitute findings of fact. 

Background

  1. The requesting parent is 39 years old.  The respondent mother is 36 years old.  Both are of Greek origin.  The requesting parent was born in Greece and the respondent was born in Melbourne, Australia, where her parents and her siblings continue to reside.  The parties met in Greece, whilst the mother was holidaying there.  There is some dispute as to when the parties first met.  The requesting parent deposed in a translated affidavit filed 24 July 2006 that the parties met during 1990, whilst the respondent stated in her affidavit sworn


    10 September 2006 that the parties met in 1995.  Meanwhile, in her affidavit affirmed 7 September 2006, Dr B, psychologist noted that the parties had met in 1992.[6].  She does not specify where she obtained this information.  It is not necessary for me to determine the conflict having regard to the actual issues in the case.  It is sufficient for me to find that the parties met in Greece and were married some years later.  

    [6] Affidavit of [Dr B] affirmed 7 September 2006, paragraph 4.

  2. This was the respondent mother’s second marriage.  In the late 1980’s she had been married to another Greek man for a short time, about 9 months or so.  The respondent left her first marriage and returned to her family of origin which, as I will discuss later on, is considered by the respondent’s expert psychiatrist to be significant in terms of the unusually high degree of support which that expert witness says the respondent mother requires from her family.  

  3. Returning to this marriage, the requesting parent and the respondent married at the Registrar General’s Office in Melbourne in May 2000, with a further ceremony held according to the rites of the Eastern Orthodox Church in Greece in June 2001.  The parties then moved into the father’s parents’ house in Greece with a shared and settled view to live in Greece permanently.  They later moved into their own home next door to the father’s parents.  It is alleged by the respondent mother, and not denied by the requesting parent, that living in close proximity with the requesting parent’s parents was originally said to be a short term arrangement.  It will become apparent that it is an enormous disappointment to the wife that she and the requesting parent never established a home which was completely independent of her in-laws.  

  4. The girls, E and N were born in Greece.  They both have Greek citizenship.  They are also citizens of Australia and have Australian passports. 

  5. The father is in employment as a farmer, managing his family’s agricultural property, whilst the respondent mother undertook the role of homemaker and primary caregiver for the children.  Some time after that, the parties established or assumed operation of a restaurant business.  The father deposed that in the first year of operation, the set up of the business required that he work both on the family farm and in the restaurant.  The respondent mother deposed that whilst she was registered as the owner of the restaurant, she had no effective control over the conduct of the business.  She stated that the father and his parents attended to all aspects of the business including banking and the payment of accounts and that her role was limited to dishwashing, laundry and food preparation.  

  6. In his affidavit, the father referred to the first few years of the marriage as ‘harmonic and tender.’[7]  He stated that they took care of their children, who were ‘their happiness’[8] and that it was not until the respondent mother’s parents visited Greece on vacation that ‘[the] wife changed.’[9]   The father asserted that around this time, the respondent mother began complaining about having to stay home to look after the children, that she stopped making an effort to adjust to her new environment in Greece, that she avoided meeting his parents and sisters and that she ‘interrupted all relations’[10] between the children and the father’s nephews and nieces.  He stated that he tried to discuss the matter with her. 

    [7] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 3.

    [8] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 3.

    [9] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 3.

    [10] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 3.

  7. The respondent mother paints a very different picture of the years of married life in Greece.  In her affidavit, she describes several incidents of physical violence and oppression towards both her and the children by the father.  This included forcefully holding one of the children down during a car ride, teaching one of the children how to hold a rifle and placing the respondent mother’s head on a chopping board, raising an axe in one hand and threatening to kill the respondent mother.  She stated that the children were witness to this last incident.  The respondent mother also asserts that the father had no real interest in the children, no knowledge of their likes or dislikes and no tolerance for their company.  She states that she doubted whether the father considered the children to be ‘the most precious thing on earth’ based on the contentions that he reluctant to permit a medical examination of the elder daughter’s eye condition and because he did not ‘supply’[11] her or the children with any financial support whilst they were in Australia. 

    [11] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 21 (page 10).

  8. The respondent mother denied avoiding the father’s parents and sisters.  She stated that she believed that she and the children had a good relationship with the father’s family.  She acknowledged that she did find the father’s mother to be ‘intrusive and controlling’[12] but that she attempted to overcome this, ‘to foster a harmonious family relationship.’[13]  There appears to be some tension between the respondent’s characterisation of her relationship with her in laws as ‘good’ and part of a letter which she wrote to the husband in mid January 2006 which appears as an annexure to the requesting parent’s declaration made 5 October 2006 and, omitting words written in Greek of which no translation is provided, reads as follows[14]:-

    [12] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 15 (page 6).

    [13] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 6.

    [14] Pages 12 and 13 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    I am not perfect as a person (nobody is perfect).  I have my faults too. 


    I know that, and I admit to it at least.  I have my faults as a person but at least I say that I have faults –

    Your mother is nice but she has her [……].

    She wants to know everything about everybody.

    She will even try […..].  Whatever I do and what ever I say is always wrong in her eyes.  Her way is always the right way.  Why doesn’t she just leave me alone!!  Let me do things the way I want to, things that make me happy.  Why do I always have to make her happy in my own house.  I don’t go into her house and take control and tell her what I like and what I don’t like.  It’s her house so I let her be.  Do you know how angry it makes me when I say “no” to her about something and I mean “no” and she keeps insisting otherwise.  This doesn’t happen 1-2 times, it happens many times […….].  Because she is like that, I just try to avoid her, try not to talk and say much to her. 

    […..]

    She always trys (sic) to change the way I think, so it becomes the way she thinks.  I am just so tired of it […..].  That you understand what I am trying to say.  She is a very smart lady and she has a good talent in this area.  You know your mother and I know you understand what I am trying to tell you.  I love her, don’t get me wrong, she just always interferes and I can’t cope anymore.  It is hard I know because we live next door to them, I understand because they are your parents and you love them, but by living next door to them has created a problem between us (you and me).  Can you understand me?  How it is just so hard and how it has become so [….].

    She does the same to you.  She trys (sic) to change the way you think many times with her [….] so you can see things the way she see’s (sic) it.  I have seen it happen many times.  She’s a very smart lady – she just has her way to getting what she wants without you even knowing she’s doing it to you.  (She has that super talent).  [……] (which is you).  She just knows she has that hold on you because she has given birth to you and she knows you very well – all your weakness and she works on them.  Do you know what’s sad?  She thinks she’s perfect, has no faults, she’s right and everyone around is wrong and has a problem.

    Your father is good too, but her is abit (sic) of an egoist.

  1. It seems to me that the respondent mother’s attitude to her in-laws is more accurately described as one of forbearance rather than ‘good’ but I will say more about the tone and purpose of the latter later in these reasons.  

  2. It is common ground between the parties that in late 2005, the respondent mother’s parents visited Greece for the anniversary of her paternal grandmother’s death and were booked to return to Australia on 13 October 2005.  Then, the respondent mother and the 2 children accompanied her parents back to Australia.  

  3. The requesting parent stated that he requested that the respondent mother and the children remain with him in Greece for another year, until such a time as he could join them, but that the mother was ‘unmoved.’[15]   He further stated that the respondent mother insisted on travelling with her parents, that he relented and that he ‘got them tickets’[16] to depart Greece in October 2005 and returning in January 2006.  The respondent mother agreed that the father had requested her to delay the trip to Australia, but that she had indicated that it would be easier for her to travel with her parents, as they could assist with the management of the children during the long flight.  She also deposed that the father had initially objected on the basis of a lack of funds, but that he had agreed to the trip after her parents offered to pay for the fares, including his own.  She stated that the father did not travel with her and the children because he was ‘too busy’[17] at the time.  Further, she contended that the father did not pay for her and the children’s tickets, as he deposed, but that her parents did.  Attached to the respondent mother’s affidavit is a copy of a receipt dated 15 September 2005 for the sum of €3,170 (Exhibit “AS-3”).  She stated that this was obtained from a travel agency in Crete by her father.  She also stated that the return date for the tickets was late January, not mid January 2005, as the father stated.  I accept that the requesting parent did not obtain tickets for the respondent and the children and that respondent’s family paid for the tickets.  To the extent that his affidavit says otherwise, it is wrong. 

    [15] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 3.

    [16] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 3.

    [17] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 18 (page7).

  4. In her affidavit, the respondent mother stated that she did not leave Greece with the intention of not returning and that she had ‘in fact, left most of [her] personal items, jewellery and keepsakes there.’[18] 

    [18] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 21 (page10).

  5. Once in Australia, the respondent wrote a lengthy letter to the requesting parent.  That is the letter from which I have taken the extract above.  The letter is undated but a reference by the respondent to the fact that “It has been 3 months that we have been apart.  The children and I have been missing you dearly[19]” indicates that the respondent wrote it in early to mid January 2006.

    [19] Page 1 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006.

  6. The letter begins[20]:-

    [20] Page 1 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006.

    “To my dear, very loved husband and father of our children.

    I hope my letter finds you in well health.

    It has taken me 3 days to write you this letter.  I don’t want to upset you with it.  I would like you to read it carefully.  Over and over if you want to.  These are my feelings and things that upset me when I was living there.  These things all played a role to make me feel that way to do today and not really wanting to return.” 

  7. The letter concludes[21]:-

    [21] Page 21 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006.

    I think I have said all the major things I was feeling and which made me upset.  I feel better now that I have said it all.  I am hoping that you understand how I felt, to want, to bring me to this point that I am now.

    You have a lot of thinking to do and a lot of big decisions to make […]


    I just hope that you will make the right choice for you and for us.

    Thank you for reading it as I know it was a very long, sad, and meaningful letter on my behalf.  It has been a true confession from me. 

    I still love you very much.

  8. Parts of the balance of the letter, omitting text which is in Greek and for which no translation is provided, are as follows and I will number each paragraph for ease of reference:-

    a)In the time I have been here [in Australia], it has given me time to relax from a lot of pressure I was feeling, it has given me time to sort out my deep feelings for you.  To see things clearer with no stress.  It has given me time to weigh up all the good things and the bad things.  It has given me time to see a lot of the good things I had here before
    I left and what I now have other there.  I can see how much better the health system and the doctor’s are here compared to Greece.  How nice the people are here, how much respect and love they show here compared to Greece.  How much better the school system is compared to Greece.  How many more opportunities there are here for our children and here compared to Greece.  How much happier our children are here compared to how they were in Greece.  These differences I see now that I have come back here.  We have children now, where as before I left Australia I didn’t have, so I could not see all these things as I would have something to compare the difference.  Our children how have smiles on their faces, they are happy, they have so may things to do and places to go to for the kids.  Where as there our children didn’t do anything, didn’t go anywhere.  They are just much better children now, a lot calmer, they listen a lot more, they are not so bored and the change has done them a lot of good
    ..[22]

    [22] Page 2 & 3 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006.

    b)Even though I came here on a holiday, I can’t seem to enjoy myself as much as I would have liked to.  It is because I have a lot of thoughts on my mind.  You are always on my mind and in my thoughts – believe it or not: I love you […..].  You are my other 1/2 .  I married you for ‘you’, because I loved and love you.  It is with you that I want to spend the rest of my life with, it is with you I want to talk and communicate with, it is with you that I want to laugh and cry with, it is with you
    I want to grow up our children with, it is with you I want to grow old with – you and only you my love.

    c)You are probably thinking why I never showed you all these true feelings.  I was always stuck in the house, closed up, growing up the kids alone, always I was tired too, depressed, not seeing you, no support from you, you had no time for me, you were always busy, tired, stressed with everything else yourself.

    d)That is why we both drifted apart in so many ways.  You had a busy work load and we just grew apart in so may ways.  For you it was a little better cause you would leave, go into the fresh air and work, you had the rest of your family and friends around you always.  As for me,
    I had noone (sic) or anything, I was all alone and very sad – not even you were ever there for me.  So I ask you – How did you want me to be?  Happy?  Smiling?  Joking?  Laughing? 

    e)How could I be? When I was just so empty of emotions on the inside? What ever I was getting (which was nothing) that is what I was giving (nothing).  Your actions have made me be the way I am today.[23]

    [23] Page 3 & 4 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006.

    f)When I came to Greece, I had no friends, no nothing.  All I had was just you.  You were and are my everything (then and now).  You were my support of life.  You promised me the world and I believed in you.  Where is you promise to love, honour, respect, support and care for me lately?  How many other girls did you promise the same thing to before me?  How many of them are there now?  Just me I believed you and married you.  I took the big jump with you and I followed you to Greece from the other side of the world.  The other girls you used to chase before me. Don’t even want to look at you now.  I was the one who made the biggest sacrifice in my life because I was ready for it and I followed you with all my love and I had trust in you.  You not understanding me with this is because you have not sacrificed anything in return, everything is still the same for you there.  Like it was before when you were not married.

    g)We had our 2 beautiful girls together.  When I had [our first daughter] I nearly died and so did our child.  Do you remember that?  Sometimes I wished I had of died then so that I wouldn’t be around now to live through all this heartache.  I have had a lot of heartache in my life from a young age, which I have told you about the first time we met in 1993.  That’s why I expected you to be a lot different now with me because I never hide anything from you from the start.  I told you the trust (you know what I am talking about!)  You just errased (sic) it all from your mind and from everyone.  That was you mistake, not mine.  I just expected a lot more support from you. 

    h)[….] you have never really been there for me or our children.  You have been there for everyone else except us – in which we should be your No1 priority.  Do you know how sad that is for me?

    i)You don’t spend time with me – we don’t talk together, no communication, how am I supposed to feel – I ask myself this “where is my other ½ ?”  You just shut me out of everything.  You just close the door in my face and you don’t let me into your life. 

    j)You care more about your olives, grapes, animals, parents and sisters than what you care about the children and me.  We seem to be last on you list.  When I want to talk to you and I say something – it’s always, shut up – I’m tired, or you fall asleep (because you are so tired) or you can’t be bothered or you just don’t want to hear me.

    k)That’s not good enough – I’m sorry.

    l)You have to make the time for your family – we are your family, we are you future.  That’s why we got married.  I know that that’s why I got married!  Why did you get married?  Did you get married to say – that you got married and had children?

    m)You have the also play your role of a husband and a father !!!!  Getting married is not just working only and bringing money to your house.  Marriage is being a loving, understanding husband and also a good father to our beautiful children.[24]

    [24] Page 4, 5 & 6 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    n)One other big change I saw when I came to Greece was that you are very close with your parent’s.  That’s okay and good that you are because they are your parents.  But you know something, when you get married, I know that you are supposed to brake away a little from them – because you have your won family when you marry.  But you know something?  I didn’t see that with you.  If anything, you became closer and more attached to them.  They, then became the 3rd person between us and we (your family) played the 2nd role in your life.[25]

    [25] Page 7 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    o)You promised me that I would not work on the olives, but you know deep down that you would somehow want me to help you in the future.  You have never said it to me but I can feel it.

    p)You opened the tavern on an agreement with your parents to help you.  As if you weren’t busy enough with your olives, animals, grapes and avocado to have to open the tavern as well.  Now, because it is all too much for all of you to handle, you want me to work there too.  I do enough help already with the tavern and growing up our 2 children on my own with no help for me to work more at the tavern, I also need help with the children so that I can give more but I don’t have that extra help, for me to give that extra help somewhere else.  Did you ever ask yourself maybe, nobody asked me what I wanted and what I liked to do and what makes me happy?!!  But, you and your parents just always thought I would agree with everything you all decide for me.  Well I don’t agree, cause it’s what you want me to do and not what
    I can do or what I really want to do.  Nobody asks me or talks or talks to me about anything.  You just asume (sic) that I will agree because you leave me no other choice.  Then what ever that I do I don’t enjoy to do so.  So how can I be happy?[26]

    [26] Page 8 /22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    q)My life is hard enough being there with no family, no support, not knowing how to cook well, growing up 2 children on my own.  To having everyone around me expecting me to be “like this” and to be “like that”.  Expecting me to do “this” and to do “that”.  In your eyes, you see me as if I’m not working, so that I am an […..], I am lazy, I am a bad person.  I have to always agree with everyone and everything can’t I just be me, because it’s just me?  I’m tired of making everyone else happy and me always being “unhappy”.  I am tired of not talking when I feel I want to talk. 

    r)I am sick of agreeing with people when I just don’t agree and I’m not able to express myself.  All this has made me very depressed, angry, sad and the person I am today.[27]

    [27] Page 9 & 10 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    s)You were so different when you came on holidays and when I first met you.  I noticed that you were more loving, understanding, supportive, caring, you adored me and I really felt loved and wanted.  When we went to Greece (in 2000) you slowly started to change and become like everyone there in Greece.  I noticed when you were away from your parents you were one person and when you were with them or around them, you would be another person why? Why? Why?  Why have they got such a big influence on you.  What are you scared of? 

    t)Are you scared of letting go?

    u)Are you that insecure without them that you need them so much?

    v)When someone marry’s, they need to stand on their own 2 feet and you may fall a few times but you learn by your mistakes and you become better, stronger and you prove to yourself 1st that you can do it on your own.  Our parents are there for us, if we need them for support.  If we have questions we need answers to from time to time.  They should not be there all the time.[28]

    [28] Page 10 & 11 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    w)I have gotten married (you and the children) come 1st and 2nd come my parents.  But for you it seems your parents are still 1st and your family (wife and children come 2nd) where is the strength for you own family?[29]

    [29] Page 11 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    x)I ask you again – what are you scared of [….]; it seems you are always scared if something when it comes to your parents.  You don’t have top keep proving to them how good you are, how able you are, how organised you are, how much of a good person you are.  You don’t need to have to prove anything to them because you are their son and they should know you well enough without you having to keep reminding them how good you are.

    y)I know how good you are for me, that’s why I followed you so far away and I believe in you because ‘I love you’ and when you love someone you shouldn’t have to prove anything, you just need to love, respect and support the other person- that’s all I have asked for…….

    z)So what are you scared of?  Your sisters are not like that, my brother is not like that.  What are you?  I love your family, your sisters and families and your parents, but I just can’t go on anymore.  I am so depressed that I have thought many times to end my life, and do you know what has stopped me?  Our children have stopped me.  Their beautiful faces, my love for them and just thinking how their […..] will live without me.  That’s what stops me.  That’s what stops me.  That’s what gives me strenght (sic) to fight everything up till now, but I’m tired of fighting (sic) every day, I want to be calm and happy so that
    I can make them calm and happy too…..

    aa)I got married to have my own house, my own rules, my own space, my own family, my own program, my own life with my husband close to me.  In Greece I don’t have my own house – it’s your parents.  I don’t have my own rules – your parent’s interfere.  I don’t have my own space – your parent’s are always there and so are your sister’s kids and so on and so on……

    bb)Everyone is always there except for you – I have everyone there and everyday there is someone.  When do I have some peace and quite (sic) on my own with my family and just my family?[30]

    cc)If they knew that I was unhappy they would have been closer because they know that I have noone (sic) else there.  But because they think
    I am happy that’s why they are not so involved with me.  Do you know what puts you down in everyone else’s eyes?  I know you wont want to hear this or you wont want to accept this and that the truth sometimes will hurt you, because it hurts me too when I see it happen because
    I am your wife.  That person that puts you down is non (sic) other than your own father!  How many times does he put you down in front of people?  I bet he has been doing it to you all your life.  If you do something different to his way – he puts you down because his way is always right – he is narrow minded.  He doesn’t look left or right, he just looks straight ahead.[31]

    dd)I married you [….] I didn’t marry your money, I didn’t marry your olives, tavern, grapes, goats (your fortune) I didn’t marry your family and my family.  I married “you” like you married “me”.  I am asking you for us (me and you) and our children.  I am asking you for us to give it a try.  I don’t give up easily and I hope you won’t give up on us either.  We love and need you and need you now more than ever.  To show us how strong [….] you really are.  We must give it a try, us two together.  Come here to try and see for yourself like I came their (sic) and tried in Greece.  Be open minded and willing, like I was with you and I continue to am with you.  We will find our health and happiness again as a whole family.

    ee)Don’t think negative – start thinking positive.

    ff)You used to tell me so many times that you wanted to pack your things and leave Greece.  Do you remember those times?  You know I am not lying?  Now is your chance to do it for the sake of your own family and children.  We need you more than your olives need you.  We will all doe and they will still be there [….].  Don’t sell them I’m not asking you to do that.  Find someone to work them ½ / ½ like many people have done.  You will go to Greece when ever you want.  I won’t be stopping you like you would have stopped me on returning back here.[32]

    gg)Come for a holiday if you want so that you can relax a little bit from all your work there.  Come and see for yourself and if I am wrong, then you can go back, I will understand.  Please try to at least do something for yourself for once in your life without feeling guilty.[33]

    [30] Page 12 & 13 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    [31] Page 15 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    [32] Page 20 & 21 / 22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006

    [33] Page 21/22 of the letter annexed to the requesting parent’s declaration of 5 October 2006.

  1. I am satisfied that by the time the respondent wrote the long letter to the requesting parent in January 2006, she had made up her mind not to return to Greece.  All of the outcomes sought by the respondent involved the requesting parent travelling to Australia to join her and the children.  That is consistent with the requesting parent’s description of the letter as “while accusing my parents and wider family at the end she asked me to leave everything behind and go and start a new life in Australia.[34]”  I note that there is no mention in the long letter of the various allegations of serious physical and emotional abuse which the respondent subsequently alleged that she and the children suffered at the hands of the requesting parent (which I will detail later).  Counsel for the respondent mother described the long letter as being an attempt at reconciliation.  That is, the respondent’s endeavour to tell the requesting parent that she wanted to start afresh with him, in Australia.

    [34] Page 2 of the husband’s declaration made 5 October 2006.

  2. The respondent and children were booked on flights back to Greece in late January 2006.  The father deposed that ‘[w]hen the arrival date came’[35] for the respondent mother and the children to return to Greece, she informed him that she wanted to stay in Australia so that their elder daughter could seek treatment for her eye condition, strabismus, from her treating doctor,


    Dr W.  The father stated that he was ‘greatly puzzled [as] the Ophthalmological Clinic of the University of Crete was one of the best in Europe’[36] and elder daughter’s condition could be treated in Greece.  According to the father, the respondent mother insisted on remaining in Australia to continue treatment and stated that she would return at the end of February 2006.  When that date also passed, the father was advised by the respondent mother that an operation was necessary and that she ‘trusted only the Australian doctors.’[37]  The father stated that after many phone calls, the respondent mother told him that she did not intend to return to Greece and that she wished to stay in Australia with the children permanently.  

    [35] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 3.

    [36] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 3.

    [37] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 4.

  3. The respondent mother does not disagree with the father’s account regarding the events following the original return date of January 2006.  She stated that she did not at any stage advise the father that she did not plan to return.  She asserts that the reasons behind why she sought to continue the elder daughter’s treatment in Australia, rather than in Greece, were two-fold.  First, she contended that she initially delayed the departure date of late January 2006 because Dr W had indicated to her that he required the time to observe the progress of the elder daughter’s condition after wearing prescribed spectacles.  Second, she stated that she delayed subsequent departure dates because the father had denied that the child had any problem with her eye and she was therefore not confident that the father’s concern was genuine enough for him to seek treatment for his daughter in Greece.  She therefore preferred to continue the child’s treatment with Dr W in Australia.  The respondent mother does not address the assertion by the father that she told him that an operation was necessary for the child, and that he ‘forbid her to act in any way as far as the operation was concerned without [his] consent.’[38] 

    [38] Affidavit of the Father, 24 July 2006, page 4.

  4. The respondent mother denied telling the father that she would return at the end of February 2006.  Further, she asserted that she had asked the father to come to Australia to meet with Dr W regarding the child’s condition, but that he had told her that he could not because of ‘some complaint involving assault charges made against him, preventing him from leaving the country before October.’[39]  

    [39] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 20 (page 9).

  5. The requesting parent’s declaration indicates that the next development was “[in] the beginning of March 2006 during a phone conversation she told me to go to Australia if I wanted to see my children again.  During that period and due to some documents addressed to me, I contacted the Child Support Agency Tasmania, and they mentioned that [the respondent mother] declared to CSA that on October 13th she left Greece because we were separated.  Following that, I contacted the Australian Embassy in Athens and they in turn informed me about the international Hague Convention and gave me the name of an employee I should contact, in the Greek Ministry of Justice.[40]  None of the evidence adduced by or on behalf of the respondent in this case refutes the requesting parent’s allegations in this regard. 

    [40] Page 2 of the husband’s declaration made 5 October 2006.

  6. The requesting parent signed an application to the appropriate authorities on


    10 May 2006.  The Hellenic Ministry of Justice, Athens, in its capacity as Central Authority for Greece, made a request of the Australian Central Authority to act on the father’s behalf for an order for the return of the children to Greece.  

  7. The application now before the court was filed on 24 July 2006.  As to the wrongful retention, it is alleged that[41]:-

    i.After the scheduled return date of 19 January 2006 arrived, the respondent mother told the requesting father that they intended to stay in Australia until 14 February 2006 as the older daughter needed to see a specialist doctor in relation to a condition of Strabismus.  The requesting father consented to the extended stay until 14 February 2006. 

    ii.When 14 February passed, the respondent mother told the requesting father that she and the children would not be returning to Greece. 

    iii.The children have been wrongfully retained and have remained in Melbourne with the respondent mother since their arrival in breach of the requesting father’s rights of custody. 

    iv.At no time has the requesting father consented to the children remaining in Australia. 

    [41] Paragraph 6 of the applicant’s Form 2 application filed 24 July 2006.

  8. I note that the above extract from the application initiating proceedings is not a document sworn to by the requesting parent.  It is a summary of the factual basis of the application which is drawn on behalf of the applicant, the State Central Authority.  I also note that it is internally inconsistent.  

  9. The application proceeded ex parte before Mushin J on 25 July 2006, and interim orders were made for the safe custody of the children, the delivery up of the children’s passports and the filing of documents and evidence in readiness for the trial.  The mother would have been served with the proceedings shortly thereafter.  

  10. On 7 August 2006 the matter came before me.  Ms Greenham, solicitor, of Australian Government Solicitor’s Office appeared for the applicant State Central Authority.  Mr Koutsoupias, solicitor, appeared for the respondent mother having filed a Notice of Address for Service on behalf of the respondent on 4 August 2006.  On that day the interchange between counsel and the court was as follows:-

    Her Honour:         Where is [the respondent mother]?

    Mr Koutsoupias:   She is not present today. 

    Her Honour:         Some reason for that? 

    Mr Koutsoupias:   It was my understanding that she was not needed today.  (indistinct) I spoke to my learned friend. 

    Her Honour:         Ok, Alright well we will see.   What is your client’s position in relation to the application?

    Mr Koutsoupias:   My Client in this point and time that the parties are in direct contact with each other.  The husband being in Greece.  She came here over last year specifically for eye treatment for the youngest. 

    Her Honour:         She says, he doesn’t say that.

    Mr Koutsoupias:   Ok, and her ticket expires on the 4th of October this year.

    Her Honour:         Does it?

    Mr Koutsoupias:   Yes

    Her Honour:         So the return ticket that she was supposed to go back on in February it is now valid until the 4th of October, Is it?  Can it be extended after the 4th of October?

    Mr Koutsoupias:   No it can’t.

    Her Honour:         It will be lost.

    Mr Koutsoupias:   That’s right it expires.  Her instructions this morning were that she is going back.  That they have reconciled more or less and that they will be giving it another chance the marriage and so forth.  She does have concerns – at this stage it is more than likely it will resolve and she will be going back.

    Her Honour:         Ok, so is she going back next week?  When have the Central Authority agreed that she can go back?

    Mr Koutsoupias:   I don’t have instructions in relation to when specifically she is going back but it will be by the 4th of October, pending ---- the finalisation of her doctors appointment

    Her Honour:         I don’t know why we would wait until the 4th of October

    Mr Koutsoupias:   For the eye treatment for the youngest child, she is currently seeing a specialist optometrist.  She has an eye condition.  I am not up to date with the - - - I received instructions last Thursday, I don’t have specifics in relation to that.

    Her Honour:         Alright let’s see what Ms Greenham says

  11. A final hearing date of 9 October 2006 was secured on the basis that it could be vacated in the event that the matter resolved and no hearing was necessary.  The respondent was required to file her response and supporting evidence by 28 August 2006 and the applicant by 18 September 2006.  The matter was adjourned for further mention before me to 17 August 2006 to see if, by that time, the parties had agreed on the specific flights to be taken by the respondent mother and the girls to travel back to Greece.  

  12. On 17 August 2006, Ms Daly of counsel represented the respondent mother.  The respondent did not attend court.  Her counsel tendered a medical certificate to the effect that the respondent was acutely ill and unable to attend court for one month.  I enlarged the time in which the respondent could file affidavit evidence to 11 September, required the applicant to respond by 27 September 2006.  I vacated the hearing date of 9 October 2006 in favour of an earlier hearing of 2 October 2006 on the basis that the airline tickets which the respondent mother and children could use to return to Greece, expire on


    4 October 2006.  Finally, liberty was reserved to both parties “to have this matter listed before me for mention by arrangement with my Associate […] in the event that […] either party seeks the appointment of an independent children’s lawyer to be appointed in sufficient time to represent the interests of the children at the final hearing….”  No party has ever sought the appointment of an independent children’s lawyer.  

  13. The transcript of the proceedings on 17 August 2006 is Exhibit “M1” in these proceedings.  It is apparent from the transcript that counsel for the respondent mother advised the court that the mother’s mental state had deteriorated markedly and that her instructing solicitor sought more time in which the respondent could give instructions relevant to the exception provided under Regulation 16(3)(b) (grave risk) to the mandatory return of children.  My reasons for judgment are Exhibit “SCA1” and conclude with the following observations:-

    [16]. Of course I do not question that the mother is distressed and that she may well be suffering from a mental illness or a psychiatric imbalance.  However, the energies that she is devoting to the case here could also be directed to securing her position in Greece in terms of legal proceedings and rights as well as medical and psychiatric care. 

    [17]. There is certainly nothing which precludes the mother from instituting proceedings in Greece concurrently with these proceedings in Australia in the event that she wants to have some regulation of life in Greece in the event that the children are ordered to return in early October 2006. 

  14. As at the date of the final hearing, the respondent mother had not taken any legal or other steps in Greece.  As I will come to later, it was submitted on her behalf that she is unable to contemplate the possibility of her return to Greece and, therefore, she is unable to do anything in preparation for it, even in the context that she may not be successful with her primary position of retaining the children in Australia permanently.  

  15. Between the hearings on 7 August and 17 August 2006 the respondent mother had suffered a psychotic episode.  The respondent’s condition was described by a Dr R, a medical practitioner and psychiatric registrar with the Central East Crisis Assessment Treatment Team, in his affidavit sworn on 25 August 2006 as follows:-

    [2]. [The mother] was referred to the C.A.T. Team on the 10th August, 2006.  I assessed her at home with her parents on 11th August, 2006, in my role as C.E.C.A.T.T. Psychiatry Registrar.

    [3]. The result of my assessment was a diagnosis of an acute psychosis with a working diagnosis of a Brief Reactive Psychosis, but also a wide differential diagnosis including other forms of psychosis.

    [4]. [The mother’s] prognosis is that it is likely that she will respond to antipsychotic medication and make a full recovery.  The time course for this is unpredictable but is likely to range between a month and six months or even longer.

    [5]. On the basis of my assessment I concluded that [the mother] would be unfit to attend Court on 17th August, 2006 and unlikely to be fit to attend Court for one month.

    [6]. This was based upon the extreme level of disorder present, particularly her grossly impaired and disorganised thinking, evident as an inability to marshal her thoughts or to shift them to a new topic, an inability to give clear answers, and her inability to make even simple decisions.  This was accompanied by marked distress and fearfulness with emotional lability, delusions of surveillance, reference and persecution, abnormal auditory perceptions and impaired insight and judgement.

    [7]. Until her mental state has improved substantially, [the mother] is not competent to appear in Court.  In addition the stress of attempting to appear in Court is likely to exacerbate her condition and delay her recovery.

  16. On 29 August 2006 the respondent mother was assessed by Dr B pursuant to arrangements made by the mother’s solicitors.  This was not treatment.  The respondent was assessed individually for 90 minutes and then Dr B saw the mother’s brother for about 15 minutes. 

  17. Before me, Dr B referred to the particular symptoms of the mother’s psychosis as a belief that the requesting parent was taping telephone conversations with her, thinking that television programs were in some way related to her and that she was under surveillance.[42] 

    [42] Transcript of extract of proceedings on 15 January 2007, page 27.

  18. It was conceded on behalf of the respondent mother that her final decision to remain in Australia and to resist any application to return the girls to Greece was formed after service of the proceedings upon her in late July 2006 and, necessarily, after 7 August 2006 (when her solicitor informed that court that he was instructed that the mother and children would return to Greece).  In the following passages of her affidavit sworn on 10 September 2006, the respondent mother deposes:-

    [21]. [….] It was only after the husband’s verbal abuse and clear statements which he made to me that he would not change his ways towards me and the children, that he would not consider living separately for his parents, that I realised that our lives together in Greece would be intolerable and after he told me that he did not want me, I have decided that our marriage is failed.  Accordingly, I do not consider an urgent return to Greece to be my priority.  After much reflection, I have decided not to return to live there, at least for some years, and I could not subject my very young daughters to the risks to health and safety which I fear would occur were they obliged to live in Greece in my absence. 

    […..]

    [24]. That it was not until after I had been served with the papers pertaining to these proceedings that my husband, formally stated that he did not care about me, that his interest was coming to Australia to take the children back to Greece.  I was deeply shocked and hurt by his blunt rejection of me and our marriage.  My health has been adversely affected by the physical and emotional treatment of my husband towards me.  Exhibited hereto and marked with the letters “AS-5” is a medical report of [Dr B].

  19. Dr B records the respondent mother’s resolve to stay in Australia in the following terms:-

    [3]. [The mother] is currently living with her parents and two daughters in the parental home in Melbourne.  This has been the case since arriving for a holiday in Australia, with her parents after returning with them after they had visited her in Greece.  The fares for this trip, I was informed were paid for by her parents, with the acknowledgement and permission of her husband who didn’t wish to come.  Her intention had been to return earlier, but this was delayed due to eye appointments for her elder child.  Furthermore, she had increasing concern about her mental health were she to return and be subjected to the living conditions previously imposed upon her by her husband.  Until her husband sought legal avenues to have the children return to Greece, her intention continued to be that she and the girls would return, but hopefully not to the same untenable circumstances which she had left.  She had hoped until the service of these proceedings that her husband would come to Australia to holiday with them and seek to resolve their marital problems.

    [4]. Since the proceedings have continued, her husband has become increasingly abusive and [the mother] has increasingly feared for the safety of herself and her children were she to return especially so after he has informed her that she is not wanted back there by him.  She has become increasingly anxious and agitated and was diagnosed with a Brief Reactive Psychosis in the setting of extreme stress.  This condition is now managed and stable but she continues to require medication to sleep and subdue her “racing” thoughts.  She feels overwhelmed and sad, confused by the court case and at times unable to rationally consider all of its implications because of the degree of distress it causes her when contemplating possible negative outcomes.  Whilst talking about that prospect she became very tearful, and clutched desperately at me seemingly wanting me to help her save her children from being extradited.

  20. Dr B had access to a copy of the requesting parent’s translated statement and Dr R’s affidavit regarding the respondent mother’s condition.  In her affidavit affirmed 7 September 2006, Dr B stated that she agreed with


    Dr Barnes’ diagnosis and that the mother’s condition was now managed and stable.  I will deal later with Dr B’s evidence in the context of the alleged grave risk of harm to the children. 

  21. The matter was mentioned before me on 15 September 2006 at which time the respondent mother had not filed a response which identified the exceptions to mandatory return upon which she relied and she was given further time to do so.  It was also ordered that the respondent mother comply with any reasonable requests of the applicant State Central Authority for psychiatric assessment of herself to be completed by 4pm on Tuesday 26 September 2006.  If the State Central Authority did retain its own expert, then that expert was to confer with the wife’s expert witness, Professor B, not later than 4pm on 29 September 2006.  The applicant State Central Authority did not appoint its own expert to report on the respondent’s psychiatric health. 

  22. The matter was listed for final hearing on 2 October 2006. 

  23. The hearing on 2 October 2006 did not proceed because the State Central Authority said that it was waiting for some documents to be put in admissible form, in particular, English and it was hoped that they would be processed within 24 hours or less.  It did not proceed on 3 October 2006, because the applicant State Central Authority still did not have a translated version of the requesting parent’s answering material.  In fact, the applicant did not have the requesting parent’s responses at all.  I note that the declaration was made, in Greece, on 5 October 2006.  I accepted that the applicant’s case would be prejudiced if I forced them to proceed without giving it a further opportunity to adduce evidence in response to the then recent allegation of the respondent mother that, in about March or April 2006 the requesting parent had agreed that the respondent mother could retain the children in Australia until October and subsequently ‘until the end of the year.’

  1. I adjourned the matter to the earliest available date, 15 January 2007, which meant that there would be a delay of a further 4 months before the matter could be relisted – an unfavourable outcome in proceedings which the court is required to dispose of promptly and without delay. 

  2. By an amended response filed on 21 September 2006, the respondent resists the application on 2 grounds.  Those grounds are:-

    a)There is a grave risk that the return of the children to Greece will expose them to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place them in an intolerable situation within the meaning of Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Regulations (Article 13(b) of the Convention); and

    b)The requesting parent has consented to and acquiesced in the wrongful retention of the children in Australia within the meaning of Regulation16 (3)(a)(ii) of the Regulations (Article 13(a) of the Convention).

  3. As this was a case concerned solely with exceptions to mandatory return,


    I made orders on 15 September 2006 that the respondent mother’s case proceed prior to the case of the applicant. 

  4. As I have indicated, neither party made application for the appointment of an independent children’s lawyer.  Also, the applicant State Central Authority did not appoint an expert to assess the mental health of the respondent mother although it made clear that it wanted to, and did, challenge the evidence of Dr B in cross examination. 

  5. The respondent mother’s case in relation to grave risk of harm was prepared in terms of there being a grave risk of harm to the children or that the children would be placed in an intolerable situation in the event that she returned to Greece with them.  It was not until the trial commenced that counsel for the respondent informed the court that, come what may, the mother would not return to Greece and, if I ordered that the children go back to Greece, they would have to go without her.  Initially, counsel for the respondent mother agreed that, if I ordered the children be returned to Greece, I ought to provide to the respondent an option to change her mind within, say, 72 hours of my order to the effect that she could elect to accompany the children.  On that basis, counsel for the mother adduced a considerable amount of extra viva voce evidence from Dr B as to what was likely to happen to the respondent if she returned to Greece with the children.  

  6. By the second day of the hearing, Ms Smallwood advised me that the respondent mother had specifically instructed her that she would not return to Greece under any circumstances and opposed any option being extended to her to accommodate a change of heart.  

Grave risk

  1. Regulation 16(3)(b) provides that a court may refuse to return a child to its home country if a person opposing return establishes that there is a grave risk that the return of the child under the Convention would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation.  Practically, it mirrors the provisions of Article 13(b) of the Convention which provides:-

    Notwithstanding the provisions of the preceding Article, the judicial or administrative authority of the requested State is not bound to order the return of the child if the person, institution or other body which opposes its return establishes that … there is a grave risk that his or her return would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation.

  2. The respondent mother bears the onus of proving, on a balance of probabilities, that the return of the children to Greece pursuant to the Regulations will expose the children (or any of them) to a grave risk of physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the children (or any of them) in an intolerable situation.

  3. The proper interpretation of Regulation 16(3) has been settled by the majority judgment of the High Court in the cases of DP v Commonwealth Central Authority; JLM v Director-General NSW Department of Community Services (2001) 206 CLR 401 where Gaudron, Gummow and Hayne JJ said:

    “[40]  So far as reg 16(3)(b) is concerned, the first task of the Family Court is to determine whether the evidence establishes that ‘there is a grave risk that [his or her] return … would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation’. If it does or if, on the evidence, one of the other conditions in reg 16 is satisfied, the discretion to refuse an order for return is enlivened. There may be many matters that bear upon the exercise of that discretion. In particular, there will be cases where, by moulding the conditions on which return may occur, the discretion will properly be exercised by making an order for return on those conditions, notwithstanding that a case of grave risk might otherwise have been established. Ensuring not only that there will be judicial proceedings in the country of return but also that there will be suitable interim arrangements for the child may loom large at this point in the inquiry. If that is to be done, however, care must be taken to ensure that the conditions are such as will be met voluntarily or, if not met voluntarily, can readily be enforced.

    ‘Narrow construction’?

    [41]    In the judgment of the Full Court of the Family Court which gives rise to the first of the matters now under consideration (DP v Commonwealth Central Authority) it was said that there is a ‘strong line of authority both within and out of Australia, that the reg 16(3)(b) and (d) exceptions are to be narrowly construed’. Exactly what is meant by saying that reg 16(3)(b) is to be narrowly construed is not self-evident. On its face reg 16(3)(b) presents no difficult question of construction and it is not ambiguous. The burden of proof is plainly imposed on the person who opposes return. What must be established is clearly identified: that there is a grave risk that the return of the child would expose the child to certain types of harm or otherwise place the child in ‘an intolerable situation’. That requires some prediction, based on the evidence, of what may happen if the child is returned. In a case where the person opposing return raises the exception, a court cannot avoid making that prediction by repeating that it is not for the courts of the country to which or in which a child has been removed or retained to inquire into the best interests of the child. The exception requires courts to make the kind of inquiry and prediction that will inevitably involve some consideration of the interests of the child.

    [42]    Necessarily there will seldom be any certainty about the prediction. It is essential, however, to observe that certainty is not required: what is required is persuasion that there is a risk which warrants the qualitative description ‘grave’. Leaving aside the reference to ‘intolerable situation’, and confining attention to harm, the risk that is relevant is not limited to harm that will actually occur, it extends to a risk that the return would expose the child to harm.

    [43]    Because what is to be established is a grave risk of exposure to future harm, it may well be true to say that a court will not be persuaded of that without some clear and compelling evidence. The bare assertion, by the person opposing return, of fears for the child may well not be sufficient to persuade the court that there is a real risk of exposure to harm.

    [44]    These considerations, however, do not warrant a conclusion that reg 16(3)(b) is to be given a ‘narrow’ rather than a ‘broad’ construction. There is, in these circumstances, no evident choice to be made between a ‘narrow’ and ‘broad’ construction of the regulation. If that is what is meant by saying that it is to be given a ‘narrow construction’ it must be rejected. The exception is to be given the meaning its words require.

    [45]    That is not to say, however, that reg 16(3)(b) will find frequent application. It is well-nigh inevitable that a child, taken from one country to another without the agreement of one parent, will suffer disruption, uncertainty and anxiety. That disruption, uncertainty and anxiety will recur, and may well be magnified, by having to return to the country of habitual residence. Regulation 16(3)(b) and Art 13(b) of the Convention intend to refer to more than this kind of result when they speak of a grave risk to the child of exposure to physical or psychological harm on return.”

  4. The respondent’s summary of argument[43] put her case as follows:-

    In the alternative, the respondent seeks that the application for the return of the children to Greece be dismissed on the basis that there is a grave risk they will be exposed to psychological or physical harm, and subject to an intolerable situation.  [……]

    The respondent mother has filed an affidavit sworn by [Dr B], filed 11 September 2006, in which [Dr B] records the history taken from the wife, both as to her psychiatric history and her living circumstances in Greece during her marriage there.  She notes the respondent mother has recently experienced a psychotic episode.  [Dr B] concludes at paragraph 19 of that affidavit that were the wife forced to return to Greece, without her family support, which is the very foundation of her self esteem, she would be at significant risk of a further psychosis and would struggle to provide the care of her children in a setting of ongoing stress, abuse and depression.

    It is submitted on behalf of the respondent mother that that (sic) [the] children are highly dependent upon her and would be exposed to a grave risk of psychological harm should they be separated from her.  Any return of the children to Greece would therefore necessitate a return of the respondent mother with them, to protect them from negative effects of separation from her.  Her return to Greece would lead to an intolerable situation for the children, given her vulnerable psychiatric state in those circumstances, as deposed by [Dr B]. [……].

    It is submitted that whilst she would not be required to cohabit with the father, should she return to Greece, she would be placed in a situation where she has no personal support or available friends, no ability to obtain a job to financially support herself, and/or the children and no financial resources to live off in the meantime.  The practical circumstances for herself and the children would result in an intolerable situation.  The father has provided no financial support to the respondent since her departure, which departure was by consent, in late 2005.

    [43] Summary of Argument on Behalf of the Respondent filed 22 September 2006.

  5. In the preparation of the respondent mother’s case, significant emphasis is placed by her and her family on the fact that the requesting parent did not provide financially for her and/or the children to come to, or since they have remained in, Australia.  The respondent complains of the requesting parent’s “cruel hypocrisy, in the he expresses a love and concern for his children, if not myself, whilst knowing that he has not provided one dollar of financial support for me or his two small children since we left Greece in October 2005. Independently of the fact that we have received no financial support from him, he has also failed to make an endeavour wither by phone call, correspondence or even a small token or present to recognise our [younger daughter’s] birthday last January.”[44]  The requesting parent responds as follows:-

    My wife also accuses me that when she left from Greece I did not give her even one dollar.  However, she knows that the money I made from my agricultural estate as well as some money from the tavern was placed in the bank in the beginning of summer 2005 for a better profit after an (sic) mutual agreement between us and she also knew that I owe 4.400 euros for the agricultural provisions and fertilizers.  She also stated that she had some money from some occasional hair cuts she made and she did not need my support.  I believe that when she left Greece she had 10,000 euros on her and as I discovered later on she had taken with her all family documents and papers for the christening of the children, of the civil and religious marriage, my passport and all jewelry (sic) in our house, even my christening cross.[45]

    [44] Affidavit of Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 22 (page11)

    [45] Declaration  of the requesting parent made 5 October 2006 (page 5)

  6. I have extracted the above evidence because the requesting parent’s failure to provide financial support to the wife is a very strong theme in the respondent’s case, deposed to not only by her but by her other witnesses and the psychiatrist upon whose evidence she relies.  The respondent’s expert psychiatrist referred to the lack of financial support from the requesting parent as a matter about which the respondent was ‘particularly distressed[46]’.  I am confident that the respondent and her family of origin consider the requesting parent’s lack of financial assistance to be egregious conduct and humiliating of the respondent. 

    [46] Transcript of extract of proceedings on 15 January 2007, page 30, line 43

  7. On the first day of the hearing I queried the mother’s inability to support herself financially in light of a passing reference in the material to a residential property in Australia which was acquired prior to her marriage to the requesting parent.  Finally, counsel for the respondent mother was able to inform me that her client is the sole registered proprietor of an unencumbered residential property at B.  That property is tenanted and the rental, of approximately, $8,000 per annum was applied to repayment of a mortgage affecting the property until about August 2006 when the mortgage was repaid in full.  The respondent mother owns the property unencumbered and, as at the date if hearing, had $8,000 standing to her credit in an account with National Australia Bank.  I was informed that the respondent was unable to estimate the current market value of B property.  

  8. I was informed that, apart from her house and savings, the mother has no other property or financial resources.  I was informed that the reference in the evidence[47] to monies left to her by her paternal grandmother does not represent any interest relevant to the respondent.  She says that she has previously accessed the account in Greece, but now recognises that those monies belong beneficially to her father.  Counsel for the respondent mother said that the mother does not even know the current balance of the account. 

    [47] The affidavit of [Dr B] affirmed 7 August 2006 (paragraph 13), states “…The only small amount of money she obtained was for her children, from her own grandmother (who was living in Greece but has now died), [the father] often demanded that money to be given to him to bank.”

  9. It is not possible to reconcile the respondent mother’s actual financial position with the contentions contained in her summary or argument.  Particularly the contention extracted above that:-

    […] should she return to Greece, she would be placed in a situation where she has no personal support or available friends, no ability to obtain a job to financially support herself, and/or the children and no financial resources to live off in the meantime.  The practical circumstances for herself and the children would result in an intolerable situation.

  10. It was submitted by counsel for the respondent mother that counsel, and not the mother, had been the author of the case outline document.  I accept that is the case.  It remains that respondent the mother is the sole owner of unencumbered real estate in Melbourne which can be liquidated and, whilst tenanted, produces an income of about $150 per week gross of expenses.  The mother provided no information about expenses referrable to the property.  Likewise, the mother provided no evidence about the cost of living in Greece.  I am satisfied that the mother has a valuable asset which can be readily liquidated and that money does not constitute much difficulty as far as the mother is concerned.  I am also satisfied that the mother has had the wherewithal to support herself and the children in Australia, if not through income then through a mixture of income tested pensions drawn by her in Australia and capital.  

  11. The respondent mother personally deposes to the basis of her opposition to the return of her daughters to Greece in the following terms:-

    [27]. That in opposing this application, I do so on the basis as hereinbefore described, specifically that my husband has attempted to mislead the Court to misrepresent my position, insofar as he has attempted to erroneously portray me as a scheming dishonest person.  Conversely I submit he has chosen to put the interests of our children as secondary to his own concerns which I believe to be a false show of love for our children in order to demonstrate to his own family and/or his neighbours a concern for the welfare of our children.  Such a hollow concern has in my respectful submission been contradicted by his failure to demonstrate a capacity to care adequately for their physical and emotional health and safety when they resided with him in Greece and furthermore, his failure to make any financial or emotional support for them and myself for a period of at least one (1) year since they came to Australia with his consent.

  12. What the mother describes above does not bring her within the grave risk of harm exception.  I will proceed to determine whether the balance of the evidence does bring the children within the Regulation 16(3) exception to mandatory return.  

  13. It was submitted on behalf of the respondent mother that there is a grave risk that the return of the children to Greece would expose the children to harm by virtue of them being returned to an environment in which they:-

    ▪were personally subjected to abuse, for example, the alleged behaviour of the requesting parent to the younger daughter after delivering the respondent mother to the dentist;

    ▪witnessed serious assaults being perpetrated on their mother by their father, for example the chopping board incident;

    ▪would be likely to be abused by the requesting parent and/or his family in the future.

    This argument is predicated on my accepting the respondent mother’s evidence about domestic violence perpetrated by the requesting parent against her and to the children.  The evidence of the mother’s expert psychiatrist was tested in cross examination.  However, the direct evidence about domestic violence, being that of the respondent mother and the requesting parent, is disputed and untested.  I have not seen either give evidence.  Their evidence conflicts in very many respects, which I will set out below.  

  14. The respondent’s allegations about domestic violence and violence to or witnessed by the children appear in the affidavits sworn by her and her witnesses or as told to her expert psychiatric witness.  What follows is my attempt to summarise the allegations of the respondent mother and the responses of the requesting parent.  

    a)The respondent mother alleges that she was frequently chastised by the requesting parent.  She recounted several such incidents as occurring when she was ‘obliged by my husband, [the father], to give assistance in the business and order rely on a monitoring system downstairs for noise or disturbance upstairs to check on the welfare of my young children.’[48]  When she went to the upstairs level of the tavern to check on the children.  She stated that ‘[The father] would become angry with me for leaving the business on these occasions, he appeared to consider the work in the restaurant as a priority above my concern for the safety and welfare of our children.’[49]  The response of the requesting parent was[50] that he worked hard to support the family “like the people who run businesses and have responsibilities do” and that the respondent’s work was not onerous.  In particular, “I agree that my wife washed and ironed the table linen, but that was not always the case. I never forced her to leave the children and work in the tavern.”[51]

    b)The respondent mother alleges that she and children were subject to isolating and controlling behaviour whilst living with the requesting parent in Greece.  She contended that the father refused to allow the family to move into their own home, as initially ‘promised’[52] when the respondent mother first agreed to move in with the father’s parents.  She deposed to the father telling her to, ‘forget about it’[53] and stating that they were simply ‘not going to move’.[54]  The requesting parent responded by saying:-

    “The house we lived is an independent apartment, with phones, independent power supply and central heating. The only thing in common with my parent’s apartment is the court yard. She [the respondent] should not forget that even when she lived with her grandmother in 1999 she was even then complaining.”[55]

    c)The respondent mother deposed that after the birth of the elder daughter, the family ‘rarely went out, at most perhaps once every three (3) or four (4) months.’[56]  Dr B stated that the respondent mother had told her that the father had prevented her from ‘taking the children to any child related activity, had no holidays, would not allow her to get any childcare, or allow her manual driving lessons, which meant she was totally isolated and dependent.’[57]  Dr B deposed to the father’s control of the parties’ finances, recounting the respondent mother’s recollection that the father ‘[cut] her off from supports and any life beyond the four walls of their small home…’[58], that she had no knowledge of their financial circumstances and that the father did not give her money for herself or the children, even accompanying them to do the grocery shopping.  The requesting parent did not specifically respond to the allegations of the respondent.  However, the matters raised by the respondent relate to the functioning of the parents as a couple or an intact family.  The allegations, if ultimately tested and accepted to be correct, may be the basis for the respondent ending the marriage, but they are not an appropriate basis for refusing to return the children to Greece.  

    d)The respondent mother alleges that she and children were not a high priority for the father.  She deposed that it was after the time the respondent mother queried the possibility of the family moving into a house which was independent of the father’s parents, that she noted a change in the father’s attitude towards her and, she conceded, ‘to a lesser extent, to the children.’[59]  She noted that the father’s concern appeared to be focussed on the interests of himself and his parents and that she and the children were being demoted to a lower priority as time went on.  This is a further example of evidence which may be relevant to the issue of where and with whom it would be in the children’s best interests to live but it is not relevant to the exception provided by Regulation 16(3).  It is not proposed that the respondent return to Greece to live with the requesting parent or at all.  

    e)The requesting parent was violent and emotionally abusive towards the respondent mother throughout the marriage in the presence of the children and, in one particular incident, allegedly forced the mother’s head onto a chopping board and threatened to kill her with an axe, only stopping when the elder daughter screamed for him not to kill her mother.  As I said earlier in these reasons, with many cases brought under the Convention, the evidence in this case is not comprehensive.  Gaps in evidence which in domestic proceedings are routinely filled in oral evidence look like gaping holes in the evidence when we proceed only on the papers.  This allegation of the wife is an example of how I have to reconcile factual matters in the absence of oral evidence and cross examination.  The respondent mother deposed as follows:-

    [25]. In relation to my previous statement that my husband has abused me both verbally and physically, I cannot forget one occasion when our children were playing with my nieces and nephews after bedtime when my mother-in-law complained that they were “running in and out of the tavern, which was not a playground”.  I then decided to take the children upstairs to sleep, when my husband grabbed me by the neck in a choking manner and marched me back into the tavern kitchen.  He then placed my neck on the chopping board and had an axe in his hand threatening to kill me.  His mother and my niece and nephew in addition to our children witnessed this incident and were traumatised by it.  My eldest daughter was crying and screaming No! Daddy No1 Don’t kill our mother! He then stopped.

    [48] Affidavit of Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 10 (page4).

    [49] Affidavit of Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 10 (page5).

    [50] Declaration of the requesting parent made 5 October 2006 (page 3)

    [51] Declaration  of the requesting parent made 5 October 2006 (page 4)

    [52] Affidavit of Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 11.

    [53] Affidavit of Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 11.

    [54] Affidavit of Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 11.

    [55] Declaration of the requesting parent made 5 October 2006 (page 4)

    [56] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 16.

    [57] Affidavit of [Dr B], affirmed 7 September 2006, paragraph 10.

    [58] Affidavit of [Der B], affirmed 7 September 2006, paragraph 10.

    [59] Affidavit of Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 11.

    f)When the requesting parent’s responding statement became available, the respondent’s allegation was dealt with in the following manner[60]:-

    [60] Requesting parent’s declaration made 5 October 2006 (pages 5 & 6)

    […]

    Reply regarding paragraph 25 of the declaration under oath made by [the mother].

    If those things mentioned by [the mother] in paragraph 25 were actually happening in a democratic country, such as Greece, she could have easily contacted the police and I would undergo enormous penalties by the law and now I would probably be even in prison.

    g)Counsel for the respondent mother submitted that I should not regard the requesting parent’s response as being as being a denial of her client’s allegations.  I agree that a reading of the balance of the requesting parent’s declaration makes it clear that elsewhere he was able to make blanket denials and specific denials.  By way of corroboration of the mother’s allegation, her father deposes[61] that:-

    [61] Affidavit of [the mother’s father] sworn 8 September 2006 (paragraph 5).

    [5]. [….] I was shocked on one occasion, when my little granddaughter [the elder child], without any prompting or encouragement or enticement, approached me and said “Grandad, my Dad tried to kill my mum”.  I responded to her, somewhat dismissively that it wouldn’t have been so.  When my little granddaughter persisted, I further asserted that it must have been a joke.  Some time later, I raised with my daughter [the mother] the comment made to me by her daughter.  She became distressed and did not want to talk about it.  I did not discuss the matter with [the father].

    h)I accept the submissions of counsel for the respondent mother to the extent that I will not construe the requesting parent’s response as a denial.  This chopping board incident is the most serious act of physical violence alleged by the respondent mother against the requesting parent.  The requesting parent’s response is consistent with him making a point that, if the respondent mother did not go to the police when it happened, then it is too late for her to complain about it now.  Neither do I construe the response of the requesting parent to be an admission.  Sure enough, if nothing in the nature of what the respondent alleges occurred, it would have been easy for the requesting parent to make an outright denial of the allegation.  Framed as the requesting parent’s response is framed, however, I am not satisfied that the reason that he did not make an outright denial is because what the respondent mother deposed to was true.  Elsewhere the requesting parent has said:-

    The fact that I have never abused [the respondent mother] is proven by the declarations under oath of friends who have no interest and as a result they say only the truth.[62]

    [62] Declaration of the father made 5 October 2007, foot of page 2

    i)I am inclined to the view that something of the nature of the respondent’s complaint happened but I am not satisfied to the required standard that it occurred as deposed to by her or as reported to her father by the elder daughter.  This difficulty in the evidence is what cross examination and oral evidence would elucidate.  Without the benefit of cross examination, I am unable to find to what extent the respondent’s allegation is correct.  

    j)Even if I were satisfied to the appropriate standard that the requesting parent had acted as he is alleged to have acted, I would not regard this chopping board incident as necessarily constituting a grave risk of harm to the children given that the jurisdiction of the children’s habitual residence has a system of family law which provides legal protection for children.  It is not suggested by the respondent that she will not participate in any proceedings in Greece, albeit such participation may be from Australia.  

    k)The respondent mother deposes that the father was ‘on many occasions initially verbally abusive towards me and ultimately subsequently, physically abusive to me and the children.’[63]  One of these incidents was recounted by the respondent mother to Dr B and is included in Dr B’s affidavit at paragraph 8.  She stated that on one occasion, the father was irritated by the sound of one of the children crying and that he ‘punched [the respondent mother] whilst the baby was in her arms, blaming her for the child not settling.’[64]  The requesting parent did not respond to this allegation, perhaps because it was not evidence of the respondent.  I am satisfied, however, that the requesting parent has elsewhere denied assaulting the respondent.  

    [63] Affidavit of Respondent Mother, 10 September 2006, paragraph 11.

    [64] Affidavit of [Dr B], affirmed 7 September 2006, paragraph 8.

    l)The respondent mother deposed to another incident of violence against the children in March or April 2004, when the father drove the respondent mother to a dentist appointment and witnessed the children become distressed as they wanted to go with her.  The respondent mother stated that the father became angry with the younger child,  grabbed her by the hair and pushed her downwards in the car.  The respondent mother asserted that the father then told her that held the child down for the remainder of the car journey home.  The mother said that, upon examination of the child’s head, she ‘observed that a patch on [the younger daughter’s] head indicated that he had pulled a tuft of hair from her head.’[65]  The respondent mother noted that the father did not deny that he had caused the missing patch of hair and that he had commented that ‘it would “teach her a lesson”.’[66]  It is submitted that if returned, there is a grave risk that ‘they will be exposed to a continuum of that abuse’[67]. The requesting parent’s response[68] is that:-

    [65] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 12 (page5).

    [66] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 12 (page5).

    [67] Summary of Arguments of the Respondent Mother, 22 September 2006, paragraph 14.

    [68] Requesting parent’s declaration made 5 October 2006 (page 4)

    I never treated my children badly. The wanted to come with me and if at some cases I left without taking them, mostly the youngest one reacted very intensely. I do not know about the pulling hair matter but I do know that she pulled my oldest

    This is yet another factual dispute that I am unable to determine in the absence of the evidence being tested.  I am not prepared to disregard the requesting parent’s denial.  It follows that this allegation is not evidence which is supportive of the respondent’s objective for me to refuse to return the children to Greece. 

    m)The respondent mother deposed that she feared for her children’s safety.  She deposed to the father having rifles in the house and instructing the older child,  ‘how to hold it and how to shoot it’[69] when the child was only two-and-a-half years of age.  When the respondent mother objected to the father doing this, she was allegedly told to ‘shut up and leave me alone.’[70]  After what she described as ‘much abuse and manipulation’[71], the mother was able to lock the rifles in a cupboard in another, locked, room.  The requesting parent’s response was:-

    [69] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 13.

    [70] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 13.

    [71] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 13.

    I strongly disagree with what my wife says about keeping a gun in our house and that she – allegedly – is afraid for the safety of the children because of the gun. The gun in the house is an antique from my grandfather.  We have removed the trigger mechanism from the gun for further safety reasons. My wife is well aware of this fact but she does not say the truth.[72]

    [72] Requesting parent’s declaration made 5 October 2006 (page 4)

    I construe the requesting parent’s reference to removing the trigger mechanism as a further precaution to the precautions taken by the respondent of placing the rifle in a locked cupboard in a locked room.  I am not satisfied that either of the girls are a grave risk of harm in this context.

    n)The respondent mother alleges that the requesting parent did not understand the physical and emotional needs of the children and ‘appeared not to know their likes, dislikes or in fact, to really know them or show any real interest in them.’[73]  The respondent mother stated that the father would force the elder daughter to accompany him while he worked in the fields on the family farm, ‘even in 40c heat.’[74]  She stated that the child would develop ‘heat rash and sores and would cry from the discomfort’[75] and that the father ‘did not appear to consider her well being and would insist on taking her.’[76]  Further, the respondent mother contended that the elder daughter witnessed abuse when the mother attempted to prevent the father from taking the child into the fields.  The requesting parent denied the allegation.  He said:-

    [73] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 14.

    [74] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 14.

    [75] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 14.

    [76] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 14.

    In Greece the climate is Mediterranean. This means that never in the summer do we have 40 degrees Celsius. Only in Africa they have 40 degrees Celsius during summer. Moreover, no agricultural works are ever done by anyone when it is hot outside. They are done early in the morning or late in the afternoon because no one wishes to excruciate himself by walking in the fields when the sun is high. Besides the only thing I do in summer is to monitor the automatic irrigation system of my vineyards and olive trees, lasting 30 minutes per day, since the olive trees and the vineyards are irrigated automatically, and I do so three times per week.

    I categorically deny that I was taking my daughter [the elder child] in the fields against her will. My daughter insisted in coming with me since it gave her a chance for a stroll. Her mother did not allow her to go for strolls with her cousins, so [the elder daughter] greatly enjoyed coming with me for a stroll in the countryside because we were going to see little rabbits I have at the extremities of my property. I always wanted to have my children with me and not be closed in the four walls of the house all day without company. [The elder daughter] was happy and merry in out strolls lasting up to half an hour, only early in the morning or late in the afternoon.[77]

    o)The requesting parent’s response to the respondent’s allegation about taking the elder daughter out in the heat is just another example of the many disputed facts raised by the respondent which may be relevant to a parenting case but is neither relevant nor persuasive of any fact relevant to grave risk of harm under Regulation 16(3).  Again, I am not prepared to disregard the requesting parent’s denial. 

    p)The respondent mother also stated that on other occasions, the father had been unable to cope with the care of the children when she left them in his care, even for a short while.  She stated that ‘he would come to me 10 to 20 minutes later asking me to take [the children] as he could not handle them and could not get anything done, saying he has to shout and hit them.’[78] This allegation is relevant to a determination of where and with whom the children should live particularly if the welfare of the child(ren) is paramount. However, even if I were to accept it as being true, that fact is not a basis upon which the children could be said to be at grave risk of exposure to harm or likely to be placed in an intolerable situation within the meaning of Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Regulations or Article 13(a) of the Convention.

    q)Further, she stated that the father did not often wish to spend time with herself and the children and that ‘[e]ven on the one day out of seven when we were entitled to be absent from the restaurant business, he would elect to find other duties to that of attending to his wife and children…’[79]  Likewise, even if I were to accept it as being true, that fact is not a basis upon which the children could be said to be at grave risk of exposure to harm or likely to be placed in an intolerable situation within the meaning of Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Regulations or Article 13(a) of the Convention.

    r)The requesting parent spoke in a deprecating manner to the respondent mother whilst speaking on the phone to her in Australia and that he ‘acted manipulatively with the children’[80] by making derogatory comments about her to the children.  The respondent mother did not provide any details or specific evidence about the comments the father allegedly made about her to the children and whilst the allegation, appropriately elaborated, would be relevant evidence to be taken into account in reaching a decision on where and with whom the children should live, it does not approximate the harm or intolerable situation contemplated by Regulation 16(3)(b).

    s)The respondent mother also asserted that the requesting parent acted towards her in a derogatory manner in Greece, in particular, failing to stand up for her against his family.  She stated that she believed she had a good relationship with the father’s sisters and their families.  She denied avoiding the father’s parents because of the close proximity of their home to the tavern.  Dr B stated that the respondent mother told her that ‘[w]hilst she had a cordial relationship with her in-laws she was always made to feel like an outsider; her husband degraded her in front of them, and would not stand up for her when they also were negative towards her.’[81]  The respondent mother contended that she found the father’s mother ‘…intrusive and controlling but
    I endeavoured to respect her, to foster a harmonious family relationship. My husband […] directed me always to submit to her will and never challenged or cautioned his mother regarding her treatment of me.’[82]  
    I do not regard the respondent’s reservations and ill will toward her relatives by marriage to be relevant to any exception to mandatory return as provided for in the Regulations.

    t)The respondent mother asserted that the father told her that upon her return to Greece, she would ‘have to work on the farm, that [she] would not work as a hairdresser, which occupation he likened to work of prostitutes.’[83] The requesting parent denied this allegation.[84] 

    [77] Requesting parent’s declaration made 5 October 2006 (page 5)

    [78] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 14.

    [79] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 16 (page7-8).

    [80] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 20 (page9).

    [81] Affidavit of [Dr B], affirmed 7 September 2006, paragraph 7.

    [82] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 15.

    [83] Affidavit of the Respondent Mother, sworn 10 September 2006, paragraph 21 (page10).

    [84] Requesting parent’s declaration made 5 October 2006 (page 5)

  1. I construe the requesting parent’s response, extracted above at paragraph 147, as a denial that he acquiesced to the children being retained in Australia and/or consented to them remaining in Australia until the end of 2006. 

  2. I note that the requesting parent’s application to the Central Authority in Greece was made on 10 May 2006.  It has annexed to it various public documents obtained earlier than that, being school records dated 5 May 2006.  The requesting parent’s affidavit was sworn on 14 June 2006.  Thereafter, it appears that the requesting parent has responded to the mother’s case as and when called upon to do so.  This includes his own response by declaration made


    5 October 2006 and the 5 other witnesses statements which he obtained and which were made on either 25 September or 5 October 2006. 

  3. I queried why the respondent’s affidavit material about the telephone conversations in which she had, allegedly, been told that the children could stay in Australia until October 2006 and then until the end of 2006 was so vague, lacking as it does, references to dates or times.  Counsel for the respondent mother said that her client could not recall the dates because, at the time, she did not consider what the requesting parent said to be something she needed to record.  In essence, the respondent mother had no idea of how significant the two telephone conversations would become.  I am not able to accept or to reject the respondent’s evidence about the alleged telephone calls.  

  4. There is simply no cogent evidence upon which I can be satisfied, on a balance of probabilities, that the requesting parent consented or acquiesced as is alleged by the respondent mother.  On the evidence:-

    a)I am not satisfied that the requesting parent provided his consent for the respondent mother to remove the children from Greece for any longer than 19 or 29 January 2006;

    b)I am not satisfied that the requesting parent acquiesced to the retention of the children in Australia until October 2006 or the end of 2006 or any time later than the date on which the requesting parent anticipated their return prior to them leaving Greece.

  5. The evidence adduced in this case, does not come remotely close to satisfying me that the requesting parent has, in fact, gone along with the wrongful retention.  

  6. I am also satisfied that at no time since the children have arrived in Australia has the requesting parent acted in a way that would lead the respondent mother to believe that he would not insist on the return of the children to Greece.  

  7. It was suggested, but not submitted, by counsel for the respondent mother that, had I been satisfied that the husband had acquiesced to the wrongful retention to the alleged effect because the State Central Authority would not be able to rely on its application because the time by which the children were required to be returned, namely October 2006 or the end of 2006, post dated the issuance of the application on 24 July 2006.  I surmise that this was an argument formulated on behalf of the respondent mother in the context of the final hearing commencing on 2 October 2006 rather than on 15 January 2007.  In any event, the issue does not arise because I am not satisfied that the requesting parent ever agreed, in the appropriate sense, to the children remaining in Australia past January 2006.  

  8. I find that the respondent mother’s case under Regulation 16(3)(a)(ii) must fail.  

Exercise of discretion against mandatory return

  1. In the event that the respondent mother had made out either of the exception for which she contended, I would have had available to me a discretion whether or not to order the return the children to Greece.

  2. The applicant contended that if the discretion arose I should not exercise it.  The respondent contended that I should exercise it and thereby allow the two children to stay in Australia. 

  3. In the unreported decision of Kay J in State Central Authority and DB [2002] FamCA 804 delivered 24 September 2002, His Honour, in my view, correctly summarised the relevant law in relation to the exercise of the discretion to refuse an order for return as follows:-

    33. The existence of the Regulation 16(3) defence means that the Court may refuse to order the return of the child under the Convention.  This raises the question of the exercise of a discretion.  The Regulation offers no express terms as to how that discretion may be exercised. Brennan CJ, Dawson, Toohey, Gaudron, McHugh and Gummow JJ said in De L v Director-General, NSW Dept of Community Services (1996) 187 CLR 640; FLC 92-706; 20 Fam LR 390 at CLR 661; FLC 83,456; Fam LR 403:

    “if a child objects to being returned to the country of his or her habitual residence and has attained the age and degree of maturity spoken of in reg 16(3)(c), it remains for the judge hearing the application to exercise an independent discretion to determine whether or not an order should be made for the child's return. The Regulations are silent as to the matters to be taken into account in the exercise of that discretion and the ‘discretion is, therefore, unconfined except in so far as the subject matter and the scope and purpose of the [Regulations]’ enable it to be said that a particular consideration is extraneous [Water Conservation and Irrigation Commission (NSW) v Browning (1947) 74 CLR 492 at 505 per Dixon J]. That subject-matter is such that the welfare of the child is properly to be taken into consideration in exercising that discretion.”

    In TB v JB (formerly JH) [2000] EWCA Civ 337 Laws and Arden LJJ, Hale J dissenting, upheld an appeal from a decision of Singer J and ordered the return of children aged 14, 13 and 10½ to New Zealand in circumstances where the mother had brought the children to England seeking to escape from what she said was an abusive relationship with her second husband.  It was clear that the eldest child did not wish to return to New Zealand.  Hale LJ accepted and applied a list of factors suggested by Waite J (as he then was) in W v W (Child Abduction: Acquiescence) [1993] 2 FLR 211 and later adopted by him in the Court of Appeal in H v H (Abduction: Acquiescence) [1996] 2 FLR 570 at 574 which were:

    “(a)the comparative suitability of the forum to determine the child's future in the substantive proceedings;

    (b)the likely outcome (in whichever forum) of the substantive proceedings;

    (c)the consequences of the acquiescence;

    (d)he situation which would await the absconding parent and the child if compelled to return;

    (e)the anticipated emotional effect upon the child of an immediate return (a factor which is to be treated as significant but not paramount); and

    (f)the extent to which the purpose and underlying philosophy of the Hague Convention would be at risk of frustration if a return order were to be refused.”

    34.      Her Ladyship said:

    “56.   As to (f), the policy of the Hague Convention undoubtedly weighs heavily in respect of the children's objections. In my view, expressed in Re HB (Abduction: Children's Objections) [1997] 1 FLR 392, it weighs particularly heavily in those cases where children come to visit a parent living here and wish to remain: unless their objections are very cogent indeed, they should return to their primary carer for the dispute about a change in primary care to be settled in their home country. It weighs rather less heavily when the children wish to remain with their primary carer, particularly where, as here, the child has had no contact with the other parent for such a long time. … “

    35.      Arden LJ said of the exercise of discretion in the TB case that as the majority were sending the younger children back and that the mother would follow, notwithstanding the wishes of the elder child, the interests of the child dictated that she be forced back as well.

    “107 However K is entitled to separate exception under Article 13 by reason of the fact that she is able to express her wishes and objects to return. She is now fourteen and a half years old. … It is important that her wishes should be respected so far as possible but on the other hand since her brothers are to return, the court should consider whether it is right to respect those wishes in those circumstances. More importantly she is close to her brothers and her mother. She has been a source of strength to her mother in the past. Her mother says that at times she does not know how she could cope without K. In my judgment, the likelihood is that her mother will return to New Zealand with A and KI. In those circumstances, despite some dislocation in her education, it is in K's best interest to return also. In so concluding, I reach the same conclusion as Hale J (as she then was) reached on the facts of the case in Re: HB (Abduction: Children's Objections) [1997] l FLR 392, referred to with approval on appeal allowed on another point [1998] 1 FLR 422). Other factors include the fact that she has grown up in New Zealand and has the benefit of her mother's extended family there. Having considered those matters, in my view, in the exercise of discretion effect should not be given to K's wishes and she too should be ordered to return…”.

  4. In the recent decision of HZ v State Central Authority [2006] FamCA 466, the Full Court comprising Kay, Coleman and Warnick J. endorsed the above passage by Kay J in State Central Authority and DB as being appropriate approach to be taken on the issue of the exercise of discretion to refuse to return a child to its country of habitual residence.  In HZ v State Central Authority the Full Court were considering an appeal from my decision to return children then aged 8, 5 and 3 years to Greece after they had been consensually removed about a year earlier but then wrongfully retained.  Their Honours observed:-

    Her Honour identified the features that were appropriate to the exercise of discretion in this case, namely that the purpose and underlying philosophy of the Hague Convention would be at risk of frustration if a return order were to be refused, because her Honour identified the retention as “the most ‘blatant kind’”…Given that these were children who were born in Greece and had spent effectively the entirety of their life in Greece until the mother unilaterally determined to retain them in Australia, Greece was clearly the appropriate forum for issues relating to the welfare of these children to be determined. In those circumstances it was appropriate for her Honour to place significant weight on the first of the objects referred to in Article 1 of the Convention namely the prompt return of the children who had been wrongfully retained in Australia.

  5. In HZ v State Central Authority there was no suggestion that the respondent mother’s mental health precluded her return to Greece but, similar to this case, she had alleged that the father had perpetrated acts of violence and verbal and emotional abuse against her, had restricted her freedoms, that she would have little support or financial assistance in Greece and that the father had threatened her with harm upon her return, thus constituting a grave risk of psychological and physical harm or an intolerable situation for the child.  Differently from this case, I was satisfied at first instance, that some of the alleged violence, overly controlling behaviours and abuse had occurred.  The Full Court upheld the finding at first instance that the exceptions to the mandatory return of the child to Greece were not made out and affirmed that, had the exceptions been made out, it would have been inappropriate to exercise the resultant discretion to allow the children to remain in Australia.  

  6. In this case, neither party addressed the relevant considerations with much vigour but I will do the best I can on the evidence before me. 

  7. Comparative suitability of the forum to determine the child’s future in the substantive proceedings I have no doubt that Greece is as suitable as Australia in terms of judicial resources.  The mother and her family reside in Australia.  The mother says that she cannot go to Greece without her family.  If that remains the case and sufficient of her family members refuse to accompany her to Greece even for the purpose of proceedings, then she will have to participate from Australia.  I have not received any evidence to the effect that Greece has less capacity than our court in Australia to obtain evidence by way of video link or on commission and that would be from the respondent mother and at least her father.  On the other hand, the balance of witnesses relevant to the allegations of the respondent mother are in Greece, that is the father, his parents, his sister and the various persons from whom he has obtained evidence to date.  That number is likely to be expanded rather than contracted.  Taking the availability of witnesses into account, I am satisfied on balance that Greece is the more suitable forum to determine the children’s future than is Australia. 

  8. The likely outcome of the substantive proceedings.  This is not easy to answer and neither counsel before me attempted to do so.  I am confident that an outcome in either jurisdiction will follow on an examination of all relevant evidence which I am obviously in a position to assess at this stage.  In Australia the paramount consideration is the best interests of the children.  In Greece, from what I understand, the focus is also the interests of the child(ren).  I note that at page 31 of the annexures to the application filed on 24 July 2006, there is an extract of applicable law which includes the following:-

    Article 1511

    Every decision of the parents concerning the parental car’s exercise, must aim at the child’s interest.

    The court’s decision must also aim at the child’s interest, when, according to the law’s provisions, the court decides relatively to the placement of the parental care or to the mode of her exercise.  The court’s decision must also respect the equality between the parents and not make distinctions because of the sex, race, language, religion, political or other convictions, nationality, national or social origin or of the property.

    According to the child’s maturity, his opinion must be asked appreciated before each decision relevant to the parental care, provided that the decision concerns his interests.

  9. According to Greek law, custody of a person involves the following:-

    The custody of the person of the child mainly includes his / her upbringing, supervision, schooling and education as well as the determination of his / her place of residence.

    During the upbringing of the child, his / her parents support him / her, without any sex discriminations, to develop his / her personality responsibly and with social conscience.  Penitentiary measures can only be taken if they are pedagogically necessary and do not prejudice the child’s dignity.

    During the child’s schooling and vocational education, the parents take into account his / her abilities and personal aptitudes.  For this reason, they should cooperate with the school and, if there is such a need, request the assistance of competent state services or public organisations.

  10. I am unable to predict the outcome of proceedings in either jurisdiction without knowing what evidence is to be adduced and without having an opportunity to see it tested.  For the purpose of this exercise, I am satisfied that the outcome of the proceedings, wherever they are conducted, will be a determination arrived at with the children’s interests being a very real if not paramount consideration. 

  11. Consequences of acquiescence.  I am not satisfied that there has been any acquiescence on the part of the requesting parent. 

  12. The situation awaiting the respondent mother and children if they return.  There is no suggestion of any criminal charges or civil penalties which would await the respondent parent in the event of her return.  Seeing as it is not the respondent’s proposal to return to Greece come what may, I will not dwell of circumstances as they pertain to her.  

  13. I am satisfied that, the children, are returned to Greece, they will be cared for by the requesting parent and his family and enveloped in whatever warmth and love that family has to offer.  The girls’ material needs will be met but they will have no mother.  That is a harsh reality and, if I had been satisfied that the respondent mother’s mental illness was such that she is currently not in command of her own circumstances, this is a factor which would weigh heavily in favour of me exercising the discretion to permit the girls to stay.  However,


    I am not satisfied on the evidence that it is practically impossible or even highly undesirable for the respondent mother to return to Greece.  I repeatedly asked counsel for the mother to inform me of what the mother had done to make life better for herself in Greece and to prepare a path by which the children could be returned in her care although living entirely separately and part from the requesting parent.  The response was that she had done nothing because she was unable to contemplate returning to Greece.  Absent cogent evidence that the respondent was, at the time of the hearing before me, effectively precluded by psychological or psychiatric illness or by some other reason from returning to Greece, I regard the fact that the mother has done nothing to make her lot better to be indicative of trying to close off all options other than permitting her to stay in Melbourne. 

  14. The anticipated emotional effect upon the children of an immediate return

    .  


    I accept that the children will suffer emotionally by reason of being separated from the respondent mother who has been their primary carer.  They have not seen the requesting parent nor any member of their family in Greece since October 2005 when they were then aged 4 years and 2¾ years respectively.  They will be bewildered at the loss of their mother and not understanding about the loss of their Australian family members.  However, the alternative, may be that they are deprived of having a relationship with the requesting parent or from ever knowing their Greek family or their Greek way of life.  It is a comparison of matters which have very different qualities.  The known and familiar status quo against that which lies in the future.  I have no direct evidence as to the medium to long term effect of depriving the children of their primary carer at this stage in their lives.  I note that Dr B’s evidence, about the effect of the children being separated from the respondent, was expressed to be predicated on the history provided by the respondent mother being correct.  Whatever be the truth of the mater as between the requesting parent and the respondent, I accept that separation from the respondent and her family will be an emotional blow to the girls and will produce anxiety and sadness.  At the end of the day, however, I am not satisfied that this predicament was brought about by other than the wife’s actions in respect of which she has failed to satisfy me that she does not have control. 

  15. The extent to which the purpose and underlying philosophy of the Hague Convention would be frustrated is a return order were refused.  The child welfare issues raised in this case are matters which, in my view, are best dealt with by the courts in Greece.  It is not contended that the respondent will be unable to participate meaningfully in proceedings in Greece about with whom and where the children should reside.  However, if the respondent mother had persuaded me that she was precluded from returning to Greece because of mental illness or a dependency on her family (which she has not), this would be a factor in favour of me refusing to make an order for her to return. 

  16. I also consider the extent to which the underlying philosophy of the Convention has been compromised by the court process here.  The children left Greece in October 2005 and should have been back in Greece by February 2006.  The relevant application was not filed until 24 July 2006.  The respondent’s psychotic episode and her failure to comply with orders and directions for the filing of material were responsible for considerable delay and impeded the State Central Authority from gathering its evidence.  Then the State Central Authority obtained an adjournment of the final hearing which was then re-listed in mid-January 2007.  It was most unfortunate that the adjournment added another 4 months to the process.  Then the matter proceeded before me and there has been a regrettable delay in my delivery of this judgment. 

  1. The consensual removal of the children from Greece occurred 18 months ago.  The children have been wrongfully retained since, say, February 2006 and the wrongful retention has subsisted for more than 12 months.  In Re C (Abduction) [1999] 2 FLR, Thorpe LJ was critical of the delay in the determination of those proceedings in the following terms, at page 488:-

    Sadly this case is not an illustration of good practice.  The abduction took place on 9 June 1998.  The father’s application to the Cypriot central authority was made on 15 July 1998.  Good practice would have ensured the determination of the issue and an order for the return of B before the expiration of the long summer school holidays.  The trial did not take place until 6 months after the initiation of the proceedings.  The Cypriot central authority is responsible for 2 of those months.  But in a straightforward case with no evidence but the affidavits from the family the determination of the proceedings in this jurisdiction should not take 4 months.  At least we have completed the appellate review within 2 months.  The goal for which we should strive in this jurisdiction, both at first instance and on appeal, should be 6 weeks from initiation to conclusion.  It cannot be too strongly emphasised that this is intended to be a hot pursuit remedy and if the courts permit it to linger into anything else they aid the creation of unnecessary litigation issues.

  2. The comments of Thorpe LJ in relation to the convention being a hot pursuit remedy and the need to dispose of the matters as expediently as possible are as apt here as in England.

  3. Whilst the time lines in this case are far from admirable, I am satisfied that the delay, itself, has not thwarted the purpose of the Convention.  This has not ceased to be a case which should be examined by a court of competent jurisdiction, in Greece, as soon as possible.  This is not a case which should, because of the affluxion of time, rest with the respondent’s unilateral and wrongful retention of the children in Australia.

  4. Hypothetically and on other evidence, it may be that I would exercise a discretion to refuse an order returning the children to Greece. However, on my determination of the principal issues of grave risk of harm and acquiescence, no discretion is enlivened.  

  5. I found the case in some respects to be difficult but, in the final analysis, the difficulties which I perceived were around the presentation of the respondent’s case and not the substance of it.  On the evidence which was presented to me, the result of the girls being returned to Greece is not a result which is attended by doubt or disquiet on my part.  No doubt, if the respondent mother had better evidence to present, it would have been presented on her behalf.  Further, if she was unable to give those instructions herself, she had retained professionals to present a case for her.  At all relevant times she was represented by qualified practitioners whose task it was to advise her as forcefully as necessary.  Alternatively, if worst came to worst and they assessed the respondent as a person, who by reason of mental disability, was not able to understand the nature or possible consequences of the case or not capable of adequately conducting, or giving adequate instructions for the conduct of, the case, they could have made application (supported by appropriate evidence) for the appointment of a case guardian.  They did not do so. On the other hand, in the running of this case, the respondent mother instructed counsel appearing on her behalf to resist any order which would give the mother the opportunity to change her mind and follow the children to Greece[119].  I think that reflects a resolve and capacity to give instructions which is inconsistent with the respondent’s case that she is not in control of her own circumstances or unable to put in place any measures by which she would be able to continue to care for the children when they are returned (as they will be). 

    [119] Discussed at paragraph 60 of this judgment

  6. I will accede to the application of the State Central Authority.  I will hear from counsel as to the form of the orders whereby both children are to be returned to Greece.

I certify that the preceding one hundred and eighty (181) paragraphs are a true copy of the reasons for judgment of the Honourable Justice Bennett

Associate: 

Date:  23 March 2007

IT IS NOTED that this judgment for all publication and reporting purposes be referred to as SCA & SIGOURAS


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CaseChat Overview and Summary

In the Family Court of Australia, Justice Bennett considered an application by the State Central Authority seeking the return of two young daughters to Greece. The application was made on behalf of the children's father, Mr F, who resided in Greece. The respondent mother, Ms S, opposed the return, arguing that exceptions to the mandatory return provisions applied. The core dispute revolved around whether the children would face a grave risk of harm or an intolerable situation if returned to Greece, and whether the father had consented to or acquiesced in their retention in Australia.

The court was required to determine two primary legal issues: first, whether the respondent mother had established, on the balance of probabilities, that the return of the children to Greece would expose them to a grave risk of physical or psychological harm or otherwise place them in an intolerable situation, pursuant to Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Family Law (Child Abduction Convention) Regulations 1986. Second, the court had to consider whether the requesting parent had consented to or subsequently acquiesced in the wrongful retention of the children in Australia, as per Regulation 16(3)(a)(ii). If either of these exceptions were found to be made out, the court would then need to exercise its discretion regarding the children's return.

Justice Bennett found that the respondent mother had not discharged the onus of proving the grave risk exception. While acknowledging the emotional distress the children would experience upon separation from their mother, the court found insufficient evidence to establish a grave risk of harm or an intolerable situation in Greece. The court also found that the respondent mother had failed to prove that the requesting parent had consented to or acquiesced in the children's retention in Australia beyond the initially agreed period. Consequently, the court determined that the exceptions to mandatory return were not engaged.

The court ordered the return of the children to Greece within 14 days. Liberty was granted for parties to apply regarding the implementation of the order, and the matter was to be relisted if agreement on the return particulars could not be reached by a specified date. Exhibits were to be retained by the court for 30 days, subject to any appeal.

Orders

Orders of the court

1.

That I grant the application of the State Central Authority filed 24 July 2006 for the children the first daughter born in September 2001 and a second daughter born in January 2003 to be returned to Greece pursuant to Regulation 16(1) of the Family Law (Child Abduction Convention) Regulations 1986.

2.

That the return of the children be effected within 14 days.

3.

That the parties have liberty to apply on short notice in relation to implementation of this Order such application to be made by arrangement with my Associate and, in the event that the parties have been unable to agree on the particulars for the return by 12 noon on Tuesday 27 March 2007, the State Central Authority ensure that the matter is relisted.

4.

That any exhibits and documents produced on subpoena be retained by the Court for 30 days after which all such documents be returned to person tendering or requiring production of same unless an appeal is lodged.

FAMILY COURT OF AUSTRALIA AT MELBOURNE

FILE NUMBER: MLF 2256 of 2006

State Central Authority

Applicant

And

Ms Sigouras

Respondent

REASONS FOR JUDGMENT

Introduction

1.

This is an application by the State Central Authority filed on 24 July 2006 seeking the return to Greece of the children E[1] born in September 2001 and N born in January 2003 pursuant to the provisions of the Family Law (Child Abduction Convention) Regulations 1986 (“the Regulations”).

2.

The respondent is the mother of the children, Ms S. The requesting parent, at whose behest the application is made, is the children’s father, Mr F.

3.

It is conceded that no matters under Regulation 16(1) or (2) of the Regulations prevent the return of the children to Greece pursuant to the Regulations. However, the respondent mother submits that there are two exceptions to the mandatory return of the children to Greece which apply and make available to me, discretion to refuse to order the return of the children to Greece. First, the respondent contends that the return of the children to Greece would expose them to grave risk of physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the children in an intolerable situation[2]. Second, the respondent contends that the requesting parent acquiesced to the respondent retaining the children in Australia until the end of 2006[3].

4.

In the event that the respondent mother fails to make out one of the exceptions and the children are ordered to be returned to their home country, the respondent mother will not accompany her daughters back to Greece. The fact that the children will be separated from their mother is a component of the facts that I am asked to consider in the context of the grave risk exception under Regulation 16(3)(b).

5.

The elder daughter is now 5½ years old and the younger daughter has just turned 4 years old. The girls arrived in Australia in mid October 2005, then aged 4 years and 2¾ years respectively, and have been in the care of the respondent mother and her immediate family since that time. Prior to leaving Greece, the respondent mother was the primary carer of the girls. The requesting parent has not seen the girls since their departure from Greece in October 2005.

Evidence and findings of fact

6.

The applicant relied on the following documents:-

a) Form 2 Application filed 24 July 2006 which includes prescribed documents and an declaration of the requesting parent made 14 June 2006;

b) The affidavit of Ms J (the solicitor with conduct of the applicant’s case) sworn 24 July 2006 and the annexures.

c) The affidavit of Ms T(the solicitor with conduct of the applicant’s case) sworn 16 October 2006 and annexures including:-

i) The declaration of the requesting parent made 5 October 2006 (to which the respondent’s long letter of January 2006 is annexed);

ii) The declaration of Mr G made 5 October 2006, first cousin of the mother’s father;

iii) Sworn statement of Mr N made 25 September 2006, family friend of the husband;

iv) Sworn statement of Mr P made 25 September 2006 family friend of the husband;

v) Affidavit of Mr A made 25 September 2006, family friend of the husband;

vi) Sworn statement of Ms F made 25 September 2006, sister of the husband.

For ease of reference, I will refer to the annexures independently of the affidavit of Ms T.

7.

The numerous annexures to the affidavits of Ms J and Ms T are admissible pursuant to the evidentiary provisions of the Regulations which provide inter alia that the application, documents attached to or given in support of the application or request are admissible as evidence of the facts stated in that application, request or document (Regulation 29(2)).

8.

The respondent relied on the following documents:-

a) The Amended Response filed 21 September 2006;

b) The affidavit of the respondent mother sworn 10 September 2006;

c) The affidavit of Dr B (psychiatrist) affirmed 7 September 2006;

d) The affidavit of Mr S (the respondent mother’s father) filed 11 September 2006;

e) The affidavit of Mr JS (the respondent mother’s brother) filed 11 September 2006 and

f) The affidavit of Ms K (the respondent mother’s family friend) filed 11 September 2006.

9.

Additionally, there were exhibits tendered during the trial.

10.

Many facts asserted by one parent are disputed by the other parent, only some of which are actually relevant to exceptions to the mandatory return of the children to Greece. With the exception of the respondent mother’s father, the evidence of family members and friends, on both sides, did not take the issues any further than the evidence given by the requesting parent and the respondent mother. Accordingly, I will not discuss the content independently.

11.

Neither the respondent mother nor the requesting parent gave viva voce evidence. Save for cross examination of the wife’s expert psychiatrist, the matter proceeded on submissions.

12.

In Panayotides & Panayotides (1997) FLC 92-733 Fogarty and Baker JJ (with whom Finn J agreed) cited with approval the comments of Jordan J at first instance of the process upon which the Court needs to embark in hearing these matters. At 83,897 the Full Court identified and approved of the following observations of Jordan J:-

The first thing to observe is that there is much conflict in the evidence. These are summary proceedings and issues must be determined on the papers. This often presents the Court with difficulties. It would generally be inappropriate to absolutely reject the sworn testimony of a deponent (see, Re F (1992) 1 FLR 548). As was submitted by counsel for the Central Authority, I simply must do the best I can. I look to the versions of each of the parties, I find the common ground, and I note the areas of conflict. I can look to the inherent probabilities. Of course, when one is talking about the intent of parties, where this is a matter of some conjecture, one looks to the conduct of the parties, and any documentary or corroborative evidence which may help to determine that issue.

13.

The above observations echo the comments of Butler Sloss LJ (with whom the other members of the Court of Appeal agreed) in Re F[4], at page 553, as follows:-

“… the admission of oral evidence in Convention cases should be allowed sparingly.

If a judge is faced with irreconcilable affidavit evidence and no oral evidence is available or, as in this case, there was no application to call it, how does the judge resolve the disputed evidence? It may turn out not to be crucial to the decision, thus not requiring a determination. If the issue has to be faced on disputed non-oral evidence, the judge has to look to see if there is independent extraneous evidence in support of one side. That evidence has, in my judgment, to be compelling before the judge is entitled to reject the sworn testimony of a deponent. Alternatively, the evidence contained within the affidavit may in itself be inherently improbable and therefore so unreliable that the judge is entitled to reject it. If, however, there are no grounds for rejecting the written evidence on either side, the applicant will have failed to establish his case.

14.

Where I can or am required to make findings of fact, I make them on a balance of probabilities. Some allegations in these proceedings are very serious and some are unusual and some are both unusual and serious, such as the chopping block incident to which I will refer. In an English case involving a wardship application, Lord Nicholls discussed the relevant standard of proof to be applied in non-criminal proceedings, such as these proceedings. In

Re: H & Ors [5]

. His Lordship stated:

"[145]. Despite their special features, family proceedings remain essentially a form of civil proceedings. Family proceedings often raise various serious issues, but so do other forms of civil proceedings.

The balance of probability standard means that a court is satisfied an event occurred if the court considers that, on the evidence, the occurrence of the event is more likely than not. When assessing the probabilities the court will have in mind as a factor, to whatever extent is appropriate in the particular case, that the more serious the allegation the less likely it is that the event occurred and, hence, the stronger should be the evidence before the court concludes that the allegation is established on the balance of probability. Fraud is usually less likely than negligence. Deliberate physical injury is usually less likely than accidental physical injury. . . . Built into the preponderance of probability standard is a generous degree of flexibility in respect of the seriousness of the allegation.

Although the result is much the same, this does not mean that where a serious allegation is in issue the standard of proof required is higher. It means only that the inherent probability or improbability of an event is itself a matter to be taken into account when weighing the probabilities and deciding whether, on balance, the event occurred. The more improbable the event, the stronger must be the evidence that it did occur before, on the balance of probability, its occurrence will be established".

15.

I will proceed in the manner described in the cases of Panayotides and Re F. At the same time, I am mindful of the particular limitations placed upon the parties in Convention proceedings of this nature. They must often adduce evidence through governmental and official channels, in a different language and from a legal system structured and/or resourced differently from our own and do so within in a short time frame. As with many cases brought under the Convention, the evidence in this case is not comprehensive. Gaps in evidence which in domestic proceedings are routinely filled in oral evidence look like gaping holes in the evidence when we can only proceed only on the papers.

16.

Where I have made or go on to make statements of fact, they constitute findings of fact.

Background

17.

The requesting parent is 39 years old. The respondent mother is 36 years old. Both are of Greek origin. The requesting parent was born in Greece and the respondent was born in Melbourne, Australia, where her parents and her siblings continue to reside. The parties met in Greece, whilst the mother was holidaying there. There is some dispute as to when the parties first met. The requesting parent deposed in a translated affidavit filed 24 July 2006 that the parties met during 1990, whilst the respondent stated in her affidavit sworn

10 September 2006 that the parties met in 1995. Meanwhile, in her affidavit affirmed 7 September 2006, Dr B, psychologist noted that the parties had met in 1992.[6]. She does not specify where she obtained this information. It is not necessary for me to determine the conflict having regard to the actual issues in the case. It is sufficient for me to find that the parties met in Greece and were married some years later.

18.

This was the respondent mother’s second marriage. In the late 1980’s she had been married to another Greek man for a short time, about 9 months or so. The respondent left her first marriage and returned to her family of origin which, as I will discuss later on, is considered by the respondent’s expert psychiatrist to be significant in terms of the unusually high degree of support which that expert witness says the respondent mother requires from her family.

19.

Returning to this marriage, the requesting parent and the respondent married at the Registrar General’s Office in Melbourne in May 2000, with a further ceremony held according to the rites of the Eastern Orthodox Church in Greece in June 2001. The parties then moved into the father’s parents’ house in Greece with a shared and settled view to live in Greece permanently. They later moved into their own home next door to the father’s parents. It is alleged by the respondent mother, and not denied by the requesting parent, that living in close proximity with the requesting parent’s parents was originally said to be a short term arrangement. It will become apparent that it is an enormous disappointment to the wife that she and the requesting parent never established a home which was completely independent of her in-laws.

20.

The girls, E and N were born in Greece. They both have Greek citizenship. They are also citizens of Australia and have Australian passports.

21.

The father is in employment as a farmer, managing his family’s agricultural property, whilst the respondent mother undertook the role of homemaker and primary caregiver for the children. Some time after that, the parties established or assumed operation of a restaurant business. The father deposed that in the first year of operation, the set up of the business required that he work both on the family farm and in the restaurant. The respondent mother deposed that whilst she was registered as the owner of the restaurant, she had no effective control over the conduct of the business. She stated that the father and his parents attended to all aspects of the business including banking and the payment of accounts and that her role was limited to dishwashing, laundry and food preparation.

22.

In his affidavit, the father referred to the first few years of the marriage as ‘harmonic and tender.’[7] He stated that they took care of their children, who were ‘their happiness’[8] and that it was not until the respondent mother’s parents visited Greece on vacation that ‘[the] wife changed.’[9] The father asserted that around this time, the respondent mother began complaining about having to stay home to look after the children, that she stopped making an effort to adjust to her new environment in Greece, that she avoided meeting his parents and sisters and that she ‘interrupted all relations’[10] between the children and the father’s nephews and nieces. He stated that he tried to discuss the matter with her.

23.

The respondent mother paints a very different picture of the years of married life in Greece. In her affidavit, she describes several incidents of physical violence and oppression towards both her and the children by the father. This included forcefully holding one of the children down during a car ride, teaching one of the children how to hold a rifle and placing the respondent mother’s head on a chopping board, raising an axe in one hand and threatening to kill the respondent mother. She stated that the children were witness to this last incident. The respondent mother also asserts that the father had no real interest in the children, no knowledge of their likes or dislikes and no tolerance for their company. She states that she doubted whether the father considered the children to be ‘the most precious thing on earth’ based on the contentions that he reluctant to permit a medical examination of the elder daughter’s eye condition and because he did not ‘supply’[11] her or the children with any financial support whilst they were in Australia.

24.

The respondent mother denied avoiding the father’s parents and sisters. She stated that she believed that she and the children had a good relationship with the father’s family. She acknowledged that she did find the father’s mother to be ‘intrusive and controlling’[12] but that she attempted to overcome this, ‘to foster a harmonious family relationship.’[13] There appears to be some tension between the respondent’s characterisation of her relationship with her in laws as ‘good’ and part of a letter which she wrote to the husband in mid January 2006 which appears as an annexure to the requesting parent’s declaration made 5 October 2006 and, omitting words written in Greek of which no translation is provided, reads as follows[14]:-

I am not perfect as a person (nobody is perfect). I have my faults too.

I know that, and I admit to it at least. I have my faults as a person but at least I say that I have faults –

Your mother is nice but she has her [……].

She wants to know everything about everybody.

She will even try […..]. Whatever I do and what ever I say is always wrong in her eyes. Her way is always the right way. Why doesn’t she just leave me alone!! Let me do things the way I want to, things that make me happy. Why do I always have to make her happy in my own house. I don’t go into her house and take control and tell her what I like and what I don’t like. It’s her house so I let her be. Do you know how angry it makes me when I say “no” to her about something and I mean “no” and she keeps insisting otherwise. This doesn’t happen 1-2 times, it happens many times […….]. Because she is like that, I just try to avoid her, try not to talk and say much to her.

[…..]

She always trys (sic) to change the way I think, so it becomes the way she thinks. I am just so tired of it […..]. That you understand what I am trying to say. She is a very smart lady and she has a good talent in this area. You know your mother and I know you understand what I am trying to tell you. I love her, don’t get me wrong, she just always interferes and I can’t cope anymore. It is hard I know because we live next door to them, I understand because they are your parents and you love them, but by living next door to them has created a problem between us (you and me). Can you understand me? How it is just so hard and how it has become so [….].

She does the same to you. She trys (sic) to change the way you think many times with her [….] so you can see things the way she see’s (sic) it. I have seen it happen many times. She’s a very smart lady – she just has her way to getting what she wants without you even knowing she’s doing it to you. (She has that super talent). [……] (which is you). She just knows she has that hold on you because she has given birth to you and she knows you very well – all your weakness and she works on them. Do you know what’s sad? She thinks she’s perfect, has no faults, she’s right and everyone around is wrong and has a problem.

Your father is good too, but her is abit (sic) of an egoist.

25.

It seems to me that the respondent mother’s attitude to her in-laws is more accurately described as one of forbearance rather than ‘good’ but I will say more about the tone and purpose of the latter later in these reasons.

26.

It is common ground between the parties that in late 2005, the respondent mother’s parents visited Greece for the anniversary of her paternal grandmother’s death and were booked to return to Australia on 13 October 2005. Then, the respondent mother and the 2 children accompanied her parents back to Australia.

27.

The requesting parent stated that he requested that the respondent mother and the children remain with him in Greece for another year, until such a time as he could join them, but that the mother was ‘unmoved.’[15] He further stated that the respondent mother insisted on travelling with her parents, that he relented and that he ‘got them tickets’[16] to depart Greece in October 2005 and returning in January 2006. The respondent mother agreed that the father had requested her to delay the trip to Australia, but that she had indicated that it would be easier for her to travel with her parents, as they could assist with the management of the children during the long flight. She also deposed that the father had initially objected on the basis of a lack of funds, but that he had agreed to the trip after her parents offered to pay for the fares, including his own. She stated that the father did not travel with her and the children because he was ‘too busy’[17] at the time. Further, she contended that the father did not pay for her and the children’s tickets, as he deposed, but that her parents did. Attached to the respondent mother’s affidavit is a copy of a receipt dated 15 September 2005 for the sum of €3,170 (Exhibit “AS-3”). She stated that this was obtained from a travel agency in Crete by her father. She also stated that the return date for the tickets was late January, not mid January 2005, as the father stated. I accept that the requesting parent did not obtain tickets for the respondent and the children and that respondent’s family paid for the tickets. To the extent that his affidavit says otherwise, it is wrong.

28.

In her affidavit, the respondent mother stated that she did not leave Greece with the intention of not returning and that she had ‘in fact, left most of [her] personal items, jewellery and keepsakes there.’[18]

29.

Once in Australia, the respondent wrote a lengthy letter to the requesting parent. That is the letter from which I have taken the extract above. The letter is undated but a reference by the respondent to the fact that “It has been 3 months that we have been apart. The children and I have been missing you dearly[19]” indicates that the respondent wrote it in early to mid January 2006.

30.

The letter begins[20]:-

“To my dear, very loved husband and father of our children.

I hope my letter finds you in well health.

It has taken me 3 days to write you this letter. I don’t want to upset you with it. I would like you to read it carefully. Over and over if you want to. These are my feelings and things that upset me when I was living there. These things all played a role to make me feel that way to do today and not really wanting to return.”

31.

The letter concludes[21]:-

I think I have said all the major things I was feeling and which made me upset. I feel better now that I have said it all. I am hoping that you understand how I felt, to want, to bring me to this point that I am now.

You have a lot of thinking to do and a lot of big decisions to make […]

I just hope that you will make the right choice for you and for us.

Thank you for reading it as I know it was a very long, sad, and meaningful letter on my behalf. It has been a true confession from me.

I still love you very much.

32.

Parts of the balance of the letter, omitting text which is in Greek and for which no translation is provided, are as follows and I will number each paragraph for ease of reference:-

a) In the time I have been here [in Australia], it has given me time to relax from a lot of pressure I was feeling, it has given me time to sort out my deep feelings for you. To see things clearer with no stress. It has given me time to weigh up all the good things and the bad things. It has given me time to see a lot of the good things I had here before

I left and what I now have other there. I can see how much better the health system and the doctor’s are here compared to Greece. How nice the people are here, how much respect and love they show here compared to Greece. How much better the school system is compared to Greece. How many more opportunities there are here for our children and here compared to Greece. How much happier our children are here compared to how they were in Greece. These differences I see now that I have come back here. We have children now, where as before I left Australia I didn’t have, so I could not see all these things as I would have something to compare the difference. Our children how have smiles on their faces, they are happy, they have so may things to do and places to go to for the kids. Where as there our children didn’t do anything, didn’t go anywhere. They are just much better children now, a lot calmer, they listen a lot more, they are not so bored and the change has done them a lot of good..[22]

b) Even though I came here on a holiday, I can’t seem to enjoy myself as much as I would have liked to. It is because I have a lot of thoughts on my mind. You are always on my mind and in my thoughts – believe it or not: I love you […..]. You are my other 1/2 . I married you for ‘you’, because I loved and love you. It is with you that I want to spend the rest of my life with, it is with you I want to talk and communicate with, it is with you that I want to laugh and cry with, it is with you

I want to grow up our children with, it is with you I want to grow old with – you and only you my love.

c) You are probably thinking why I never showed you all these true feelings. I was always stuck in the house, closed up, growing up the kids alone, always I was tired too, depressed, not seeing you, no support from you, you had no time for me, you were always busy, tired, stressed with everything else yourself.

d) That is why we both drifted apart in so many ways. You had a busy work load and we just grew apart in so may ways. For you it was a little better cause you would leave, go into the fresh air and work, you had the rest of your family and friends around you always. As for me,

I had noone (sic) or anything, I was all alone and very sad – not even you were ever there for me. So I ask you – How did you want me to be? Happy? Smiling? Joking? Laughing?

e) How could I be? When I was just so empty of emotions on the inside? What ever I was getting (which was nothing) that is what I was giving (nothing). Your actions have made me be the way I am today.[23]

f) When I came to Greece, I had no friends, no nothing. All I had was just you. You were and are my everything (then and now). You were my support of life. You promised me the world and I believed in you. Where is you promise to love, honour, respect, support and care for me lately? How many other girls did you promise the same thing to before me? How many of them are there now? Just me I believed you and married you. I took the big jump with you and I followed you to Greece from the other side of the world. The other girls you used to chase before me. Don’t even want to look at you now. I was the one who made the biggest sacrifice in my life because I was ready for it and I followed you with all my love and I had trust in you. You not understanding me with this is because you have not sacrificed anything in return, everything is still the same for you there. Like it was before when you were not married.

g) We had our 2 beautiful girls together. When I had [our first daughter] I nearly died and so did our child. Do you remember that? Sometimes I wished I had of died then so that I wouldn’t be around now to live through all this heartache. I have had a lot of heartache in my life from a young age, which I have told you about the first time we met in 1993. That’s why I expected you to be a lot different now with me because I never hide anything from you from the start. I told you the trust (you know what I am talking about!) You just errased (sic) it all from your mind and from everyone. That was you mistake, not mine. I just expected a lot more support from you.

h) [….] you have never really been there for me or our children. You have been there for everyone else except us – in which we should be your No1 priority. Do you know how sad that is for me?

i) You don’t spend time with me – we don’t talk together, no communication, how am I supposed to feel – I ask myself this “where is my other ½ ?” You just shut me out of everything. You just close the door in my face and you don’t let me into your life.

j) You care more about your olives, grapes, animals, parents and sisters than what you care about the children and me. We seem to be last on you list. When I want to talk to you and I say something – it’s always, shut up – I’m tired, or you fall asleep (because you are so tired) or you can’t be bothered or you just don’t want to hear me.

k) That’s not good enough – I’m sorry.

l) You have to make the time for your family – we are your family, we are you future. That’s why we got married. I know that that’s why I got married! Why did you get married? Did you get married to say – that you got married and had children?

m) You have the also play your role of a husband and a father !!!! Getting married is not just working only and bringing money to your house. Marriage is being a loving, understanding husband and also a good father to our beautiful children.[24]

n) One other big change I saw when I came to Greece was that you are very close with your parent’s. That’s okay and good that you are because they are your parents. But you know something, when you get married, I know that you are supposed to brake away a little from them – because you have your won family when you marry. But you know something? I didn’t see that with you. If anything, you became closer and more attached to them. They, then became the 3rd person between us and we (your family) played the 2nd role in your life.[25]

o) You promised me that I would not work on the olives, but you know deep down that you would somehow want me to help you in the future. You have never said it to me but I can feel it.

p) You opened the tavern on an agreement with your parents to help you. As if you weren’t busy enough with your olives, animals, grapes and avocado to have to open the tavern as well. Now, because it is all too much for all of you to handle, you want me to work there too. I do enough help already with the tavern and growing up our 2 children on my own with no help for me to work more at the tavern, I also need help with the children so that I can give more but I don’t have that extra help, for me to give that extra help somewhere else. Did you ever ask yourself maybe, nobody asked me what I wanted and what I liked to do and what makes me happy?!! But, you and your parents just always thought I would agree with everything you all decide for me. Well I don’t agree, cause it’s what you want me to do and not what

I can do or what I really want to do. Nobody asks me or talks or talks to me about anything. You just asume (sic) that I will agree because you leave me no other choice. Then what ever that I do I don’t enjoy to do so. So how can I be happy?[26]

q) My life is hard enough being there with no family, no support, not knowing how to cook well, growing up 2 children on my own. To having everyone around me expecting me to be “like this” and to be “like that”. Expecting me to do “this” and to do “that”. In your eyes, you see me as if I’m not working, so that I am an […..], I am lazy, I am a bad person. I have to always agree with everyone and everything can’t I just be me, because it’s just me? I’m tired of making everyone else happy and me always being “unhappy”. I am tired of not talking when I feel I want to talk.

r) I am sick of agreeing with people when I just don’t agree and I’m not able to express myself. All this has made me very depressed, angry, sad and the person I am today.[27]

s) You were so different when you came on holidays and when I first met you. I noticed that you were more loving, understanding, supportive, caring, you adored me and I really felt loved and wanted. When we went to Greece (in 2000) you slowly started to change and become like everyone there in Greece. I noticed when you were away from your parents you were one person and when you were with them or around them, you would be another person why? Why? Why? Why have they got such a big influence on you. What are you scared of?

t) Are you scared of letting go?

u) Are you that insecure without them that you need them so much?

v) When someone marry’s, they need to stand on their own 2 feet and you may fall a few times but you learn by your mistakes and you become better, stronger and you prove to yourself 1st that you can do it on your own. Our parents are there for us, if we need them for support. If we have questions we need answers to from time to time. They should not be there all the time.[28]

w) I have gotten married (you and the children) come 1st and 2nd come my parents. But for you it seems your parents are still 1st and your family (wife and children come 2nd) where is the strength for you own family?[29]

x) I ask you again – what are you scared of [….]; it seems you are always scared if something when it comes to your parents. You don’t have top keep proving to them how good you are, how able you are, how organised you are, how much of a good person you are. You don’t need to have to prove anything to them because you are their son and they should know you well enough without you having to keep reminding them how good you are.

y) I know how good you are for me, that’s why I followed you so far away and I believe in you because ‘I love you’ and when you love someone you shouldn’t have to prove anything, you just need to love, respect and support the other person- that’s all I have asked for…….

z) So what are you scared of? Your sisters are not like that, my brother is not like that. What are you? I love your family, your sisters and families and your parents, but I just can’t go on anymore. I am so depressed that I have thought many times to end my life, and do you know what has stopped me? Our children have stopped me. Their beautiful faces, my love for them and just thinking how their […..] will live without me. That’s what stops me. That’s what stops me. That’s what gives me strenght (sic) to fight everything up till now, but I’m tired of fighting (sic) every day, I want to be calm and happy so that

I can make them calm and happy too…..

aa) I got married to have my own house, my own rules, my own space, my own family, my own program, my own life with my husband close to me. In Greece I don’t have my own house – it’s your parents. I don’t have my own rules – your parent’s interfere. I don’t have my own space – your parent’s are always there and so are your sister’s kids and so on and so on……

bb) Everyone is always there except for you – I have everyone there and everyday there is someone. When do I have some peace and quite (sic) on my own with my family and just my family?[30]

cc) If they knew that I was unhappy they would have been closer because they know that I have noone (sic) else there. But because they think

I am happy that’s why they are not so involved with me. Do you know what puts you down in everyone else’s eyes? I know you wont want to hear this or you wont want to accept this and that the truth sometimes will hurt you, because it hurts me too when I see it happen because

I am your wife. That person that puts you down is non (sic) other than your own father! How many times does he put you down in front of people? I bet he has been doing it to you all your life. If you do something different to his way – he puts you down because his way is always right – he is narrow minded. He doesn’t look left or right, he just looks straight ahead.[31]

dd) I married you [….] I didn’t marry your money, I didn’t marry your olives, tavern, grapes, goats (your fortune) I didn’t marry your family and my family. I married “you” like you married “me”. I am asking you for us (me and you) and our children. I am asking you for us to give it a try. I don’t give up easily and I hope you won’t give up on us either. We love and need you and need you now more than ever. To show us how strong [….] you really are. We must give it a try, us two together. Come here to try and see for yourself like I came their (sic) and tried in Greece. Be open minded and willing, like I was with you and I continue to am with you. We will find our health and happiness again as a whole family.

ee) Don’t think negative – start thinking positive.

ff) You used to tell me so many times that you wanted to pack your things and leave Greece. Do you remember those times? You know I am not lying? Now is your chance to do it for the sake of your own family and children. We need you more than your olives need you. We will all doe and they will still be there [….]. Don’t sell them I’m not asking you to do that. Find someone to work them ½ / ½ like many people have done. You will go to Greece when ever you want. I won’t be stopping you like you would have stopped me on returning back here.[32]

gg) Come for a holiday if you want so that you can relax a little bit from all your work there. Come and see for yourself and if I am wrong, then you can go back, I will understand. Please try to at least do something for yourself for once in your life without feeling guilty.[33]

33.

I am satisfied that by the time the respondent wrote the long letter to the requesting parent in January 2006, she had made up her mind not to return to Greece. All of the outcomes sought by the respondent involved the requesting parent travelling to Australia to join her and the children. That is consistent with the requesting parent’s description of the letter as “while accusing my parents and wider family at the end she asked me to leave everything behind and go and start a new life in Australia.[34]” I note that there is no mention in the long letter of the various allegations of serious physical and emotional abuse which the respondent subsequently alleged that she and the children suffered at the hands of the requesting parent (which I will detail later). Counsel for the respondent mother described the long letter as being an attempt at reconciliation. That is, the respondent’s endeavour to tell the requesting parent that she wanted to start afresh with him, in Australia.

34.

The respondent and children were booked on flights back to Greece in late January 2006. The father deposed that ‘[w]hen the arrival date came’[35] for the respondent mother and the children to return to Greece, she informed him that she wanted to stay in Australia so that their elder daughter could seek treatment for her eye condition, strabismus, from her treating doctor,

Dr W. The father stated that he was ‘greatly puzzled [as] the Ophthalmological Clinic of the University of Crete was one of the best in Europe’[36] and elder daughter’s condition could be treated in Greece. According to the father, the respondent mother insisted on remaining in Australia to continue treatment and stated that she would return at the end of February 2006. When that date also passed, the father was advised by the respondent mother that an operation was necessary and that she ‘trusted only the Australian doctors.’[37] The father stated that after many phone calls, the respondent mother told him that she did not intend to return to Greece and that she wished to stay in Australia with the children permanently.

35.

The respondent mother does not disagree with the father’s account regarding the events following the original return date of January 2006. She stated that she did not at any stage advise the father that she did not plan to return. She asserts that the reasons behind why she sought to continue the elder daughter’s treatment in Australia, rather than in Greece, were two-fold. First, she contended that she initially delayed the departure date of late January 2006 because Dr W had indicated to her that he required the time to observe the progress of the elder daughter’s condition after wearing prescribed spectacles. Second, she stated that she delayed subsequent departure dates because the father had denied that the child had any problem with her eye and she was therefore not confident that the father’s concern was genuine enough for him to seek treatment for his daughter in Greece. She therefore preferred to continue the child’s treatment with Dr W in Australia. The respondent mother does not address the assertion by the father that she told him that an operation was necessary for the child, and that he ‘forbid her to act in any way as far as the operation was concerned without [his] consent.’[38]

36.

The respondent mother denied telling the father that she would return at the end of February 2006. Further, she asserted that she had asked the father to come to Australia to meet with Dr W regarding the child’s condition, but that he had told her that he could not because of ‘some complaint involving assault charges made against him, preventing him from leaving the country before October.’[39]

37.

The requesting parent’s declaration indicates that the next development was “[in] the beginning of March 2006 during a phone conversation she told me to go to Australia if I wanted to see my children again. During that period and due to some documents addressed to me, I contacted the Child Support Agency Tasmania, and they mentioned that [the respondent mother] declared to CSA that on October 13th she left Greece because we were separated. Following that, I contacted the Australian Embassy in Athens and they in turn informed me about the international Hague Convention and gave me the name of an employee I should contact, in the Greek Ministry of Justice.[40]” None of the evidence adduced by or on behalf of the respondent in this case refutes the requesting parent’s allegations in this regard.

38.

The requesting parent signed an application to the appropriate authorities on

10 May 2006. The Hellenic Ministry of Justice, Athens, in its capacity as Central Authority for Greece, made a request of the Australian Central Authority to act on the father’s behalf for an order for the return of the children to Greece.

39.

The application now before the court was filed on 24 July 2006. As to the wrongful retention, it is alleged that[41]:-

i. After the scheduled return date of 19 January 2006 arrived, the respondent mother told the requesting father that they intended to stay in Australia until 14 February 2006 as the older daughter needed to see a specialist doctor in relation to a condition of Strabismus. The requesting father consented to the extended stay until 14 February 2006.

ii. When 14 February passed, the respondent mother told the requesting father that she and the children would not be returning to Greece.

iii. The children have been wrongfully retained and have remained in Melbourne with the respondent mother since their arrival in breach of the requesting father’s rights of custody.

iv. At no time has the requesting father consented to the children remaining in Australia.

40.

I note that the above extract from the application initiating proceedings is not a document sworn to by the requesting parent. It is a summary of the factual basis of the application which is drawn on behalf of the applicant, the State Central Authority. I also note that it is internally inconsistent.

41.

The application proceeded ex parte before Mushin J on 25 July 2006, and interim orders were made for the safe custody of the children, the delivery up of the children’s passports and the filing of documents and evidence in readiness for the trial. The mother would have been served with the proceedings shortly thereafter.

42.

On 7 August 2006 the matter came before me. Ms Greenham, solicitor, of Australian Government Solicitor’s Office appeared for the applicant State Central Authority. Mr Koutsoupias, solicitor, appeared for the respondent mother having filed a Notice of Address for Service on behalf of the respondent on 4 August 2006. On that day the interchange between counsel and the court was as follows:-

Her Honour: Where is [the respondent mother]?

Mr Koutsoupias: She is not present today.

Her Honour: Some reason for that?

Mr Koutsoupias: It was my understanding that she was not needed today. (indistinct) I spoke to my learned friend.

Her Honour: Ok, Alright well we will see. What is your client’s position in relation to the application?

Mr Koutsoupias: My Client in this point and time that the parties are in direct contact with each other. The husband being in Greece. She came here over last year specifically for eye treatment for the youngest.

Her Honour: She says, he doesn’t say that.

Mr Koutsoupias: Ok, and her ticket expires on the 4th of October this year.

Her Honour: Does it?

Mr Koutsoupias: Yes

Her Honour: So the return ticket that she was supposed to go back on in February it is now valid until the 4th of October, Is it? Can it be extended after the 4th of October?

Mr Koutsoupias: No it can’t.

Her Honour: It will be lost.

Mr Koutsoupias: That’s right it expires. Her instructions this morning were that she is going back. That they have reconciled more or less and that they will be giving it another chance the marriage and so forth. She does have concerns – at this stage it is more than likely it will resolve and she will be going back.

Her Honour: Ok, so is she going back next week? When have the Central Authority agreed that she can go back?

Mr Koutsoupias: I don’t have instructions in relation to when specifically she is going back but it will be by the 4th of October, pending ---- the finalisation of her doctors appointment

Her Honour: I don’t know why we would wait until the 4th of October

Mr Koutsoupias: For the eye treatment for the youngest child, she is currently seeing a specialist optometrist. She has an eye condition. I am not up to date with the - - - I received instructions last Thursday, I don’t have specifics in relation to that.

Her Honour: Alright let’s see what Ms Greenham says

43.

A final hearing date of 9 October 2006 was secured on the basis that it could be vacated in the event that the matter resolved and no hearing was necessary. The respondent was required to file her response and supporting evidence by 28 August 2006 and the applicant by 18 September 2006. The matter was adjourned for further mention before me to 17 August 2006 to see if, by that time, the parties had agreed on the specific flights to be taken by the respondent mother and the girls to travel back to Greece.

44.

On 17 August 2006, Ms Daly of counsel represented the respondent mother. The respondent did not attend court. Her counsel tendered a medical certificate to the effect that the respondent was acutely ill and unable to attend court for one month. I enlarged the time in which the respondent could file affidavit evidence to 11 September, required the applicant to respond by 27 September 2006. I vacated the hearing date of 9 October 2006 in favour of an earlier hearing of 2 October 2006 on the basis that the airline tickets which the respondent mother and children could use to return to Greece, expire on

4 October 2006. Finally, liberty was reserved to both parties “to have this matter listed before me for mention by arrangement with my Associate […] in the event that […] either party seeks the appointment of an independent children’s lawyer to be appointed in sufficient time to represent the interests of the children at the final hearing….” No party has ever sought the appointment of an independent children’s lawyer.

45.

The transcript of the proceedings on 17 August 2006 is Exhibit “M1” in these proceedings. It is apparent from the transcript that counsel for the respondent mother advised the court that the mother’s mental state had deteriorated markedly and that her instructing solicitor sought more time in which the respondent could give instructions relevant to the exception provided under Regulation 16(3)(b) (grave risk) to the mandatory return of children. My reasons for judgment are Exhibit “SCA1” and conclude with the following observations:-

[16]. Of course I do not question that the mother is distressed and that she may well be suffering from a mental illness or a psychiatric imbalance. However, the energies that she is devoting to the case here could also be directed to securing her position in Greece in terms of legal proceedings and rights as well as medical and psychiatric care.

[17]. There is certainly nothing which precludes the mother from instituting proceedings in Greece concurrently with these proceedings in Australia in the event that she wants to have some regulation of life in Greece in the event that the children are ordered to return in early October 2006.

46.

As at the date of the final hearing, the respondent mother had not taken any legal or other steps in Greece. As I will come to later, it was submitted on her behalf that she is unable to contemplate the possibility of her return to Greece and, therefore, she is unable to do anything in preparation for it, even in the context that she may not be successful with her primary position of retaining the children in Australia permanently.

47.

Between the hearings on 7 August and 17 August 2006 the respondent mother had suffered a psychotic episode. The respondent’s condition was described by a Dr R, a medical practitioner and psychiatric registrar with the Central East Crisis Assessment Treatment Team, in his affidavit sworn on 25 August 2006 as follows:-

[2]. [The mother] was referred to the C.A.T. Team on the 10th August, 2006. I assessed her at home with her parents on 11th August, 2006, in my role as C.E.C.A.T.T. Psychiatry Registrar.

[3]. The result of my assessment was a diagnosis of an acute psychosis with a working diagnosis of a Brief Reactive Psychosis, but also a wide differential diagnosis including other forms of psychosis.

[4]. [The mother’s] prognosis is that it is likely that she will respond to antipsychotic medication and make a full recovery. The time course for this is unpredictable but is likely to range between a month and six months or even longer.

[5]. On the basis of my assessment I concluded that [the mother] would be unfit to attend Court on 17th August, 2006 and unlikely to be fit to attend Court for one month.

[6]. This was based upon the extreme level of disorder present, particularly her grossly impaired and disorganised thinking, evident as an inability to marshal her thoughts or to shift them to a new topic, an inability to give clear answers, and her inability to make even simple decisions. This was accompanied by marked distress and fearfulness with emotional lability, delusions of surveillance, reference and persecution, abnormal auditory perceptions and impaired insight and judgement.

[7]. Until her mental state has improved substantially, [the mother] is not competent to appear in Court. In addition the stress of attempting to appear in Court is likely to exacerbate her condition and delay her recovery.

48.

On 29 August 2006 the respondent mother was assessed by Dr B pursuant to arrangements made by the mother’s solicitors. This was not treatment. The respondent was assessed individually for 90 minutes and then Dr B saw the mother’s brother for about 15 minutes.

49.

Before me, Dr B referred to the particular symptoms of the mother’s psychosis as a belief that the requesting parent was taping telephone conversations with her, thinking that television programs were in some way related to her and that she was under surveillance.[42]

50.

It was conceded on behalf of the respondent mother that her final decision to remain in Australia and to resist any application to return the girls to Greece was formed after service of the proceedings upon her in late July 2006 and, necessarily, after 7 August 2006 (when her solicitor informed that court that he was instructed that the mother and children would return to Greece). In the following passages of her affidavit sworn on 10 September 2006, the respondent mother deposes:-

[21]. [….] It was only after the husband’s verbal abuse and clear statements which he made to me that he would not change his ways towards me and the children, that he would not consider living separately for his parents, that I realised that our lives together in Greece would be intolerable and after he told me that he did not want me, I have decided that our marriage is failed. Accordingly, I do not consider an urgent return to Greece to be my priority. After much reflection, I have decided not to return to live there, at least for some years, and I could not subject my very young daughters to the risks to health and safety which I fear would occur were they obliged to live in Greece in my absence.

[…..]

[24]. That it was not until after I had been served with the papers pertaining to these proceedings that my husband, formally stated that he did not care about me, that his interest was coming to Australia to take the children back to Greece. I was deeply shocked and hurt by his blunt rejection of me and our marriage. My health has been adversely affected by the physical and emotional treatment of my husband towards me. Exhibited hereto and marked with the letters “AS-5” is a medical report of [Dr B].

51.

Dr B records the respondent mother’s resolve to stay in Australia in the following terms:-

[3]. [The mother] is currently living with her parents and two daughters in the parental home in Melbourne. This has been the case since arriving for a holiday in Australia, with her parents after returning with them after they had visited her in Greece. The fares for this trip, I was informed were paid for by her parents, with the acknowledgement and permission of her husband who didn’t wish to come. Her intention had been to return earlier, but this was delayed due to eye appointments for her elder child. Furthermore, she had increasing concern about her mental health were she to return and be subjected to the living conditions previously imposed upon her by her husband. Until her husband sought legal avenues to have the children return to Greece, her intention continued to be that she and the girls would return, but hopefully not to the same untenable circumstances which she had left. She had hoped until the service of these proceedings that her husband would come to Australia to holiday with them and seek to resolve their marital problems.

[4]. Since the proceedings have continued, her husband has become increasingly abusive and [the mother] has increasingly feared for the safety of herself and her children were she to return especially so after he has informed her that she is not wanted back there by him. She has become increasingly anxious and agitated and was diagnosed with a Brief Reactive Psychosis in the setting of extreme stress. This condition is now managed and stable but she continues to require medication to sleep and subdue her “racing” thoughts. She feels overwhelmed and sad, confused by the court case and at times unable to rationally consider all of its implications because of the degree of distress it causes her when contemplating possible negative outcomes. Whilst talking about that prospect she became very tearful, and clutched desperately at me seemingly wanting me to help her save her children from being extradited.

52.

Dr B had access to a copy of the requesting parent’s translated statement and Dr R’s affidavit regarding the respondent mother’s condition. In her affidavit affirmed 7 September 2006, Dr B stated that she agreed with

Dr Barnes’ diagnosis and that the mother’s condition was now managed and stable. I will deal later with Dr B’s evidence in the context of the alleged grave risk of harm to the children.

53.

The matter was mentioned before me on 15 September 2006 at which time the respondent mother had not filed a response which identified the exceptions to mandatory return upon which she relied and she was given further time to do so. It was also ordered that the respondent mother comply with any reasonable requests of the applicant State Central Authority for psychiatric assessment of herself to be completed by 4pm on Tuesday 26 September 2006. If the State Central Authority did retain its own expert, then that expert was to confer with the wife’s expert witness, Professor B, not later than 4pm on 29 September 2006. The applicant State Central Authority did not appoint its own expert to report on the respondent’s psychiatric health.

54.

The matter was listed for final hearing on 2 October 2006.

55.

The hearing on 2 October 2006 did not proceed because the State Central Authority said that it was waiting for some documents to be put in admissible form, in particular, English and it was hoped that they would be processed within 24 hours or less. It did not proceed on 3 October 2006, because the applicant State Central Authority still did not have a translated version of the requesting parent’s answering material. In fact, the applicant did not have the requesting parent’s responses at all. I note that the declaration was made, in Greece, on 5 October 2006. I accepted that the applicant’s case would be prejudiced if I forced them to proceed without giving it a further opportunity to adduce evidence in response to the then recent allegation of the respondent mother that, in about March or April 2006 the requesting parent had agreed that the respondent mother could retain the children in Australia until October and subsequently ‘until the end of the year.’

56.

I adjourned the matter to the earliest available date, 15 January 2007, which meant that there would be a delay of a further 4 months before the matter could be relisted – an unfavourable outcome in proceedings which the court is required to dispose of promptly and without delay.

57.

By an amended response filed on 21 September 2006, the respondent resists the application on 2 grounds. Those grounds are:-

a) There is a grave risk that the return of the children to Greece will expose them to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place them in an intolerable situation within the meaning of Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Regulations (Article 13(b) of the Convention); and

b) The requesting parent has consented to and acquiesced in the wrongful retention of the children in Australia within the meaning of Regulation16 (3)(a)(ii) of the Regulations (Article 13(a) of the Convention).

58.

As this was a case concerned solely with exceptions to mandatory return,

I made orders on 15 September 2006 that the respondent mother’s case proceed prior to the case of the applicant.

59.

As I have indicated, neither party made application for the appointment of an independent children’s lawyer. Also, the applicant State Central Authority did not appoint an expert to assess the mental health of the respondent mother although it made clear that it wanted to, and did, challenge the evidence of Dr B in cross examination.

60.

The respondent mother’s case in relation to grave risk of harm was prepared in terms of there being a grave risk of harm to the children or that the children would be placed in an intolerable situation in the event that she returned to Greece with them. It was not until the trial commenced that counsel for the respondent informed the court that, come what may, the mother would not return to Greece and, if I ordered that the children go back to Greece, they would have to go without her. Initially, counsel for the respondent mother agreed that, if I ordered the children be returned to Greece, I ought to provide to the respondent an option to change her mind within, say, 72 hours of my order to the effect that she could elect to accompany the children. On that basis, counsel for the mother adduced a considerable amount of extra viva voce evidence from Dr B as to what was likely to happen to the respondent if she returned to Greece with the children.

61.

By the second day of the hearing, Ms Smallwood advised me that the respondent mother had specifically instructed her that she would not return to Greece under any circumstances and opposed any option being extended to her to accommodate a change of heart.

Grave risk

62.

Regulation 16(3)(b) provides that a court may refuse to return a child to its home country if a person opposing return establishes that there is a grave risk that the return of the child under the Convention would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation. Practically, it mirrors the provisions of Article 13(b) of the Convention which provides:-

Notwithstanding the provisions of the preceding Article, the judicial or administrative authority of the requested State is not bound to order the return of the child if the person, institution or other body which opposes its return establishes that … there is a grave risk that his or her return would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation.

63.

The respondent mother bears the onus of proving, on a balance of probabilities, that the return of the children to Greece pursuant to the Regulations will expose the children (or any of them) to a grave risk of physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the children (or any of them) in an intolerable situation.

64.

The proper interpretation of Regulation 16(3) has been settled by the majority judgment of the High Court in the cases of DP v Commonwealth Central Authority; JLM v Director-General NSW Department of Community Services (2001) 206 CLR 401 where Gaudron, Gummow and Hayne JJ said:

“[40] So far as reg 16(3)(b) is concerned, the first task of the Family Court is to determine whether the evidence establishes that ‘there is a grave risk that [his or her] return … would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation’. If it does or if, on the evidence, one of the other conditions in reg 16 is satisfied, the discretion to refuse an order for return is enlivened. There may be many matters that bear upon the exercise of that discretion. In particular, there will be cases where, by moulding the conditions on which return may occur, the discretion will properly be exercised by making an order for return on those conditions, notwithstanding that a case of grave risk might otherwise have been established. Ensuring not only that there will be judicial proceedings in the country of return but also that there will be suitable interim arrangements for the child may loom large at this point in the inquiry. If that is to be done, however, care must be taken to ensure that the conditions are such as will be met voluntarily or, if not met voluntarily, can readily be enforced.

‘Narrow construction’?

[41] In the judgment of the Full Court of the Family Court which gives rise to the first of the matters now under consideration (DP v Commonwealth Central Authority) it was said that there is a ‘strong line of authority both within and out of Australia, that the reg 16(3)(b) and (d) exceptions are to be narrowly construed’. Exactly what is meant by saying that reg 16(3)(b) is to be narrowly construed is not self-evident. On its face reg 16(3)(b) presents no difficult question of construction and it is not ambiguous. The burden of proof is plainly imposed on the person who opposes return. What must be established is clearly identified: that there is a grave risk that the return of the child would expose the child to certain types of harm or otherwise place the child in ‘an intolerable situation’. That requires some prediction, based on the evidence, of what may happen if the child is returned. In a case where the person opposing return raises the exception, a court cannot avoid making that prediction by repeating that it is not for the courts of the country to which or in which a child has been removed or retained to inquire into the best interests of the child. The exception requires courts to make the kind of inquiry and prediction that will inevitably involve some consideration of the interests of the child.

[42] Necessarily there will seldom be any certainty about the prediction. It is essential, however, to observe that certainty is not required: what is required is persuasion that there is a risk which warrants the qualitative description ‘grave’. Leaving aside the reference to ‘intolerable situation’, and confining attention to harm, the risk that is relevant is not limited to harm that will actually occur, it extends to a risk that the return would expose the child to harm.

[43] Because what is to be established is a grave risk of exposure to future harm, it may well be true to say that a court will not be persuaded of that without some clear and compelling evidence. The bare assertion, by the person opposing return, of fears for the child may well not be sufficient to persuade the court that there is a real risk of exposure to harm.

[44] These considerations, however, do not warrant a conclusion that reg 16(3)(b) is to be given a ‘narrow’ rather than a ‘broad’ construction. There is, in these circumstances, no evident choice to be made between a ‘narrow’ and ‘broad’ construction of the regulation. If that is what is meant by saying that it is to be given a ‘narrow construction’ it must be rejected. The exception is to be given the meaning its words require.

[45] That is not to say, however, that reg 16(3)(b) will find frequent application. It is well-nigh inevitable that a child, taken from one country to another without the agreement of one parent, will suffer disruption, uncertainty and anxiety. That disruption, uncertainty and anxiety will recur, and may well be magnified, by having to return to the country of habitual residence. Regulation 16(3)(b) and Art 13(b) of the Convention intend to refer to more than this kind of result when they speak of a grave risk to the child of exposure to physical or psychological harm on return.”

65.

The respondent’s summary of argument[43] put her case as follows:-

In the alternative, the respondent seeks that the application for the return of the children to Greece be dismissed on the basis that there is a grave risk they will be exposed to psychological or physical harm, and subject to an intolerable situation. [……]

The respondent mother has filed an affidavit sworn by [Dr B], filed 11 September 2006, in which [Dr B] records the history taken from the wife, both as to her psychiatric history and her living circumstances in Greece during her marriage there. She notes the respondent mother has recently experienced a psychotic episode. [Dr B] concludes at paragraph 19 of that affidavit that were the wife forced to return to Greece, without her family support, which is the very foundation of her self esteem, she would be at significant risk of a further psychosis and would struggle to provide the care of her children in a setting of ongoing stress, abuse and depression.

It is submitted on behalf of the respondent mother that that (sic) [the] children are highly dependent upon her and would be exposed to a grave risk of psychological harm should they be separated from her. Any return of the children to Greece would therefore necessitate a return of the respondent mother with them, to protect them from negative effects of separation from her. Her return to Greece would lead to an intolerable situation for the children, given her vulnerable psychiatric state in those circumstances, as deposed by [Dr B]. [……].

It is submitted that whilst she would not be required to cohabit with the father, should she return to Greece, she would be placed in a situation where she has no personal support or available friends, no ability to obtain a job to financially support herself, and/or the children and no financial resources to live off in the meantime. The practical circumstances for herself and the children would result in an intolerable situation. The father has provided no financial support to the respondent since her departure, which departure was by consent, in late 2005.

66.

In the preparation of the respondent mother’s case, significant emphasis is placed by her and her family on the fact that the requesting parent did not provide financially for her and/or the children to come to, or since they have remained in, Australia. The respondent complains of the requesting parent’s “cruel hypocrisy, in the he expresses a love and concern for his children, if not myself, whilst knowing that he has not provided one dollar of financial support for me or his two small children since we left Greece in October 2005. Independently of the fact that we have received no financial support from him, he has also failed to make an endeavour wither by phone call, correspondence or even a small token or present to recognise our [younger daughter’s] birthday last January.”[44] The requesting parent responds as follows:-

My wife also accuses me that when she left from Greece I did not give her even one dollar. However, she knows that the money I made from my agricultural estate as well as some money from the tavern was placed in the bank in the beginning of summer 2005 for a better profit after an (sic) mutual agreement between us and she also knew that I owe 4.400 euros for the agricultural provisions and fertilizers. She also stated that she had some money from some occasional hair cuts she made and she did not need my support. I believe that when she left Greece she had 10,000 euros on her and as I discovered later on she had taken with her all family documents and papers for the christening of the children, of the civil and religious marriage, my passport and all jewelry (sic) in our house, even my christening cross.[45]

67.

I have extracted the above evidence because the requesting parent’s failure to provide financial support to the wife is a very strong theme in the respondent’s case, deposed to not only by her but by her other witnesses and the psychiatrist upon whose evidence she relies. The respondent’s expert psychiatrist referred to the lack of financial support from the requesting parent as a matter about which the respondent was ‘particularly distressed[46]’. I am confident that the respondent and her family of origin consider the requesting parent’s lack of financial assistance to be egregious conduct and humiliating of the respondent.

68.

On the first day of the hearing I queried the mother’s inability to support herself financially in light of a passing reference in the material to a residential property in Australia which was acquired prior to her marriage to the requesting parent. Finally, counsel for the respondent mother was able to inform me that her client is the sole registered proprietor of an unencumbered residential property at B. That property is tenanted and the rental, of approximately, $8,000 per annum was applied to repayment of a mortgage affecting the property until about August 2006 when the mortgage was repaid in full. The respondent mother owns the property unencumbered and, as at the date if hearing, had $8,000 standing to her credit in an account with National Australia Bank. I was informed that the respondent was unable to estimate the current market value of B property.

69.

I was informed that, apart from her house and savings, the mother has no other property or financial resources. I was informed that the reference in the evidence[47] to monies left to her by her paternal grandmother does not represent any interest relevant to the respondent. She says that she has previously accessed the account in Greece, but now recognises that those monies belong beneficially to her father. Counsel for the respondent mother said that the mother does not even know the current balance of the account.

70.

It is not possible to reconcile the respondent mother’s actual financial position with the contentions contained in her summary or argument. Particularly the contention extracted above that:-

[…] should she return to Greece, she would be placed in a situation where she has no personal support or available friends, no ability to obtain a job to financially support herself, and/or the children and no financial resources to live off in the meantime. The practical circumstances for herself and the children would result in an intolerable situation.

71.

It was submitted by counsel for the respondent mother that counsel, and not the mother, had been the author of the case outline document. I accept that is the case. It remains that respondent the mother is the sole owner of unencumbered real estate in Melbourne which can be liquidated and, whilst tenanted, produces an income of about $150 per week gross of expenses. The mother provided no information about expenses referrable to the property. Likewise, the mother provided no evidence about the cost of living in Greece. I am satisfied that the mother has a valuable asset which can be readily liquidated and that money does not constitute much difficulty as far as the mother is concerned. I am also satisfied that the mother has had the wherewithal to support herself and the children in Australia, if not through income then through a mixture of income tested pensions drawn by her in Australia and capital.

72.

The respondent mother personally deposes to the basis of her opposition to the return of her daughters to Greece in the following terms:-

[27]. That in opposing this application, I do so on the basis as hereinbefore described, specifically that my husband has attempted to mislead the Court to misrepresent my position, insofar as he has attempted to erroneously portray me as a scheming dishonest person. Conversely I submit he has chosen to put the interests of our children as secondary to his own concerns which I believe to be a false show of love for our children in order to demonstrate to his own family and/or his neighbours a concern for the welfare of our children. Such a hollow concern has in my respectful submission been contradicted by his failure to demonstrate a capacity to care adequately for their physical and emotional health and safety when they resided with him in Greece and furthermore, his failure to make any financial or emotional support for them and myself for a period of at least one (1) year since they came to Australia with his consent.

73.

What the mother describes above does not bring her within the grave risk of harm exception. I will proceed to determine whether the balance of the evidence does bring the children within the Regulation 16(3) exception to mandatory return.

74.

It was submitted on behalf of the respondent mother that there is a grave risk that the return of the children to Greece would expose the children to harm by virtue of them being returned to an environment in which they:-

▪ were personally subjected to abuse, for example, the alleged behaviour of the requesting parent to the younger daughter after delivering the respondent mother to the dentist;

▪ witnessed serious assaults being perpetrated on their mother by their father, for example the chopping board incident;

▪ would be likely to be abused by the requesting parent and/or his family in the future.

This argument is predicated on my accepting the respondent mother’s evidence about domestic violence perpetrated by the requesting parent against her and to the children. The evidence of the mother’s expert psychiatrist was tested in cross examination. However, the direct evidence about domestic violence, being that of the respondent mother and the requesting parent, is disputed and untested. I have not seen either give evidence. Their evidence conflicts in very many respects, which I will set out below.

75.

The respondent’s allegations about domestic violence and violence to or witnessed by the children appear in the affidavits sworn by her and her witnesses or as told to her expert psychiatric witness. What follows is my attempt to summarise the allegations of the respondent mother and the responses of the requesting parent.

a) The respondent mother alleges that she was frequently chastised by the requesting parent. She recounted several such incidents as occurring when she was ‘obliged by my husband, [the father], to give assistance in the business and order rely on a monitoring system downstairs for noise or disturbance upstairs to check on the welfare of my young children.’[48] When she went to the upstairs level of the tavern to check on the children. She stated that ‘[The father] would become angry with me for leaving the business on these occasions, he appeared to consider the work in the restaurant as a priority above my concern for the safety and welfare of our children.’[49] The response of the requesting parent was[50] that he worked hard to support the family “like the people who run businesses and have responsibilities do” and that the respondent’s work was not onerous. In particular, “I agree that my wife washed and ironed the table linen, but that was not always the case. I never forced her to leave the children and work in the tavern.”[51]

b) The respondent mother alleges that she and children were subject to isolating and controlling behaviour whilst living with the requesting parent in Greece. She contended that the father refused to allow the family to move into their own home, as initially ‘promised’[52] when the respondent mother first agreed to move in with the father’s parents. She deposed to the father telling her to, ‘forget about it’[53] and stating that they were simply ‘not going to move’.[54] The requesting parent responded by saying:-

“The house we lived is an independent apartment, with phones, independent power supply and central heating. The only thing in common with my parent’s apartment is the court yard. She [the respondent] should not forget that even when she lived with her grandmother in 1999 she was even then complaining.”[55]

c) The respondent mother deposed that after the birth of the elder daughter, the family ‘rarely went out, at most perhaps once every three (3) or four (4) months.’[56] Dr B stated that the respondent mother had told her that the father had prevented her from ‘taking the children to any child related activity, had no holidays, would not allow her to get any childcare, or allow her manual driving lessons, which meant she was totally isolated and dependent.’[57] Dr B deposed to the father’s control of the parties’ finances, recounting the respondent mother’s recollection that the father ‘[cut] her off from supports and any life beyond the four walls of their small home…’[58], that she had no knowledge of their financial circumstances and that the father did not give her money for herself or the children, even accompanying them to do the grocery shopping. The requesting parent did not specifically respond to the allegations of the respondent. However, the matters raised by the respondent relate to the functioning of the parents as a couple or an intact family. The allegations, if ultimately tested and accepted to be correct, may be the basis for the respondent ending the marriage, but they are not an appropriate basis for refusing to return the children to Greece.

d) The respondent mother alleges that she and children were not a high priority for the father. She deposed that it was after the time the respondent mother queried the possibility of the family moving into a house which was independent of the father’s parents, that she noted a change in the father’s attitude towards her and, she conceded, ‘to a lesser extent, to the children.’[59] She noted that the father’s concern appeared to be focussed on the interests of himself and his parents and that she and the children were being demoted to a lower priority as time went on. This is a further example of evidence which may be relevant to the issue of where and with whom it would be in the children’s best interests to live but it is not relevant to the exception provided by Regulation 16(3). It is not proposed that the respondent return to Greece to live with the requesting parent or at all.

e) The requesting parent was violent and emotionally abusive towards the respondent mother throughout the marriage in the presence of the children and, in one particular incident, allegedly forced the mother’s head onto a chopping board and threatened to kill her with an axe, only stopping when the elder daughter screamed for him not to kill her mother. As I said earlier in these reasons, with many cases brought under the Convention, the evidence in this case is not comprehensive. Gaps in evidence which in domestic proceedings are routinely filled in oral evidence look like gaping holes in the evidence when we proceed only on the papers. This allegation of the wife is an example of how I have to reconcile factual matters in the absence of oral evidence and cross examination. The respondent mother deposed as follows:-

[25]. In relation to my previous statement that my husband has abused me both verbally and physically, I cannot forget one occasion when our children were playing with my nieces and nephews after bedtime when my mother-in-law complained that they were “running in and out of the tavern, which was not a playground”. I then decided to take the children upstairs to sleep, when my husband grabbed me by the neck in a choking manner and marched me back into the tavern kitchen. He then placed my neck on the chopping board and had an axe in his hand threatening to kill me. His mother and my niece and nephew in addition to our children witnessed this incident and were traumatised by it. My eldest daughter was crying and screaming No! Daddy No1 Don’t kill our mother! He then stopped.

f) When the requesting parent’s responding statement became available, the respondent’s allegation was dealt with in the following manner[60]:-

[…]

Reply regarding paragraph 25 of the declaration under oath made by [the mother].

If those things mentioned by [the mother] in paragraph 25 were actually happening in a democratic country, such as Greece, she could have easily contacted the police and I would undergo enormous penalties by the law and now I would probably be even in prison.

g) Counsel for the respondent mother submitted that I should not regard the requesting parent’s response as being as being a denial of her client’s allegations. I agree that a reading of the balance of the requesting parent’s declaration makes it clear that elsewhere he was able to make blanket denials and specific denials. By way of corroboration of the mother’s allegation, her father deposes[61] that:-

[5]. [….] I was shocked on one occasion, when my little granddaughter [the elder child], without any prompting or encouragement or enticement, approached me and said “Grandad, my Dad tried to kill my mum”. I responded to her, somewhat dismissively that it wouldn’t have been so. When my little granddaughter persisted, I further asserted that it must have been a joke. Some time later, I raised with my daughter [the mother] the comment made to me by her daughter. She became distressed and did not want to talk about it. I did not discuss the matter with [the father].

h) I accept the submissions of counsel for the respondent mother to the extent that I will not construe the requesting parent’s response as a denial. This chopping board incident is the most serious act of physical violence alleged by the respondent mother against the requesting parent. The requesting parent’s response is consistent with him making a point that, if the respondent mother did not go to the police when it happened, then it is too late for her to complain about it now. Neither do I construe the response of the requesting parent to be an admission. Sure enough, if nothing in the nature of what the respondent alleges occurred, it would have been easy for the requesting parent to make an outright denial of the allegation. Framed as the requesting parent’s response is framed, however, I am not satisfied that the reason that he did not make an outright denial is because what the respondent mother deposed to was true. Elsewhere the requesting parent has said:-

The fact that I have never abused [the respondent mother] is proven by the declarations under oath of friends who have no interest and as a result they say only the truth.[62]

i) I am inclined to the view that something of the nature of the respondent’s complaint happened but I am not satisfied to the required standard that it occurred as deposed to by her or as reported to her father by the elder daughter. This difficulty in the evidence is what cross examination and oral evidence would elucidate. Without the benefit of cross examination, I am unable to find to what extent the respondent’s allegation is correct.

j) Even if I were satisfied to the appropriate standard that the requesting parent had acted as he is alleged to have acted, I would not regard this chopping board incident as necessarily constituting a grave risk of harm to the children given that the jurisdiction of the children’s habitual residence has a system of family law which provides legal protection for children. It is not suggested by the respondent that she will not participate in any proceedings in Greece, albeit such participation may be from Australia.

k) The respondent mother deposes that the father was ‘on many occasions initially verbally abusive towards me and ultimately subsequently, physically abusive to me and the children.’[63] One of these incidents was recounted by the respondent mother to Dr B and is included in Dr B’s affidavit at paragraph 8. She stated that on one occasion, the father was irritated by the sound of one of the children crying and that he ‘punched [the respondent mother] whilst the baby was in her arms, blaming her for the child not settling.’[64] The requesting parent did not respond to this allegation, perhaps because it was not evidence of the respondent. I am satisfied, however, that the requesting parent has elsewhere denied assaulting the respondent.

l) The respondent mother deposed to another incident of violence against the children in March or April 2004, when the father drove the respondent mother to a dentist appointment and witnessed the children become distressed as they wanted to go with her. The respondent mother stated that the father became angry with the younger child, grabbed her by the hair and pushed her downwards in the car. The respondent mother asserted that the father then told her that held the child down for the remainder of the car journey home. The mother said that, upon examination of the child’s head, she ‘observed that a patch on [the younger daughter’s] head indicated that he had pulled a tuft of hair from her head.’[65] The respondent mother noted that the father did not deny that he had caused the missing patch of hair and that he had commented that ‘it would “teach her a lesson”.’[66] It is submitted that if returned, there is a grave risk that ‘they will be exposed to a continuum of that abuse’[67]. The requesting parent’s response[68] is that:-

I never treated my children badly. The wanted to come with me and if at some cases I left without taking them, mostly the youngest one reacted very intensely. I do not know about the pulling hair matter but I do know that she pulled my oldest

This is yet another factual dispute that I am unable to determine in the absence of the evidence being tested. I am not prepared to disregard the requesting parent’s denial. It follows that this allegation is not evidence which is supportive of the respondent’s objective for me to refuse to return the children to Greece.

m) The respondent mother deposed that she feared for her children’s safety. She deposed to the father having rifles in the house and instructing the older child, ‘how to hold it and how to shoot it’[69] when the child was only two-and-a-half years of age. When the respondent mother objected to the father doing this, she was allegedly told to ‘shut up and leave me alone.’[70] After what she described as ‘much abuse and manipulation’[71], the mother was able to lock the rifles in a cupboard in another, locked, room. The requesting parent’s response was:-

I strongly disagree with what my wife says about keeping a gun in our house and that she – allegedly – is afraid for the safety of the children because of the gun. The gun in the house is an antique from my grandfather. We have removed the trigger mechanism from the gun for further safety reasons. My wife is well aware of this fact but she does not say the truth.[72]

I construe the requesting parent’s reference to removing the trigger mechanism as a further precaution to the precautions taken by the respondent of placing the rifle in a locked cupboard in a locked room. I am not satisfied that either of the girls are a grave risk of harm in this context.

n) The respondent mother alleges that the requesting parent did not understand the physical and emotional needs of the children and ‘appeared not to know their likes, dislikes or in fact, to really know them or show any real interest in them.’[73] The respondent mother stated that the father would force the elder daughter to accompany him while he worked in the fields on the family farm, ‘even in 40c heat.’[74] She stated that the child would develop ‘heat rash and sores and would cry from the discomfort’[75] and that the father ‘did not appear to consider her well being and would insist on taking her.’[76] Further, the respondent mother contended that the elder daughter witnessed abuse when the mother attempted to prevent the father from taking the child into the fields. The requesting parent denied the allegation. He said:-

In Greece the climate is Mediterranean. This means that never in the summer do we have 40 degrees Celsius. Only in Africa they have 40 degrees Celsius during summer. Moreover, no agricultural works are ever done by anyone when it is hot outside. They are done early in the morning or late in the afternoon because no one wishes to excruciate himself by walking in the fields when the sun is high. Besides the only thing I do in summer is to monitor the automatic irrigation system of my vineyards and olive trees, lasting 30 minutes per day, since the olive trees and the vineyards are irrigated automatically, and I do so three times per week.

I categorically deny that I was taking my daughter [the elder child] in the fields against her will. My daughter insisted in coming with me since it gave her a chance for a stroll. Her mother did not allow her to go for strolls with her cousins, so [the elder daughter] greatly enjoyed coming with me for a stroll in the countryside because we were going to see little rabbits I have at the extremities of my property. I always wanted to have my children with me and not be closed in the four walls of the house all day without company. [The elder daughter] was happy and merry in out strolls lasting up to half an hour, only early in the morning or late in the afternoon.[77]

o) The requesting parent’s response to the respondent’s allegation about taking the elder daughter out in the heat is just another example of the many disputed facts raised by the respondent which may be relevant to a parenting case but is neither relevant nor persuasive of any fact relevant to grave risk of harm under Regulation 16(3). Again, I am not prepared to disregard the requesting parent’s denial.

p) The respondent mother also stated that on other occasions, the father had been unable to cope with the care of the children when she left them in his care, even for a short while. She stated that ‘he would come to me 10 to 20 minutes later asking me to take [the children] as he could not handle them and could not get anything done, saying he has to shout and hit them.’[78] This allegation is relevant to a determination of where and with whom the children should live particularly if the welfare of the child(ren) is paramount. However, even if I were to accept it as being true, that fact is not a basis upon which the children could be said to be at grave risk of exposure to harm or likely to be placed in an intolerable situation within the meaning of Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Regulations or Article 13(a) of the Convention.

q) Further, she stated that the father did not often wish to spend time with herself and the children and that ‘[e]ven on the one day out of seven when we were entitled to be absent from the restaurant business, he would elect to find other duties to that of attending to his wife and children…’[79] Likewise, even if I were to accept it as being true, that fact is not a basis upon which the children could be said to be at grave risk of exposure to harm or likely to be placed in an intolerable situation within the meaning of Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Regulations or Article 13(a) of the Convention.

r) The requesting parent spoke in a deprecating manner to the respondent mother whilst speaking on the phone to her in Australia and that he ‘acted manipulatively with the children’[80] by making derogatory comments about her to the children. The respondent mother did not provide any details or specific evidence about the comments the father allegedly made about her to the children and whilst the allegation, appropriately elaborated, would be relevant evidence to be taken into account in reaching a decision on where and with whom the children should live, it does not approximate the harm or intolerable situation contemplated by Regulation 16(3)(b).

s) The respondent mother also asserted that the requesting parent acted towards her in a derogatory manner in Greece, in particular, failing to stand up for her against his family. She stated that she believed she had a good relationship with the father’s sisters and their families. She denied avoiding the father’s parents because of the close proximity of their home to the tavern. Dr B stated that the respondent mother told her that ‘[w]hilst she had a cordial relationship with her in-laws she was always made to feel like an outsider; her husband degraded her in front of them, and would not stand up for her when they also were negative towards her.’[81] The respondent mother contended that she found the father’s mother ‘…intrusive and controlling but

I endeavoured to respect her, to foster a harmonious family relationship. My husband […] directed me always to submit to her will and never challenged or cautioned his mother regarding her treatment of me.’[82] I do not regard the respondent’s reservations and ill will toward her relatives by marriage to be relevant to any exception to mandatory return as provided for in the Regulations.

t) The respondent mother asserted that the father told her that upon her return to Greece, she would ‘have to work on the farm, that [she] would not work as a hairdresser, which occupation he likened to work of prostitutes.’[83] The requesting parent denied this allegation.[84]

76.

The respondent mother also alleges that the emotional health of the children will be jeopardised by their return to Greece in view of the violent incidents which they witnessed in Greece and the trauma to which the children were exposed by the incidents. It is well recognised that exposure of children to domestic violence constitutes violence to them. However, in this case there is enough in dispute between the parents to warrant a hearing and determination of matters by the competent courts in the state of the girls’ habitual residence, Greece. Put another way, I am not satisfied that it is more likely than not that the abuse, cruelty or harsh behaviour alleged by the respondent mother, actually occurred.

77.

In her consultation with Dr B, the respondent mother stated that since being in Australia, she had observed that the children’s ‘development has accelerated, how open and friendly they have become compared to the nervous agitated children who were reticent and socially reserved in Greece.’[85] I accept that the matters complained of by the respondent mother are real concerns for her regarding what life was like for her and the children in Greece and how much happier she and the children are living in Melbourne. These are all matters which can and should be fully investigated by the Court which is to decide where and with whom the children should live. It is another matter entirely as to whether the respondent’s allegations are factual matters relevant to a grave risk of harm as envisaged in Regulation 16(3). I have already indicated above the allegations which would be relevant when deciding what orders are in the child’s best interests but which are not relevant to the operation of the exception provided for in Article 13(a).

78.

I have already commented that the long letter sent by the respondent mother to the requesting parent contained no details of complaints of past violent behaviour on the part of the requesting parent. I accept the submission on behalf of the respondent mother that the long letter which she wrote the requesting parent (extracted above at paragraph 32) was a letter designed to convince the requesting parent to come to Australia. It follows, though, that the respondent mother wanted reconciliation with the requesting parent. The dynamic of the respondent wanting to continue or rekindle a relationship with the requesting parent who, she subsequently alleges, had been physically and emotionally cruel to her and the children, is more than I can reconcile in my determination of this matter on the papers, without cross examination and an opportunity to observe all witnesses and in the face of denials by the requesting parent.

79.

In order for the respondent mother to make out the exception under Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Regulations (Article 13(b) of the Convention), it is necessary to establish that the risk of exposure to physical or psychological harm or the children being placed in an intolerable situation in the event of their return to Greece forthwith is not only very real but “grave”. I need to predict what will happen consequent upon the children being returned forthwith, without their mother. As I have said, I am not satisfied to the required standard of proof that these girls or the respondent have been subjected to violence or abuse.

I consider the allegations and counter allegations to have been cast but they are still untested. I am not satisfied, to the required standard of proof, that the children will be exposed to a grave risk of harm or otherwise be placed in an intolerable situation by virtue of the requesting parent having acted cruelly and violently and abusively.

80.

I am satisfied that, if returned to Greece, the girls will live in their father’s home and be cared for by him and his family, inevitably for the short term and then until a court in Greece decides otherwise. I do not include the respondent in the equation because she has excluded any possibility of herself returning to Greece with the girls. If the respondent wishes to pursue, by legitimate means, the relocation of the girls back to Australia in her primary care, she can institute and/or participate in those proceedings in the courts in Greece albeit from Australia. Counsel for the respondent asked about the respondent’s likely ability to participate from Australia in legal proceedings in Greece to which the doctor replied:-

Because they are stressful that's going to be an ongoing stress for her, but it's obviously something she's going to want to do. The thing that impacts most is the psychosis and in a sense because I don't think she has schizophrenia, the anti‑psychotic medications are likely to manage that reasonably enough, but she's certainly likely to be significantly depressed throughout all of those proceedings.

81.

There is no suggestion that the respondent will not be able to participate meaningfully in proceedings in Greece notwithstanding that she will have to do so from Australia. As indicated, I am satisfied that she has the financial wherewithal to conduct litigation in Greece and in Australia. This is a very different case from a primary carer who is impeded or prohibited by the law of the requesting state or genuinely precluded by personal circumstances from returning to the requesting state and whose parenting case cannot be prosecuted in her absence. No evidence was presented nor any submissions made on behalf of the respondent mother, to the effect that her personal absence from Greece during proceedings precluded a procedurally fair determination of parenting issues in Greece[86].

82.

I turn now to consider the grave risk of harm or intolerable situation to the girls arising out of the fact that the mother will not be accompanying the girls back to Greece.

83.

I accept that the respondent mother will not return to Greece. Therefore, I will consider the effect on the children being separated from the respondent mother. I will also consider whether the refusal of the respondent mother to return to Greece is voluntary or is a matter outside her control. Dr B expressed the following opinion on the deleterious effect on the children of returning to Greece without their mother[87]:-

From this history, particularly given that she has been the sole carer, separation from her would cause significant psychological damage to the children, with the risk of ongoing psychological and physical damage from a harsh and emotionally unavailable abusive parent.

And she further opines, as if on the same topic:-

Even if the children were shared between them on a regular basis (ie parents living separately) this would only be feasible if [the mother] was in Australia with the support base that ensures her stability and good functioning that would allow her to deal with the abuse that might result on handover days or times of conflict concerning issues of importance to the children’s welfare and development.

84.

Dr B was not cross examined on her opinion that the children would (as opposed to may) suffer significant psychological damage if returned to Greece and to the care of the requesting parent, without the respondent. I accept that the mother has always been the primary carer of the children and that, since October 2005, the requesting parent has played no part in their day to day care at all. I assume that the respondent mother has been assisted by her family of origin in Melbourne but, as between the respondent mother and the requesting parent, the respondent has cared for the girls exclusively since October 2005. That is, for the last 18 months and since the elder daughter was 4 years old and the younger daughter was 2¾ years old.

85.

Contrary to the submissions of counsel for the State Central Authority, I do not accept that the girls’ loss of their mother will be of a transitory period. I do accept that the effects may not be permanent. I am mindful that, the loss of their mother will come at the gain of a relationship with their father, something of which they have been presently deprived. Ultimately, the issue of grave risk must be a question for me to determine assessing the evidence as best I can. The question of gravity of the relevant risks is also a matter for determination by me, taking into account of course evidence before it on the issue.

86.

There is an established line of authority against refusing to return a child merely because the parent, who wrongfully removed or retained the child out of the country of the child’s habitual residence in the first place, refuses to return.

87.

In Re C (A Minor)(Abduction), the Court of Appeal comprising Lord Donaldson MR, Neill and Butler-Sloss LJJ allowed an appeal against a decision of Latey J to refuse to return a 6 year old Australian boy to Australia on the basis that his English born mother, for emotional reasons not fully expressed, refused to return to Australia. In the frequently referred to passage by Butler-Sloss LJ it was said[88]:-

The grave risk of harm arises not from the return of the child, but the refusal of the mother to accompany him. The Convention does not require the court in this country to consider the welfare of the child as paramount, but only to be satisfied as to grave risk of harm. I am not satisfied that the [Australian] child would be placed in an intolerable situation, if the mother refused to go back. In weighing up the various factors, I must place in the balance and as of the greatest importance the effect of the court refusing the application under the Convention because of the refusal of the mother to return for her own reasons, not for the sake of the child. Is a parent to create the psychological situation, and then rely upon it? If the grave risk of psychological harm to a child is to be inflicted by the conduct of the parents who abducted him, then it would be relied upon by every mother of a young child removed who removed him out of the jurisdiction and refused to return. It would drive a coach and four through the Convention, at least in respect of applications relating to young children. I, for my part, cannot believe that it is in the interests of international relations, Nor should the mother, by her own actions, succeed in preventing the return of a child who should be living in his own country and deny him contact with his other parent. As Balcombe LJ said in Re E (a Minor)(Abduction)[1989] 1 FLR 135, 142:-

”…….the whole purpose of the Convention is … to ensure that parties do not gain adventitious advantage by either removing a child wrongfully from a country of its usual residence, or having taken the child, with the agreement of the other party who has custodial rights, to another jurisdiction, then wrongfully to retain that child.”

88.

Also in Re C Lord Donaldson MR said:-

We also had to consider Art 13, with its reference to “psychological harm”. I would only add that in a situation in which it is necessary to consider operating the machinery of the Convention, some psychological harm to the child is inherent, whether the child is or is not returned. This is, I think, recognized by the words “or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation” which cast considerable light on the severe degree of psychological harm which the Convention has in mind. It will be the concern of the court of the State to which the child is to be returned to minimize or eliminate this harm and, in the absence of compelling evidence to the contrary or evidence that it is beyond the powers of those courts in the circumstances of the case, the courts of this country should assume that this will be done. Save in an exceptional case, our concern, ie the concern of these courts, should be limited to giving the child the maximum possible protection until the courts of the other country, Australia in this case, can resume their normal role in relation to the child.

89.

In the later case of Re C (Abduction: Grave Risk of Physical or Psychological Harm[89]) the Court of Appeal, there comprising Butler-Sloss, Thorpe and Mummery LJJ., considered the predicament of a 6 year old boy whose mother said that she could not leave England in the event that her son was returned to Cyprus. At first instance, Hogg J. found that the boy was wrongfully removed from Cyprus but that, if returned to Cyprus, he would be placed in an intolerable situation under Article 13(b) due to the potential splitting of his family. In the exercise of her discretion, Hogg J. refused the application for return.

That decision was overturned on appeal in the course of which

Thorpe LJ commented:

‘In many cases, a balanced analysis of the assertion that an order for return would expose the child to the risk of grave psychological harm leads to the conclusion that the respondent is in reality relying upon her own wrongdoing in order to build up the statutory defence. In testing the validity of an Art 13(b) defence, trial judges should usefully ask themselves what were the intolerable features of the child’s family life immediately prior to the wrongful abduction. If the answer be scant or non-existent then the circumstances in which the Art 13(b) defence would be upheld are difficult to hypothesise. In my opinion Art 13(b) is given its proper construction if ordinarily confined to meet the case where the mother’s motivation for flight is to remove the children from a family situation that is damaging the child’s development.’

90.

Thorpe LJ also made some comments about the timeliness with which these cases should be disposed of, which I will refer to later. It is clear that their Lordships were concerned to extract a number of undertakings from the left behind parent which would be condition precedents to the return of the 6 year old to Cyprus. Unfortunately, the report is silent on the extent of the undertakings and whether they were forthcoming.

91.

Apart from the various complaints that the mother has deposed to herself, it is submitted on her behalf that the reason that she cannot return to Greece is because she has a vulnerable personality and would be unable to cope without the support of all of her immediate family members. In spite of her expressed wish not to return, it is said on her behalf that, by reason of her psychological or psychiatric functioning, she is unable to leave her family of origin in Australia. That is, she is precluded from returning to Greece for reasons outside her control.

92.

In the unreported decision delivered on 16 March 2000 in the matter of

The Director General, Department of Families, Youth and Community Care and Bennett

(Appeal No NA 4 of 2000) the Full Court of the Family Court, comprising Kay, Coleman and Barlow JJ, heard argument on whether, in the context of a non-returning abductor, the exception of grave risk of harm or intolerability ought to be confined to situations where the inability of an abductor to return to the state of habitual residence (to participate in legal proceedings) was brought about by the laws of the requesting state rather than by personal circumstances of the abductor, such as mental illness. Their Honours commented:-

47. […] where a very young baby was wrongfully removed or retained in circumstances that would otherwise lead to its return being ordered, if it was being breast-fed by its "abducting" mother and her personal circumstances genuinely precluded her return with the child (eg. her medical condition or perhaps even her incarceration), then the Reg 16(3)(b) exception might be made out. In Re G (Abduction: Psychological Harm) [1995] 1 FLR 64 Ewbank J declined to order the return of a child to the USA when the evidence demonstrated that a forced return of the mother (who would not part from the three very young children) carried with it a likelihood that she might become psychotic, and that such a serious deterioration in her health would adversely affect the children.

93.

Turning to Re G (Abduction: Psychological Harm) [1995] 1 FLR 64. This was a case where Ewbank J twice determined the case of a respondent mother who asserted that the return of 3 children, being a 3 year old and 1 year old twins, would expose the children to risk of physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the children in an intolerable situation. The mother’s case was that her mental state was likely to deteriorate in the event that she returned to Texas with the children. Ewbank J subsequently described the first hearing in the following terms[90]:-

[….] It was conceded that the retention of the children in England was wrongful under the Hague Convention. It was the mother’s case, however, that a return would expose the children to physical or psychological harm or place them in an intolerable position. She produced evidence from her doctor, who said that he found that there had been a deterioration in the time she had been in England. She was preoccupied by the thought of litigation and disruptive effects on her family and he thought that she had the biological signs of depression – namely, poor sleep, poor concentration, poor appetite, variable bowel habit, and early and frequent waking. She saw Dr Caplan, who is a consultant child psychiatrist, at University College Hospital. He took the view that the mother was suffering from moderately severe reactive depression and he said in his report that if the mother were forced to return to the USA, her depression would be severely exacerbated.

I said in my judgment that the mother herself had caused the situation which now existed and although I did not doubt the view that the mother was suffering from a reactive depression, I thought that she was unable to establish that the children would suffer harm if they had to return to the matrimonial home in Texas under the conditions that were being offered at that time. Therefore I made an order under the Hague Convention that the children should return to Texas.

The mother appealed. In the course of the appeal, she obtained leave to adduce fresh evidence of her psychiatric state as at the date of the appeal.

94.

On the re-hearing, Ewbank J recorded the evidence of the mother’s expert witness as follows[91] :-

Dr Caplan reported that he was of the view that the mother was suffering from a moderately severe reactive depression, slightly worse than he had seen before, but nothing like as bad as Professor Cawley reported. He said that Professor Cawley had found her to be in considerable danger of becoming psychotic and that he agreed with that view. Dr Caplan said that he was incomplete agreement with Professor Cawley that should the mother be forced to return to Texas, there was not only a risk but the likelihood that she would become psychotic. Professor Cawley did not say that. What he actually said was that in his view there was a considerable danger of her becoming psychotic, but the difference in my view is insignificant. Dr Caplan stood by his view that there was a likelihood that she might become psychotic. By that he meant that the condition would become more severe and that the balance of her mind might be affected; it might be that she would be unable to look after the children. Dr Caplan takes the view that the exposure to seriously stressful situations and the removal of the support given by her family might cause a progression from the depression she suffers into a psychotic state. He thought that the closer and stronger the prospect, the worse she might become.

95.

Ewbank J held that the Article 13(b) exception was made out and exercised his discretion to refuse to return the children to the United States. His Honour said:-

Having heard Dr Caplan and Dr Isaacs, I have to say that I find the evidence Dr Caplan more convincing than that of Dr Isaacs. One is always concerned in a case of this court as to what extent the court is being manipulated by a litigant who is determined to get her own way and will use whatever manoeuvres are available to try to force the court into a particular form of action. If I thought for a moment that that was this case, I would not, of course, pay any attention to the evidence that I received from the litigant in question, but I have to say that having seen and heard the mother and seen and heard Dr Caplan, I am satisfied that this is a case where Art 13 does apply and that I am not bound to send these children back to the USA, and taking into account all the circumstances of the case, I do not propose to make an order that these children should go back to the USA. In my view, the effect of an order returning the children to the USA would be that there would be a serious deterioration in the mother’s condition and the children would affected accordingly.

96.

I note as apt the comments of Ewbank J about the difficulty that a court faces in assessing the case of litigants who, on one side, may be in a position to shape evidence to achieve their desired result as opposed to the other party whose role is, relatively speaking, more like a passenger or bystander. His Honour’s comments have equal relevance in this jurisdiction. I also note that the relevant experts assessed the mother on 27 April 1994 and on 3 May 1994. It is apparent from Ewbank J’s reasons for judgment that he expected that the case would have been determined in May rather than in July 1994.

97.

In the High Court decision JLM v NSW Department of Community Services (2001) FLC 93-081 the majority judgment of Gaudron, Gummow and Hayne JJ (with Callinan J agreeing on this point and Kirby J dissenting), made clear that findings of psychiatric or physical disintegration of an abductor in the event of children being returned to their state of habitual residence can be sufficient to engage Regulation 16(3) and enliven a discretion not to return the children. The majority judgment recites that at first instance Rose J, who conducted the hearing on affidavit evidence and without cross examination, had found the psychiatric evidence of the mother to be:-

“unchallenged”, “detailed”, “compelling” and “persuasive” [and that Rose J.] had evidence, which he accepted, from a friend of the mother who had had several years experience in the mental health filed who expressed the opinion that “suicide is a real risk if [the child] is returned to Mexico[92]

98.

In JLM v NSW Department of Community Services it was an undisputed fact that the mother’s suicide would cause great psychological harm to the child[93]. Of the fact that the risk of psychological harm emanated from the mother who had wrongfully retained the 3 year old child in Australia in the first place, Their Honours said:-

To say that she is the originator of the source of the risk of harm appears to take no account of the fact that the mother is not in command of her situation and it betrays a complete lack of any understanding of the major depressive illness from which she suffers.

99.

In Director-General, Department of Human Services and RSP (2003) FLC 93-152, the Full Court of the Family Court, comprising Ellis, Finn and May JJ, upheld a decision of Warnick J. At first instance, Warnick J dismissed an application for an order that a 2 year old girl, who had been wrongfully removed by the mother in Australia, be returned to the United States of America.

100.

Warnick J did not accept that the mother could not return to the United States. He did not accept the contention that the father and/or the father’s family could not adequately care for the child. In relation to separation of the children from the mother, His Honour found:-

“Though no doubt some distress for [the child] upon removal from the mother might be anticipated, I do not find that this gives rise to a grave risk of harm to her, or places her in an intolerable situation. The mother may well follow her to the USA”.

101.

However, His Honour accepted that the mother’s suicide would be psychologically harmful to the child. His Honour also found that there was a grave risk that if the child was returned to the USA the mother would suicide and, correspondingly, the child was at grave risk of psychological harm. Warnick J was satisfied that the mother had a history of mental illness and a pre-existing neurological condition to do with malformation of part of her brain. Warnick J also commented on the difficult task of assessing evidence in cases where the abducting parent’s mental health or the implications thereof are the source of the grave risk of physical or psychological harm or intolerable situation.

80. I do not reach these findings without disquiet. Courts will understandably have a real concern about the disingenuous adoption of stances designed to achieve the purposes of abductors in resisting orders for the return of children. But the response to this concern cannot be to disregard evidence, but rather to scrutinise it with great care.

81. In this case there is a history of depression and mood changes in the mother. She demonstrated an intense need for the comfort and support of her family. She has suffered dramatic and no doubt traumatic health difficulties. She threatened suicide when cohabiting with the father.

82. Her consultations with Dr Klug are apparently for the purpose of treatment, not evidence gathering. His medical opinion of the risk is clear and unchallenged.

83. The risk in my view is little alleviated by the arrangement that the mother will enter hospital under Dr Klug’s supervision if [the child] is sent back to the USA. Though this is clearly an arrangement to mitigate the prospects of the mother taking her own life, there is nothing from which I can gauge any reduction in risk thereby achieved. The same applies to the prospect of detention of the mother under Mental Health legislation.[94]

102.

The material sworn by the mother in the matter now before me, does not deal with the issue of her alleged vulnerability and psychological functioning. The mother’s complaints and objections are about insufficient attention from the requesting parent to the children and to her, violence and cruelty and lack of financial independence (see paragraphs 21 and 24 of her affidavit sworn on

10 September 2006)[95]. She was assessed by a psychiatrist, Dr B on 29 August 2006. In her affidavit affirmed on 7 September 2006, Dr B considered the scenario of the respondent mother returning to Greece’[96] :-

Were she forced to return to Greece, without her family support which is the very foundation of her self esteem, she would be at significant risk of a further psychosis, and would struggle to provide the care for her children in the setting of ongoing stress, abuse and depression.

103.

Dr B elaborated on her assessment of the respondent mother as follows:-

She presents from a background of a warm supportive family which was possibly overprotective, and this combined with her passive personality style has left her vulnerable to controlling abusive male relationships. The isolation from friends, family and money in her current marriage increased her feelings of dependency and lack of self worth that is what maintains women in such relationships; these are also common risk factors for postnatal depression, which she has had a minor form of, untreated, but worsened by the abusive relationship, lack of supports and isolation. She has shown herself to demonstrate a positive mothering capacity with what appears to be close appropriate attachment to her children. However had she continued further the exposure to the isolation and abuse, this would have caused a further decline in her mental state and her lack of self esteem with limited ability to shield and protect the children from him [the father] or to provide them with the warm nurturing and diverse environment she has had and is able to provide in Australia where she is supported and not exposed to this abuse.[97]’

104.

In viva voce evidence Dr B expanded on her opinion of the respondent mother’s personality, as follows:-

MISS SMALLWOOD: With respect to the personality of [the mother], are you able to define for us how you would assess her personality in your professional capacity?

---Certainly. […] I don't think she has a personality disorder, but personality style I think is very relevant in this case both to the nature of the relationship she found herself in and now to what she has to cope with. There's certainly - from evidence that she's given me throughout her life, which is the best way to assess personality, in a number of different circumstances - shown that she certainly has some - passive and vulnerable with a degree of dependency. Particularly in the past, that's been on her family and that has been a positive. That has been where she's resourced her strength from, but whilst in Greece without her family around, this became a real issue.

MISS SMALLWOOD: If she has that degree of dependency, what will that mean if she is in a situation away from her family?

---Certainly on the history she's given me, it became very apparent that in the circumstances of her marriage, and being particularly very isolated, she became increasingly depressed. So that was the first sort of sign or her vulnerability. That is extremely likely to happen again if she is separated and isolated in any similar sort of fashion where there is ongoing stress. I don't know if you want me to go on. If she was to return to Greece, and presuming not within the marriage but without that support and the ongoing stress of living presumably in relatively close contact with her husband and husband's family and without her own supports, then depression is certainly going to be extremely likely to occur. But she's also, as has been shown under the stress of this court case which precipitated the brief psychotic reaction she had - that this is also a very likely scenario should she be exposed to that sort of stress again.

105.

Later when being cross examined by counsel for the applicant State Central Authority, Dr B clarified the difference between a disorder and a personality style as follows:-

MR MCFARLANE: Now, the extent to which you say that she has a style for her personality, can you explain to me what makes that different from a disorder?---

[…], both have got traits that are enduring and lifelong. Generally, the difference between disorder and traits are how much trouble they get you into. And in a sense - going back to the other counsel's point, is that this hasn't got her into much trouble in an overall sense of her lifetime. It got her into trouble probably with picking the wrong partner first time around but she was able to get out of that in the setting of a supportive family. But there's two sort of ways when you look at a disorder; you look at sort of work and relationships. There are kind of really two things. Her work career, though she hasn't worked for some time now, she worked for a number of years in the same salon, which is kind of suggesting that there's - which, I guess, adds to the dependency, the unable to leave. But she was actually able to leave for that salon for a year. She did come back to it. But she was able to hold down a job, obviously had adequate working relationships that it wasn't causing her problems. So the dependency wasn't such that she drove her boss mad because she couldn't make any decisions. Like if you get to sort of a - it would be a cluster C personality disorder, like a dependent personality disorder, holding down a job is difficult because of driving everyone around you mad, and she doesn't show that at all. She had good social skills, she had - by her account - lots of friends that she's kept in touch with. So there's a sense of real strengths there, the balance, some of the vulnerabilities that come out, particularly in times of depression. And that's what happens when you have - we all have personality traits that tend to get a lot worse when we're depressed.

MR MACFARLANE: Isn't that another way of saying that many people present with a certain style, a certain personality, that is what they are?---Yes.

MR MACFARLANE: Right. But they're not requiring of treatment?---No. Not for the personality per se, no.

MR MACFARLANE: If it reached a disorder then they would be?---If it gets them into trouble, yes. Often they don't because they don't think it's a problem. […]It's just everyone else thinks it's a problem.

106.

I note that Dr B did not give evidence to the effect that she recommended that the respondent mother obtain treatment for a dependent or vulnerable personality style. In fact, this case was conducted by the mother without any evidence as to how the mother’s condition (if I accept it) can be improved or the effects of it upon the children can be ameliorated.

107.

Dr B’s evidence was that the mother’s first marriage was significant. As

I mentioned above, in about 1990, when the respondent mother was 21 years of age, she married another man also of Greek origin. Dr B comments on the respondent mother’s earlier marriage in the following terms[98]:-

That marriage lasted 6-8 months, after which time she left her then husband in the setting of him being controlling, threatening and physically abusive. Her family supported her through this time and she coped well.

108.

The history provided by the respondent to Dr B included that, post separation from her first husband, the respondent mother had been threatened by her first husband and had obtained a domestic violence order against him. Dr B opined that it would not have been possible for the respondent mother to have obtained the protection order without the support of her family with whom she had returned to live.

109.

Dr B was asked a number of questions about the familial support which the respondent mother received. I am confident that particulars of the support to which Dr B referred might have helped me to better understand the basis upon which she says that the respondent mother is now unable to cope away from her family or, in the circumstances of this case, return to Greece. I think that most detail was provided by Dr B when she was being cross examined by counsel for the State Central Authority. The following interchange occurred with Mr McFarlane of counsel asking questions and Dr B responding[99]:-

MR McFARLANE: In your notes you talk - this is the back of page 1 of your notes. You've got, "Previous marriage (Greek); married when 21; lasted six to eight months; he was jealous, with physical abuse." Then you've got an arrow, "Scared." So she was scared of him?---Yes.

MR McFARLANE: Then she left him. Is that right?---Yes.

MR McFARLANE: So she was sufficiently strong to leave a violent marriage when she was 21?---With very much the help of her parents - well, her family. I'm not sure how much her brother was involved in that, but very much went back to them.

MR McFARLANE: Well, you say, "Okay because family support." If I just go from your notes then, you then put it on this basis, "He was controlling, wouldn't let her ring; some threats." Are they threats made after she left him?---Yes. That was - I think that was afterwards.

MR McFARLANE: Then she obtained a […]- - - retraining order?---Yes.[…]

MR McFARLANE: Then, "Divorced"?---Yes.

MR McFARLANE: Then you've got, "Okay because family support," quote something?---Relieved. […]

MR McFARLANE: So it seems to be, when she was 21, physical abuse in their marriage. She was strong enough to leave. She was strong enough to - although she then had threats after that, she was strong enough to in fact go to the authorities, get a restraining order?---Again, very much with her family. I mean, I haven't written all that down but it was very much the family supporting her through all of that, particularly through the threatening phone calls.

MR McFARLANE: Well, what I'm putting to you is that that doesn't give a picture of a woman who's perhaps so timid, so shy, that she can't actually stand up for herself and take protective action for herself?---She certainly did, but in the setting of lots of support.

110.

Having heard the evidence and seen Dr B in court, I am still not left with a clear picture of how the support which the respondent received from her family of origin following the breakdown of her first marriage is qualitatively different from the support offered to members of most close knit families in times of crisis. Likewise, I am unable to accept Dr B’s opinion that, the fact that

13 or 14 years ago the mother held down a hairdressing job in Australia for a number of years, she is likely to have had dependent personality traits then which still persist and preclude her returning to Greece. In relation to the mother’s employment history, there may be very many other factors, not indicative of a dependent personality, which made that particular job attractive to the respondent and visa versa. However, there was no evidence that

Dr B had considered such things as proximity of the hairdressing salon to the respondent’s home, work hours, work satisfaction, pay conditions and employee and employer relationships.

111.

Large extracts from the respondent mother’s long letter of January 2006, which extracts are set out above in paragraphs 32(a), 32(b), 32(n), 32(p), 32(q), 32(s), 32(aa), 32(bb), 32(dd), 32(ee), 32(ff) and 32(gg) were read out to Dr B by counsel for the State Central Authority. It was put to Dr B that those parts of the respondent’s long letter were inconsistent with what the respondent had told Dr B about her fear for the physical and emotional safety of her children and of herself at the hands of the requesting parent. Dr B’s response was to the effect that the respondent “only talked about fearing for her safety going back now after the hearing, after legal proceedings were in place and he had been abusing her on the telephone.” As previously indicated, I accept that the respondent’s purpose in writing the long letter in January 2006 was to induce the requesting parent to come to Australia with a view to making a new life here. Accordingly, that letter would not have been a useful instrument to remind him of his physical and emotional abuse, if the abuse had occurred.

112.

The respondent’s lengthy letter of January 2006 is an eloquent letter. It seems to me, however, that when one reads the letter, there is no hint of the mother having a dependent or vulnerable personality on the part of the respondent mother. The letter discloses apparent insight by the respondent mother into the damaging and stifling effect on the husband of his alleged dependence on his own parents. The respondent’s letter to the requesting parent is replete with requests for him to recognise his predicament and to assert his independence from his family of origin. I was not addressed as to the import of the letter, vis a vis what Dr B opines as to the respondent’s vulnerable and dependent personality. Ultimately, I do not regard the letter as cogent evidence of the respondent’s own psychological state. I accept that she could write the letter, dwelling on the requesting parent’s inappropriate dependencies, without being free of those dependencies herself. Likewise, there is nothing in the letter which indicates anything other than a woman who is determined to assert her own independence.

113.

Dr B agreed[100] that her opinions were based on the history told to her by the respondent mother. Dr B said that the mother appeared to her to be truthful:-

I have to say that there were absolutely no inconsistencies, that she was extremely believable. There were many things that it would take a very accomplished actress to have done, which I don't believe she is. […] The other things that I think were - I also spoke to her brother. Things that he said separate from her were very consistent with things that she'd said. The other thing that I guess that was very convincing was - I've done a number of - many, many Family Court cases, and it's extremely common for the parents to have the attitude of ownership of their children. What was really very touching is for most of my interview she was very much concerned about the welfare of her children. She then became worried about her own welfare, but it was very much - when I was pressuring her about what happens if they go back to Greece, it was "What will happen to my children? How will they be? How will they cope? How could my husband" - it was about them rather than about herself …[101].

I accept Dr B’s evidence to the effect that she found that history provided by the respondent mother to be internally consistent. However, I do not accept it as expert evidence that the respondent mother is a witness of truth. I accept that Dr B regarded her as person who gave an internally consistent account of herself during the 90 minute consultation but Dr B’s opinion cannot go further than that.

114.

In viva voce evidence Dr B expanded on her opinion of the likely ability of the respondent mother to cope with returning to Greece, as follows:-

I think the real issue is what circumstances surround [the respondent’s return to Greece] because we go back to her needing - her ability to cope with a stressful situation by herself without support I think is limited. If she was to go with the whole family, then I think that would probably be difficult for her but she would manage it … I'm not suggesting that's possible, but if she had that degree of support around her, then being in Greece per se is not the problem, it's the isolation that comes with going with Greece that is the issue, and particularly dealing with a relatively small community where I imagine there's a good deal of - there would be a good deal of undercurrents that she would need to deal with, and without that sort of support around her to do so, and very limited psychiatric care I would imagine[102].

115.

I asked Dr B to give me the basis of her belief that psychiatric care in Greece is limited. She clarified that she was not thinking in particular of Crete. This is not particularly helpful as it is not required that the children return to Crete. Nonetheless, I asked her what was the basis for that belief. Her response was as follows:-

To be fair, the Greek patients I've looked after probably were in Greece some time ago, so it's really relying on their kind of feedback.

Did they come from Crete?---Not specifically Crete, but not Athens.

Tell me about the psychiatric services available in Crete?---I don't know Crete specifically. I'm just saying that somewhere other than a major city is kind of what I'm thinking - of concern mainly because of the cultural - again I'm relying on Greek patients who have been out here for some time. […]-See, it's more the issue of the stigma. As I said, I'm relying on Greek patients I've treated here who have been here for some time, but certainly the issues of stigma and the cultural attitude - as is true in many cultures of - of not readily presenting or admitting to psychological problems and commonly presenting in other ways to get help. Things such as psychosis in particular are carrying a good deal of stigma and negative attitudes.

[…]Mr McFarlane [counsel for the State Central Authority] might ask [you] about the particular symptoms of psychosis, but do you suggest that there is not the professional wherewithal - there are not psychiatrists?---Look, I can't comment on Crete. I do not know that, but I think from a cultural point of view there is a lot of stigma and reluctance to seek treatment - is more the issue - and difficulties in the community that might add to her difficulties.

If you tell her to go and get treatment, presumably she will get treatment?---[Yes] Providing it's available.[103]

116.

This is another part of Dr B’s evidence that leads me to question seriously her opinion as a whole. I am not satisfied that Dr B is qualified to give evidence about the cultural stigma attached to seeking psychiatric treatment in Greece. What Dr B said is an expression of an opinion which is founded on hearsay, being the statements made by unidentified patients of Greek origin, which is so remote that it cannot be possibly be tested. It is also a conclusion upon which expert evidence should be given, that is evidence by a social scientist whose training and expertise and research support a conclusion that Greek people are not amenable to seeking or stigmatise those who do seek psychiatric care. This was the first of a number of instances, where I am satisfied that Dr B gave evidence more as an advocate for the respondent mother than as an expert. In this instance, she over reached her expertise, in other instances I feel that she was too quick to reach a conclusion favourable to the mother when there were other conclusions open to her.

117.

Later, Dr B clarified that, in her opinion, the mother would be at risk of a further mental health breakdown no matter where in Greece and how far away from the requesting parent she settled unless “many members of her family went with her to support her[104]”. Dr B’s evidence was that the mother thought that many members of her family going back to Greece with her was not feasible. When I asked Dr B to tell me about her discussions with the respondent mother in relation to her being supported by members of her family in Greece for any time, Dr B said:-

There were no specifics of what she thought was possible and I didn't push her on that. She certainly at that stage - and remember this is back in September - didn't say that she wouldn't go back but was very much fearing for her safety and the safety of her children, and it was much more related to that rather than any specifics about what her family might be able to do, and I didn't discuss that with her brother either. It was very much at that stage she was talking about how she'd wanted to go - had intended to go back but that she needed a change in the living arrangements with her husband. So she still hadn't thought beyond where she'd got to prior to him taking these proceedings[105].

118.

Directed again to the scenario of the respondent mother returning to Greece with the children but living separately from the requesting parent but without any immediate family members being present, Dr B gave the following evidence:-

[DR B]:…Well, her physical safety wouldn't be so much of an issue, but I think the mental health issues would still be quite significant because of the lack of support - well, I'm presuming lack of family there and the ongoing - well, I'm not sure what arrangements would be like in Greece, but presuming let's say if it was every second weekend or every weekend she had the children over to her ex-husband that would require some contact and that degree of stress and ongoing harassment, which I would imagine is likely, would cause her significant stress and therefore a risk for a relapse.

MISS SMALLWOOD: You mentioned earlier the isolation of returning to Greece or any other place without family support linked to her dependent personality. Are you saying it's the isolation arising from her somewhat dependent personality that will cause her mental problems or the stress associated with the interaction of herself and her husband or both?---Well, it's both because her isolation prevents her from - her personality style's way of coping with stress is to have support and without that support she has no means of dealing with the stress.

119.

Dr B was cross examined by counsel for the State Central Authority about her ability to cope in Greece, in particular, Crete without family members but with access to psychiatric or psychological or counselling support. My assessment of Dr B’s evidence in this regard is that she was partisan rather than independent. I will set out the questions and answers more or less in full which commence with Mr McFarlane returning to Dr B’s view that there would be a cultural impediment to the mother accessing psychiatric help in Greece:-

MR McFARLANE: A view you have about [the doctor’s Greek patients] is that they are culturally less inclined to seek medical assistance in relation to psychiatric matters?---Yes.

MR McFARLANE: That would not necessarily apply to this lady given that she was born in Australia and raised in Australia?---Yes, I wasn't so much thinking about her accepting it but more the people around her accepting is. […]I was thinking particularly around the family and whatever friends or whoever she was with. If she's, you know, living alone, she presumably will try and get a job - that sort of environment.

MR McFARLANE: If she goes back to Crete though, well knowing that it will be stressful for her given that she was born here, raised here and only went to Greece when she was married, there's a real possibility that she would seek out psychiatric services when she got there?---Certainly I'm sure her treating doctors here would suggest that.

MR McFARLANE: That would be the advice she would be given?---Yes.

MR McFARLANE: If that was the case, she would be able to access psychiatric help?---If it exists and in what format it exists.

MR McFARLANE: Including counselling?---If it's available.

MR McFARLANE: Including appropriate medication to manage her depression, if there is depression?---Yes.

MR McFARLANE: Including medication to manage or keep at bay - if there is any signs of - a psychotic episode?---Yes.

MR McFARLANE: There could be regular monitoring of her condition?---Hypothetically, yes - as I said, I don't know what services are available.

MR McFARLANE: If she went back with that framework of support and also with some of her members of her family, her mum and her dad, she would be able to live and cope with live in Greece in the short term pending a Greek court determining where these children are to reside and whether she would be able to come back to Australia. […]---If that was to occur it would certainly help. The biggest problem would be the ongoing stress of the legal proceedings and the uncertainty or whatever the likelihood as an ongoing stress and whatever stress was there in the negotiations with handing children over for care, et cetera. There's lots and ifs and buts about that, and that's depending on the circumstances of how the father of the children is as well. But certainly any ongoing negotiations with him are going to be particularly stressful, like the handing over at the door or whatever - that sort of scenario.

MR McFARLANE: She would be able to cope if she's got access to that medical support?---More likely to be able to. I couldn't say she would definitely be able to, but with family members with her ‑ ‑ ‑

MR McFARLANE: What about if she didn't have her family members? What about if she went over with the children, lived separately from the husband but had access to those medical and counselling facilities?---The biggest problem with that is if you look at past history sort of predicting future. In the past her main way of coping[and dealing with stress] has to be retreat to family, and her ability to use counsellors as that sort of support I think is very limited.

MR McFARLANE: When has she [retreated to her family]?---When her first marriage broke up.

MR McFARLANE: When was that?---She was married at 21, so the year after that. I can't give you - calculate that - but however old she is now, 36, so that was 14 years ago.

MR McFARLANE: That was one occasion when she retreated to her family?---And this time.

Yes, and then this time?---Yes.

So every 14 years she's done it?---Every very stressful life event.

MR McFARLANE: That in itself is not unusual, is it? I mean, when people break up - their marriages break up - the first person they turn to usually are members of family for support. So that's not an unusual event, is it?---It's not unusual but I think if you really look at this woman's personality, it's more - there's less sense of ability to be independent beyond that immediate retreat.

Except that she has lived with this man in Greece since - I think it's 2001?---I think that's right.

MR McFARLANE: Since 2000?---If we look at her personality style as being dependent, the dependency was transferred over to him, and her inability to leave him was part of that dependency, even though - by her own account to me - there was, you know, really many years of very significant difficulties.

MR McFARLANE: And she was able to cope?---Not well, no.

MR McFARLANE: Well, sufficiently well that - to raise two children; sufficiently well to not have any mental breakdowns?---Well, I think she did have significant depression, untreated.

MR McFARLANE: There isn't a lot of evidence about that, is there?---It depends what sort of evidence you would like to see.

MR McFARLANE: The evidence you've got is her saying she was depressed?---Mm'hm.

MR McFARLANE: There was no evidence that she saw a psychiatrist?---Because she wasn't allowed to.

MR McFARLANE: There's no evidence that she took any medication, is there?---Because she wasn't allowed to go and see someone to get it.

MR McFARLANE: There's no evidence that she had a psychotic episode?---Not then, no.

MR McFARLANE: So she was able to cope with that?---Yes, because she had someone to depend on, which was - she was still at that stage - yes, she had some capacity to cope there and she certainly does, she has strengths, but she was seriously struggling.

MR McFARLANE: And I suggest to you she would be able to cope if she returned to Crete with these children and resided separately and apart from her husband with the assistance of the medical services over there?---It is possible. I'm not saying she would, but I'm saying looking at what she - her personality style and what has happened since because she has since had a brief psychotic reaction, which she may not have fully recovered from, then that's going to make her particularly vulnerable at the moment, which was not the case a year ago; there's an extra vulnerability at the moment.

120.

In evidence in chief, Dr B was asked for her opinion of how the respondent mother would likely cope if the children go back to Greece and she stays in Australia. Dr B expressed the following opinion:-

[DR B]:…It's always hard to have a crystal ball in the long, long term, but [in the] short term to medium term, her mental health is likely to be severely impacted upon both from a mood point of view and from the risk of further psychotic episodes. The psychosis may well be kept in check by anti-psychotic medication, which she was on and may still be. The depression is likely to not be so well dealt with and there is going to be a lot of grief issues as well which will drive the stress of both the depression and the psychosis. How long that lasts it would depend on many things, but certainly months to potentially years.

MS SMALLWOOD: Do you think when you say that her short to medium term mental health will be severely impacted upon, would the level of that impact anticipated by you be such as to disable her in any way?---If she's unlike to be able to work, highly unlikely - well, the other sort of things you would sort of look at, I suspect she would go out little. I mean, she'd probably stay at home with her family and be able to manage very little else.

MS SMALLWOOD: What about participating in litigatory proceedings for instance?---Because they are stressful that's going to be an ongoing stress for her, but it's obviously something she's going to want to do. The thing that impacts most is the psychosis and in a sense because I don't think she has schizophrenia, the anti‑psychotic medications are likely to manage that reasonably enough, but she's certainly likely to be significantly depressed throughout all of those proceedings.

HER HONOUR: So why isn't there antidepressant medication?---Largely because on our current understanding of depression is that it's driven by stress and our bodies are very badly adapted to chronic stress. So if you have sort of chronic levels of high adrenalin it's terrific if you are in an acute situation where you have to get out rapidly, but when it becomes chronic it drives the neurotransmitter changes, which are what the antidepressants are working on, but if that keeps driving and you keep upping the antidepressants then they tend to kick out, you then have to transfer to another antidepressant and as long as that stress keeps driving it there's often not such a good response and that's why usually in the best treatment of depression you would treat the psychological drivers of the depression equally as hard with the antidepressants, but when there's an ongoing litigation and the ongoing estrangement from your children then it's going to be very hard to treat that end of it.

121.

Later is re-examination, Dr B was asked to grade the risk of the mother’s psychological disintegration if the children were returned to Greece with or without her. Dr B’s opinion was:-

---The hard bit is the medication and how much that's going to protect her. Unmedicated, 9.9999, almost certain [that she will have another psychotic episode]. With medication, and close monitoring, depends which of the options. I think she's probably more vulnerable going back [to Greece] with them, in a sense, because there's just going to be ongoing stresses of both caring for them and being isolated. Look, it's a different stress. I don't know. It's another stress being here without them, so either way: medicated at least 50 per cent chance of a psychotic deterioration; probably and 80 per cent chance of depressive deterioration.

HER HONOUR: So […] if these children are going back – sorry, what would the onset of the psychotic episode be? Would it be almost immediate? Would it be a matter of hours?---Weeks. Days to weeks.

HER HONOUR: So, say, tomorrow I order that the children go back next Tuesday or next Monday, is that a sufficient period for her to develop it?---She might, but it may be a few weeks after, the following couple of weeks.

122.

I am satisfied that long term depression which is not amenable to some form of treatment would be a grim outcome for the respondent mother and, if the children were exposed to the mother under the effect of that depression, that it could well constitute a grave risk of psychological harm to them or may place them in an intolerable situation. I am satisfied that there would be a reduction in the harm or the intolerable circumstances to be faced by the children, if the mother’s depression was only for as long as it took to conclude legal proceedings. However, this case was conducted on behalf of the respondent mother without any evidence as to what may ameliorate any mental health condition which she has. There was no evidence that the respondent mother had obtained treatment since August 2006 let alone evidence of her compliance with treatment or her prognosis. According to the respondent mother, the only solution to the dilemma is for me to dismiss the application for the return of the children to Greece and to allow the elder daughter, younger daughter and the respondent to remain with her family in Melbourne and to see where and how or whether the requesting parent will seek a determination of long term care arrangements for the girls. This scenario would, according to the respondent’s case, afford the children the best opportunity to be cared for by the mother in a state of robust psychological health. However, due to the absence of evidence about what the respondent mother has done since August 2006 to fortify her mental health, I must conclude that there is no guarantee that the mother’s care of the girls would not be impaired.

123.

I have considered but rejected the submission of counsel for the respondent to the effect that the respondent’s failure to adduce any evidence about what she has done or could do to help herself is, itself, evidence of the fact that the respondent mother is practically paralysed when confronted with the prospect of her and/or the children returning to Greece. Had I accepted that proposition, I would have necessarily undervalued the contribution that a qualified solicitor, and counsel and an expert psychiatrist witness bring to a case such as this.

124.

Dr B gave evidence for about 2 hours. I have already referred to aspects of her evidence which I am unable to accept such as the proposition that psychiatric care is difficult to access in Crete or Greece, that there is a stigma to mental illness in Greece and that the respondent’s long term employment in a hairdressing salon was indicative of a dependent personality. I am not impressed that Dr B was willing to express a view on any of these aspects let alone purport to give expert evidence based on those assumptions.

125.

A further area of concern for me was Dr B’s response about reconciling her impression of the respondent as a devoted and capable mother with the fact that, now, she will not accompany the children back to Greece. Mr McFarlane had clarified that Dr B thought that the threat of the requesting parent requiring the children to be returned to Greece was the trigger to the respondent’s psychotic episode. The exchange was as follows:-

MR MCFARLANE: But the main trigger, I think, of that phone conversation was about threatening to take the children. Separating her from the children?---Yes.

MR MCFARLANE: Which is what she proposes to do no, the children go back to Greece, she'll stay here?---Well, I'm not - sorry, you're asking me? Well, I'd be interested to know why. Obviously, you know, there's now several months passed since then. Certainly she was showing, in my interview, a good deal of fear of this man, so whether it's concern that she just can't deal with that circumstance.

MR MCFARLANE: But she'd […] allow her two daughters to go back without her. Not her choice, but if they're going back they can go back with her or they can go back without her. Can you tell me where that fits into your trigger to her psychotic episode?---Well, I mean, I'm not sure where she's come through the last few months, but my guess is that - and it is a guess, just from this - she's very vulnerable, she's recognised that in herself. […]from what I thought from my original interview, was that she's someone […]who's very vulnerable […]that her source of strength is family, that this ongoing stress hasn't gone away. So, let's say, you know, if everything had been resolved last August she'd probably be feeling much more like her normal self now, would feel more robust, feeling better.

MR MCFARLANE: […]What do you mean by "resolved last August"?---As in, he withdrew the court case. So there was no court case happening, and she was just living here happily with the kids and so there was no ongoing stress. Then my guess is that she would have returned to normal self, so not feeling depressed, not at risk or an eminent psychotic breakdown again, and then she would have felt potentially stronger. Then, had he said, "Right. You've got to come back to Greece now, " she might have been able to do that, because that had been her plan […]But that didn't happen. So what's happened is she's had ongoing stress, so neither the depression nor the psychosis is fully resolved.

MR MCFARLANE: How do you know?---Well, this is - that's what I'm saying, this is my guess. I said this, because I haven't seen her today to reconcile - what you're telling me is […]that she doesn't want to go back with her children. It surprises me in the sense that she was incredibly attached to her children in the interview that I saw her in. So to come up with an explanation of that, I have to presume she's still unwell, and that she feels unable to deal with facing the isolation of Greece and her ex-husband.

HER HONOUR:…Or she's just raised the stakes?---Possibly.

126.

It was open to Dr B to say that she was unable to reconcile her impressions of the respondent with the stance taken by the respondent at this hearing. It was also open to Dr B to say that she required an opportunity to re-examine her or make recommendations for intervention or treatment. Instead, Dr B responded in a manner most favourable to the outcome of the respondent’s case and only when questioned further said that it was her “guess”. My experience is that good expert witnesses are not troubled by recognising what they do not know or to admit when they do not have the expertise or sufficient facts to be able to venture an opinion.

127.

I make the following further observations in relation to the evidence of

Dr B in this case:-

a) Dr B assessed the respondent 5 months prior to the trial before me.

b) The purpose of Dr B’s single consultation with the respondent was for evidence gathering, not treatment. She consulted with the mother for 90 minutes on 29 August 2006 and saw her briefly on 7 September 2006 when her affidavit was affirmed. She spent 10 to 15 minutes with the respondent’s brother on 29 August 2006;

c) Dr B could not give evidence about the respondent’s mental state as at the date of the hearing. She described her recent discussions and observations of the respondent as being relatively fleeting and in the following terms:-

HER HONOUR: What has been the extent of your discussions with the mother, her family or her legal representatives today?---

[DR B]: With [the mother] and I gave her a hug because she was crying, but I don't actually think [the mother] said anything. She said thank you to me for coming and Tom [the respondent’s solicitor] said thank you for coming and the barrister said […] what questions she thought that she would ask me, which was the ones that she's outlined to you that she wanted to ask me and I think that's pretty much the extent. […]But somewhere in the middle I heard someone say that she was still on medication, but I can't remember who,

d) Dr B did not know whether the respondent is consulting any mental health practitioner or what (if any) medication she has been prescribed or whether the respondent is compliant with any treatment.

e) Counsel for the State Central Authority successfully challenged aspects of Dr B’s evidence in cross examination such as the mother’s history of being abnormally dependent on her family of origin, the availability of counselling or mental health support in Greece and the respondent’s ability to be able to cope if she returned to Greece;

f) My assessment of Dr B’s evidence in the witness box is that she was partisan to the case of the respondent mother. She was too willing to give answers which were really speculations or guesses which she perceived would be favourable to the mother’s case rather than expressions of opinion that she was qualified and in a position to give.

128.

Taking into account Dr B’s evidence and the evidence of the respondent’s personal history, from the time of her first marriage onwards, I am not satisfied that the respondent mother has a vulnerable or dependent personality to an extent which is any greater than someone else who is desperately unhappy at the prospect of returning to a country in which they do not want to live. I am not satisfied that her dependency on her family of origin is an impediment to her returning to Greece.

129.

I am satisfied that the respondent mother suffered from a single psychotic episode in August 2006 and that the trigger for that episode may well have been that she realised the children’s return to Greece was inevitable and imminent.

I accept the evidence of Dr B that the mother responded well to the antipsychotic medication and is likely to do so in the future.

130.

I accept the evidence of Dr B that, 5 months ago, the respondent mother was depressed and that she is likely to have suffered some mild depression before returning to Australia in October 2005, which went untreated.

131.

I accept Dr B’s evidence about the success and lack of success of

anti-depressant medication on long term depression. However, I am not satisfied of the application of that information to this case because there was no evidence before me as to the current mental state of the respondent mother.

132.

Leaving to one side the limitations which I have found in relation to Dr B’s evidence, no evidence was adduced by or on behalf of the respondent from a treating medical practitioner or mental health specialist about what treatment the mother was receiving at the time of the trial or her likely prognosis from then on. I assume that no such evidence existed or, if it did, then it would not have advanced the respondent’s case.

133.

The applicant did not avail itself of its opportunity to obtain its own expert evidence. However, in the circumstances of this case it was not suggested that it had a duty to do so. The applicant was not in a superior position to that of the respondent to obtain expert evidence of the respondent’s psychiatric state immediately before or within a reasonable time of the trial commencing.

134.

I find that there is insufficient evidence before me as to respondent’s the mental state at the time of the trial and her prognosis on which I can be satisfied that she is still so adversely affected by mental health issues including depression or a vulnerable personality that she is precluded from returning to Greece. It follows that I am not satisfied that the respondent mother is precluded from returning to Greece by reasons of circumstances outside her control.

135.

I note that there was no evidence adduced by the respondent mother as to her capacity or ability to access the legal system in Greece, to be able to act protectively for the children upon their return to Greece. As I have previously discussed[106], during the hearing before me on 17 August 2006, I noted to counsel that there was nothing to prevent the respondent mother from instituting proceedings in Greece to regulate her life with the children. This has remained unaddressed by the respondent mother in her summary of argument document filed 22 September 2006. As I have mentioned, it was submitted that the lawyers for the respondent mother had simply not been able to get instructions or give advice about what the mother could do in advance of returning to Greece to make life better for herself and the children. It was submitted that this was because the respondent would not countenance returning to Greece. I was referred at the same time to the evidence of Dr B to the effect that when the respondent mother was asked about her proposals for returning to Greece, her thoughts became disorganised. That evidence had been:-

I think I saw her about two weeks after the CAT team had seen her, and whilst her psychotic symptoms had largely resolved, when pressured into talking about the results of this court case and what might happen, she started to - what I would say - decompensate. Her thinking became very woolly, illogical - which is also a symptom of psychosis - and was very difficult to follow[107]

And, later in re-examination by Ms Smallwood, Dr B said:-

You indicated in your earlier report that when you raised the topic, if you like, of returning to Greece, or raised the topic of dealing with the problem in which she found herself with respect to the Hague convention proceedings, you said her thoughts became "woolly," is the word you used?---Mm'hm.

That woolliness of thought pattern is what you're - it's slightly disorganised, slightly furry around the edges, that kind of thing?---Yes.

Was that woolliness evident only when you raised this specific concepts of dealing with the children's residential arrangements within the structure of what was going on?---Pretty much. The rest of the time made much more sense and was fairly - even when distressed talking about the past abuse, she was able to - I was able to follow her fairly clearly and was much more - it was really only when she got very agitated that that happened.

The particularity then of the topic which gave cause to that woolliness to appear to arise, does that tell you anything about her vulnerability with respect to the circumstances, or how she's likely to react if the children do go back to Crete? Does it inform you in any way of the situation?---Well, certainly it seemed to me that at that time when I saw her, that the issue of the children was - were very vulnerable. This was her real, kind of, button was the children being sent back to Crete, in some ways being separated from her, her going back as well. She certainly - there was a sort of statement along the lines of, "My God, how can I do that? How can I cope," that type of - very vague and distressed.

So was there a degree of particularity. That's my word, not yours, I know, but the woolliness was associated with a particular topic, and that was the topic?---Yes.

Outside that topic she seemed to functioning okay?---Yes.

136.

I find that there is an incongruity between the respondent’s alleged inability to give instructions or take any constructive steps in Greece, in advance or in anticipation of the girls being returned there, and her ability to give instructions on the evening of the first day of the trial to resist there being included in my final orders an opportunity for to change her mind about accompanying the children to Greece to be exercisable within, say, 72 hours[108].

137.

I endorse the comments of the authors of International Movement of Children: Law practice and procedure[109] when at paragraph 17.96 they say:-

[…] In other words, as one commentator has put it,[110] ‘any assessment of the degree of risk involved [cannot] be blinkered against sight of the practical consequences of return.’ However, as Lord Prosser observed in the Scottish decision, McCarthy v McCarthy[111],under Art 13(b) the court ‘ is concerned with exposure to harm as a consequence of return, and not an exposure to harm which might emerge at a future time, if after return an unsatisfactory situation is allowed to persist without alteration.’ Consequently, the court should only be concerned with the situation following upon return as viewed in the relative short term. It may be added that in assessing the risk the court is entitled to weigh the risk of harm of a return against the risk of harm of refusing a return.[112]

17.97 In judging risk, it is well established that courts should accept that, unless the contrary is proved, the administrative, judicial and social service authorities of the requesting State are equally adept in protecting children as they are in the requested State.[113]

138.

I am not satisfied that the children will be at grave risk of harm or placed in an intolerable situation as a consequence of their return to Greece within the meaning of Regulation 16(b)(3).

139.

I accept that it will be a big upheaval for the children to go back to Greece now and they will be very sad and upset. However as the High Court observed in DP v Commonwealth Central Authority; JLM v Director-General NSW Department of Community Services at paragraph 45 extracted above, “[it] is well-nigh inevitable that a child, taken from one country to another without the agreement of one parent, will suffer disruption, uncertainty and anxiety. That disruption, uncertainty and anxiety will recur, and may well be magnified, by having to return to the country of habitual residence. Regulation 16(3)(b) and Art 13(b) of the Convention intend to refer to more than this kind of result when they speak of a grave risk to the child of exposure to physical or psychological harm on return.” I take into account that the respondent mother will have access to the judicial system in Greece. Without persuasive and cogent evidence about the likely effect on the children as a consequence of their return, rather than that which might emerge at a future time including after the mother has accessed the Greek judicial system, I am not satisfied that the exception under Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Regulations (Article 13(b) of the Convention) is made out.

140.

Counsel for the State Central Authority, Mr McFarlane, submitted that I should not accept that separation from the mother exposes the children to grave risk of harm. He submitted that the girls would be returning to their father, their extended paternal family and to their home. Mr McFarlane submitted that the mother may change her mind and accompany the girls. I do not accept that submission.

141.

I am not satisfied that the girls will regard their home in Crete as being familiar. They have been away from it for 15 months. They will recognise their father and paternal family. I have no doubt that they will experience confusion, loss and distress at leaving the respondent mother and, to a lesser degree, their maternal family. I am satisfied that being so young, the elder daughter is 5½ years old and the younger daughter is 4 years old, neither of the girls will have the intellectual capacity to understand why their mother has not accompanied them back to Greece. A return to Greece without their mother must have an adverse impact on the girls emotionally in the short term.

142.

It was submitted that the courts in Greece, properly seized of the matter, may order that the children be able to return to the mother’s care in Australia and that, in any event, their welfare will be assured by child protection authorities in Crete. Both of those outcomes are real possibilities but I do not regard the submission as a complete answer to the short term distress of the girls. The fact, however, is that there is no answer to the distress of the girls in the short term other than to observe that it is a pity that the respondent and/or her family members do not accompany them back to Greece.

143.

The respondent mother has failed to make out the “grave risk” exception pursuant to Regulation 16(3)(b) of the Regulations (Article 13(b) of the Convention).

Consent and Acquiescence

144.

Regulation 16(3)(a)(ii) provides that a court may refuse to make an order for the return of children to their place of habitual residence if the person opposing return establishes that the person, institution or other body seeking the return of the children had consented or subsequently acquiesced to the children being removed to or retained in Australia. This is the exception provided for in Article 13(a) of the Convention. Consideration of whether the exception is engaged involves an assessment by the court of whether the alleged wrongful removal or retention has within it the necessary component of a lack of prior consent or subsequent acceptance on the part of the requesting parent. In the event that the exception is engaged then a discretion is enlivened to refuse to return the children.

145.

In the requesting parent’s affidavit sworn in support of his application he deposed[114]:-

When the [date of her return journey being 19-1-2006] came, she told me on the phone that she wanted to stay in Australia, because my older daughter had, as she said, strabismus and should visit a special doctor. I was greatly puzzled and I was missing my children and her a lot, so I said that the Ophthalmological Clinic of the University of Crete was one of the best in Europe and that the specific problem could be dealt here. She insisted and told me that the doctor could see our child on 14-2-2006 and that at the end of February she would return to Greece. When that date also passed, she told me that an operation was necessary and that she trusted only the Australian doctors. Of course I forbid her to act in any way as far as the operation was concerned without my consent.

After many phone calls, that lasted many hours and for many days, she told me that she wasn’t planning to return and that she would stay permanently with my children in Australia.

Her words and her underhand behaviour shocked me so seriously that I refused to accept that this fact had occurred to me, that my wife sneaked away from our home and took my children along with her, in order to immigrate so far away, my children that were the most precious thing on earth to me. All this time I was trying to convince her back. I was telling her how much I was missing her and the children and that I couldn’t live without them, hoping to change her mind.

Unfortunately she is still inconvincible, and for that reason I ask for he (sic) help of the Greek State, in order to live with my children that I was detached from in such a devious way, and they were taken away from me without asking them in order to decide for themselves, without knowing where they live and under what conditions.

146.

The respondent mother alleges that during a phone conversation between herself and the requesting parent on an unspecified date and time, the requesting parent ‘indicated that it was in order’[115] for her and the children to remain in Australia until ‘the end of the year.’[116] In particular, she said:-

20. After returning to Australia, I did arrange for specialist examination by [Dr W] of [an ophthalmology practice] of [the elder daughter’s] condition. Exhibited hereto and marked with the letters “AS-4” is a copy of the report of 4 August 2006 defining that condition. At all times, I kept my husband [the father] informed of the visits made to the eye surgery and appraised him of the condition as I understood it to be from [Dr W’s] description. Whereas my husband expressed concern that I should not have any surgery done without his consent, I agreed to that, notwithstanding that I had not been informed then nor understood that surgery was necessary.

The return date on the airline tickets was extended from 27 January 2006 on two or three occasions because [the elder daughter’s] treating doctor, [Dr W], had indicated to me that he required to observe the progress or effect upon [the child’s] condition after wearing the spectacles prescribed by him for some time. These observations of the doctor were conveyed periodically by me to my husband and he did not then object to the extensions of the return date on the airline tickets, except for some reservation he expressed in relation to the first extension in January 2006.

As he had not recognised that there was a problem for [the elder daughter] previously, I insisted in her interests that I continue with investigation of her eye problem in Australia. After some initial scepticism involving the need to send photographs to him in Greece to demonstrate that [the child] was wearing glasses, he subsequently advised that if she needed treatment, it could be done back in Greece. We quarrelled about that because as previously deposed, when I had raised concern for her welfare whilst with him in Greece, he denied that there was any problem and therefore I lacked confidence in his expressed concern to have her treated if we returned then to Greece.

In further conversations, perhaps in or about April or May 2006, I had requested my husband to come to Australia to confer with the doctor about [the elder daughter’s] condition, having advised him of her further appointment with [Dr W] on 7 July 2006. He then stated to me that he could not come at least before October because of some complaint involving assault charges made against him, preventing him from leaving the country before October. He then stated it was in order for me and the children to stay in Australia until October, the airline having agreed to extend the return date on our tickets until October 2006. Subsequent to that he advised me that we could stay until the end of this year.

Insofar as my husband […] has deposed to having told me that the Ophthalmological Clinic of University of Crete could deal with [the child’s] problem, I do recall that he made that comment after her second appointment with [Dr W] in February 2006. I did not tell him that the doctor was seeing our child on 14 February 2006 as he has deposed and that I would then return to Greece. In fact, after his suggestion that we return to consult the Clinic of the University of Crete as he refers, I told him that I intended to complete the treatment commenced by [Dr W].

There were numerous occasions when my husband would telephone and ask to speak to the children when he did not wish to speak to me. On various occasions, he was verbally abusive to me and acted manipulatively with the children by making comments which were derogatory of me. On one occasion he indicated that it was an order for me and the children to remain in Australia and even said that I could stay “until the end of the year”.

147.

She contends that the requesting parent thereby actively consented or acquiesced to her retention of the children in Australia well past the date of the wrongful retention relied upon in the application under consideration.

148.

As already indicated, the applicant State Central Authority obtained an adjournment of the final hearing on 2 October 2006 so that it could obtain the requesting parent’s answer to the respondent’s allegation that she could retain the children in Australia until then end of 2006. In his declaration made on

5 October 2006, the requesting parent does not refer to or deny having had this conversation with the respondent mother. He does say, however, that he only consented to the children remaining in Australia for 3 months.[117] He says:-

Reply regarding paragraph 20 of the declaration under oath made by [the mother].

As I already mentioned in my declaration under oath dated June 14th 2006, my wife went along with my children for vacations in Australia on October 13th 2005 with the intention, as she herself sad, to return to Greece on January 28th 2006 always along with the children. As I already stated in my aforementioned declaration she asked for those vacations and I agreed because I always wanted her to feel good. I never agreed for her to stay in Australia for more than three months.

During a phone conversation with [the mother] on the first days of January 2006 I specifically told her “If God whishes (sic) at the end of the month I shall have you all by my side”. Then, for the first time I heard my oldest daughter had some problems and she had scheduled an appointment with an eye specialist. Following a conversation I told her that as well as the children are entitled to insurance coverage here and that the problem, if indeed existed, would be solved at the University of Crete, in the eye clinic. She refused to listen to me, and I gave way in order to avoid quarreling (sic). The first appointment with the ophthalmologist, as she said, was at the end of January 2006, the second, as she said during another phone conversation, was for the 14th of February and I believed that by the end of February she would be back in Greece. In the meantime I met with one of her relatives who stated that my wife was not planning to return to Greece and knowing my partiality towards my children, she intended to extort me, something that happened later on.

In a letter she sent to me, while accusing my parents and the wider family at the end she asked me to leave everything behind and go and start a new life in Australia.

In the beginning of March 2006 during a phone conversation she told me to go to Australia if I wanted to see my children again. During that period and due to some documents addressed to me, I contacted the Child Support Agency Tasmania, and they mentioned that [the mother] declared to the CSA that on October 13th she left Greece because we were separated. Following that, I contacted the Australian Embassy in Athens and they in their turn informed me about the international Hague Convention and gave me the name of the employee I should contact, in the Greek Ministry of Justice.

The conduct of [the mother] and her parents is criminal since they deny me even the telephone communication with my children. I categorically deny [the mother’s] claims that I do not care about my child’s health. My wife was permanently staying in Greece and went to Australia to deal with the vision of our daughter; this proves that all her claims are lies. The vision of our daughter is a subject never discussed on our house when we lived together. She is trying to present me as an indifferent father, while this is a lie. This is proven by the fact that if anyone asks for the health record booklet of the child, there is not [a] visit to an ophthalmologist in Greece. If [the mother] believed that the child had a problem, she could have taken her to a doctor in Greece. Is it possible that I would want a child with an eye problem and I would not care to fix it?

149.

In this case, counsel for the respondent mother used the terms consent interchangeably with acquiescence, as did we all. No distinction was raised as to whether the respondent was alleging consent or acquiescence. It seems to me that it must have be acquiescence because it is alleged that no earlier than “perhaps in April or May 2006”[118] by which time the children had already been retained in Australia.

150.

As with the exception of grave risk, the respondent mother has the burden of proving that the requesting parent has acquiesced in her retention of the children in Australia. As with the exception of consent, the evidence in relation to acquiescence needs to be unambiguous and cogent if it the court is to accept it to the requisite standard of proof. The observations by Holman J in

Re H (Abduction: Habitual Residence: Consent)

[2000] 3 FCR 412 apply as much to acquiescence as to consent. There, at page 301 Holman J observed:-

On the facts of a particular case a court may consider that evidence of consent needs to be cogent before it can overcome the degree of improbability of consent having been given on those particular facts. But in the end there is only one question, namely has consent been established? And only one standard, namely the balance of probabilities.

151.

As to what constitutes acquiescence, in Re H (Minors) (Abduction: Acquiescence) [1998] A.C. 72 Lord Browne-Wilkinson said:-

What then does article 13 mean by "acquiescence?" In my view, article 13 is looking to the subjective state of mind of the wronged parent. Has he in fact consented to the continued presence of the children in the jurisdiction to which they have been abducted? This is the approach adopted by Neill L.J. in In re S. (Minors) (Abduction: Acquiescence) [1994] 1 F.L.R. 819 and by Millett L.J. in re R. (Child Abduction: Acquiescence) [1995] 1 F.L.R. 716. In my judgment it accords with the ordinary meaning of the word "acquiescence" in this context. In ordinary litigation between two parties it is the facts known to both parties which are relevant. But in ordinary speech a person would not be said to have consented or acquiesced if that was not in fact his state of mind whether communicated or not.

I am encouraged to find that this is also the view reflected in decisions in other jurisdictions. In the French Cour de Cassation Case no. 228 of 16 July 1992, X v. X, Bulletin des arrêts de la Cour de Cassation, Chambres Civiles, p. 151 the court, whilst accepting that acquiescence could be inferred from conduct, held that acquiescence could not be inferred simply from the wronged parent having concurred in a temporary arrangement with a view to arriving at an amicable solution: the court was looking to the actual intention of the parent. The District Court of Massachusetts in Wanninger v. Wanninger (1994) 850 F.Supp. 78 concentrated on the actual intention of the wronged German parent despite his visiting the mother in the United States (to which the children had been abducted) to seek a reconciliation. In Friedrich v. Friedrich (1996) 78 F.3d 1060 the Court of Appeals of the Sixth Circuit adopted a similar approach.

In my judgment, therefore, in the ordinary case the court has to determine whether in all the circumstances of the case the wronged parent has, in fact, gone along with the wrongful abduction. Acquiescence is a question of the actual subjective intention of the wronged parent, not of the outside world's perception of his intentions.

Is acquiescence a question of fact or law?

Once it is established that the question of acquiescence depends upon the subjective intentions of the wronged parent, it is clear that the question is a pure question of fact to be determined by the trial judge on the, perhaps limited, material before him.

In the process of this fact-finding operation, the judge, as a matter of ordinary judicial common sense, is likely to attach more weight to the express words or conduct of the wronged parent than to his subsequent evidence as to his state of mind. In reaching conclusions of fact, judges always, and rightly, pay more attention to outward conduct than to possibly self-serving evidence of undisclosed intentions. But in so doing the judge is finding the actual facts. He can infer the actual subjective intention from the outward and visible acts of the wronged parents. That is quite a different matter from imputing to the wronged parent an intention which he did not, in fact, possess.

Although each case will depend on its own circumstances, I would suggest judges should be slow to infer an intention to acquiesce from attempts by the wronged parent to effect a reconciliation or to reach an agreed voluntary return of the abducted child. The Convention places weight on the desirability of negotiating a voluntary return of the child: see article 7(c) and article 10. I disagree with the footnote to the judgment of Waite L.J. if it is intended to provide guidance to judges in their fact-finding role. Attempts to produce a resolution of problems by negotiation or through religious or other advisers do not, to my mind, normally connote an intention to accept the status quo if those attempts fail. It is for the judge, in all the circumstances of the case, to attach such weight as he thinks fit to such factors in reaching his finding as to the state of *89 mind of the wronged parent. This was the approach adopted by the French Cour de Cassation in the case, X v. X, to which I have referred.

Finally, it should always be borne in mind that under article 13 the burden of proving that the wronged parent has consented to or acquiesced in the abduction is on the abducting parent who is resisting the summary return of the child. This placing of the burden of proof on the abducting parent is designed to ensure that the underlying purpose of the Convention is carried out, viz., the child is to be summarily returned to its country of habitual residence unless the abductor can prove that the other parent has in effect consented to the removal of the child.

The exception

It is a feature of all developed systems of law that there are circumstances in which one party, A, has so conducted himself as to mislead the other party, B, as to the true state of the facts. In such a case A is not allowed subsequently to assert the true facts as against B. In English law, this is typically represented by the law of estoppel but I am not suggesting that the rules of English law as to estoppel should be imported into the Convention. What is important is the general principle to be found in all developed systems of law.

It follows that there may be cases in which the wronged parent has so conducted himself as to lead the abducting parent to believe that the wronged parent is not going to insist on the summary return of the child. Thus the wronged parent may sign a formal agreement that the child is to remain in the country to which he has been abducted. Again, he may take an active part in proceedings in the country to which the child has been abducted to determine the long-term future of the child. No developed system of justice would permit the wronged parent in such circumstances to go back on the stance which he has, to the knowledge of the other parent, unequivocally adopted: to do so would be unjust.

Therefore in my judgment there are cases (of which In re A.Z. (A Minor) (Abduction: Acquiescence) [1993] 1 F.L.R. 682 is one) in which the wronged parent, knowing of his rights, has so conducted himself vis-à-vis the other parent and the children that he cannot be heard to go back on what he has done and seek to persuade the judge that, all along, he has secretly intended to claim the summary return of the children. However, in my judgment these will be strictly exceptional cases. In the ordinary case behaviour of that kind will be likely to lead the judge to a finding that the actual intention of the wronged parent was indeed to acquiesce in the wrongful removal. It is only in cases where the judge is satisfied that the wronged parent did not, in fact, acquiesce but his outward behaviour demonstrated the contrary that this exceptional case arises.

My Lords, in my judgment these exceptional circumstances can only arise where the words or actions of the wronged party show clearly and unequivocally that the wronged parent is not insisting on the summary return of the child: they must be wholly inconsistent with a request for the summary return of the child. Such clear and unequivocal conduct is not normally to be found in passing remarks or letters written by a parent *90 who has recently suffered the trauma of the removal of his children. Still less is it to be found in a request for access showing the wronged parent's desire to preserve contact with the child, in negotiations for the voluntary return of the child, or in the parent pursuing the dictates of his religious beliefs.

It may be objected that to admit the existence of such exceptional cases in which the actual subjective intentions of the wronged parent do not prevail is to reintroduce by the back door the distinction between active and passive acquiescence which I have rejected. It is true that there are features common to both approaches. But in my judgment the two concepts are not the same. The concept of active and passive acquiescence has led to the approach that acquiescence has to be tested objectively whereas in my view it is a question of subjective intention. The concept of active and passive acquiescence has also led, as in the present case, to a wronged parent who has not, in fact, acquiesced being held to have acquiesced because he has taken some positive action without any analysis of what he has in fact done. The important factor to emphasise is that the wronged parent who has in fact never acquiesced is not to lose his right to the summary return of his children except by words or actions which unequivocally demonstrate that he was not insisting on the summary return of the child.

Summary

To bring these strands together, in my view the applicable principles are as follows. (1) For the purposes of article 13 of the Convention, the question whether the wronged parent has "acquiesced" in the removal or retention of the child depends upon his actual state of mind. As Neill L.J. said in In re S. (Minors) (Abduction: Acquiescence) [1994] 1 F.L.R. 819, 838: "the court is primarily concerned, not with the question of the other parent's perception of the applicant's conduct, but with the question whether the applicant acquiesced in fact." (2) The subjective intention of the wronged parent is a question of fact for the trial judge to determine in all the circumstances of the case, the burden of proof being on the abducting parent. (3) The trial judge, in reaching his decision on that question of fact, will no doubt be inclined to attach more weight to the contemporaneous words and actions of the wronged parent than to his bare assertions in evidence of his intention. But that is a question of the weight to be attached to evidence and is not a question of law. (4) There is only one exception. Where the words or actions of the wronged parent clearly and unequivocally show and have led the other parent to believe that the wronged parent is not asserting or going to assert his right to the summary return of the child and are inconsistent with such return, justice requires that the wronged parent be held to have acquiesced.

152.

I construe the requesting parent’s response, extracted above at paragraph 147, as a denial that he acquiesced to the children being retained in Australia and/or consented to them remaining in Australia until the end of 2006.

153.

I note that the requesting parent’s application to the Central Authority in Greece was made on 10 May 2006. It has annexed to it various public documents obtained earlier than that, being school records dated 5 May 2006. The requesting parent’s affidavit was sworn on 14 June 2006. Thereafter, it appears that the requesting parent has responded to the mother’s case as and when called upon to do so. This includes his own response by declaration made

5 October 2006 and the 5 other witnesses statements which he obtained and which were made on either 25 September or 5 October 2006.

154.

I queried why the respondent’s affidavit material about the telephone conversations in which she had, allegedly, been told that the children could stay in Australia until October 2006 and then until the end of 2006 was so vague, lacking as it does, references to dates or times. Counsel for the respondent mother said that her client could not recall the dates because, at the time, she did not consider what the requesting parent said to be something she needed to record. In essence, the respondent mother had no idea of how significant the two telephone conversations would become. I am not able to accept or to reject the respondent’s evidence about the alleged telephone calls.

155.

There is simply no cogent evidence upon which I can be satisfied, on a balance of probabilities, that the requesting parent consented or acquiesced as is alleged by the respondent mother. On the evidence:-

a) I am not satisfied that the requesting parent provided his consent for the respondent mother to remove the children from Greece for any longer than 19 or 29 January 2006;

b) I am not satisfied that the requesting parent acquiesced to the retention of the children in Australia until October 2006 or the end of 2006 or any time later than the date on which the requesting parent anticipated their return prior to them leaving Greece.

156.

The evidence adduced in this case, does not come remotely close to satisfying me that the requesting parent has, in fact, gone along with the wrongful retention.

157.

I am also satisfied that at no time since the children have arrived in Australia has the requesting parent acted in a way that would lead the respondent mother to believe that he would not insist on the return of the children to Greece.

158.

It was suggested, but not submitted, by counsel for the respondent mother that, had I been satisfied that the husband had acquiesced to the wrongful retention to the alleged effect because the State Central Authority would not be able to rely on its application because the time by which the children were required to be returned, namely October 2006 or the end of 2006, post dated the issuance of the application on 24 July 2006. I surmise that this was an argument formulated on behalf of the respondent mother in the context of the final hearing commencing on 2 October 2006 rather than on 15 January 2007. In any event, the issue does not arise because I am not satisfied that the requesting parent ever agreed, in the appropriate sense, to the children remaining in Australia past January 2006.

159.

I find that the respondent mother’s case under Regulation 16(3)(a)(ii) must fail.

Exercise of discretion against mandatory return

160.

In the event that the respondent mother had made out either of the exception for which she contended, I would have had available to me a discretion whether or not to order the return the children to Greece.

161.

The applicant contended that if the discretion arose I should not exercise it. The respondent contended that I should exercise it and thereby allow the two children to stay in Australia.

162.

In the unreported decision of Kay J in State Central Authority and DB [2002] FamCA 804 delivered 24 September 2002, His Honour, in my view, correctly summarised the relevant law in relation to the exercise of the discretion to refuse an order for return as follows:-

33. The existence of the Regulation 16(3) defence means that the Court may refuse to order the return of the child under the Convention. This raises the question of the exercise of a discretion. The Regulation offers no express terms as to how that discretion may be exercised. Brennan CJ, Dawson, Toohey, Gaudron, McHugh and Gummow JJ said in De L v Director-General, NSW Dept of Community Services (1996) 187 CLR 640; FLC 92-706; 20 Fam LR 390 at CLR 661; FLC 83,456; Fam LR 403:

“if a child objects to being returned to the country of his or her habitual residence and has attained the age and degree of maturity spoken of in reg 16(3)(c), it remains for the judge hearing the application to exercise an independent discretion to determine whether or not an order should be made for the child's return. The Regulations are silent as to the matters to be taken into account in the exercise of that discretion and the ‘discretion is, therefore, unconfined except in so far as the subject matter and the scope and purpose of the [Regulations]’ enable it to be said that a particular consideration is extraneous [Water Conservation and Irrigation Commission (NSW) v Browning (1947) 74 CLR 492 at 505 per Dixon J]. That subject-matter is such that the welfare of the child is properly to be taken into consideration in exercising that discretion.”

In TB v JB (formerly JH) [2000] EWCA Civ 337 Laws and Arden LJJ, Hale J dissenting, upheld an appeal from a decision of Singer J and ordered the return of children aged 14, 13 and 10½ to New Zealand in circumstances where the mother had brought the children to England seeking to escape from what she said was an abusive relationship with her second husband. It was clear that the eldest child did not wish to return to New Zealand. Hale LJ accepted and applied a list of factors suggested by Waite J (as he then was) in W v W (Child Abduction: Acquiescence) [1993] 2 FLR 211 and later adopted by him in the Court of Appeal in H v H (Abduction: Acquiescence) [1996] 2 FLR 570 at 574 which were:

“(a) the comparative suitability of the forum to determine the child's future in the substantive proceedings;

(b) the likely outcome (in whichever forum) of the substantive proceedings;

(c) the consequences of the acquiescence;

(d) he situation which would await the absconding parent and the child if compelled to return;

(e) the anticipated emotional effect upon the child of an immediate return (a factor which is to be treated as significant but not paramount); and

(f) the extent to which the purpose and underlying philosophy of the Hague Convention would be at risk of frustration if a return order were to be refused.”

34. Her Ladyship said:

“56. As to (f), the policy of the Hague Convention undoubtedly weighs heavily in respect of the children's objections. In my view, expressed in Re HB (Abduction: Children's Objections) [1997] 1 FLR 392, it weighs particularly heavily in those cases where children come to visit a parent living here and wish to remain: unless their objections are very cogent indeed, they should return to their primary carer for the dispute about a change in primary care to be settled in their home country. It weighs rather less heavily when the children wish to remain with their primary carer, particularly where, as here, the child has had no contact with the other parent for such a long time. … “

35. Arden LJ said of the exercise of discretion in the TB case that as the majority were sending the younger children back and that the mother would follow, notwithstanding the wishes of the elder child, the interests of the child dictated that she be forced back as well.

“107 However K is entitled to separate exception under Article 13 by reason of the fact that she is able to express her wishes and objects to return. She is now fourteen and a half years old. … It is important that her wishes should be respected so far as possible but on the other hand since her brothers are to return, the court should consider whether it is right to respect those wishes in those circumstances. More importantly she is close to her brothers and her mother. She has been a source of strength to her mother in the past. Her mother says that at times she does not know how she could cope without K. In my judgment, the likelihood is that her mother will return to New Zealand with A and KI. In those circumstances, despite some dislocation in her education, it is in K's best interest to return also. In so concluding, I reach the same conclusion as Hale J (as she then was) reached on the facts of the case in Re: HB (Abduction: Children's Objections) [1997] l FLR 392, referred to with approval on appeal allowed on another point [1998] 1 FLR 422). Other factors include the fact that she has grown up in New Zealand and has the benefit of her mother's extended family there. Having considered those matters, in my view, in the exercise of discretion effect should not be given to K's wishes and she too should be ordered to return…”.

163.

In the recent decision of HZ v State Central Authority [2006] FamCA 466, the Full Court comprising Kay, Coleman and Warnick J. endorsed the above passage by Kay J in State Central Authority and DB as being appropriate approach to be taken on the issue of the exercise of discretion to refuse to return a child to its country of habitual residence. In HZ v State Central Authority the Full Court were considering an appeal from my decision to return children then aged 8, 5 and 3 years to Greece after they had been consensually removed about a year earlier but then wrongfully retained. Their Honours observed:-

Her Honour identified the features that were appropriate to the exercise of discretion in this case, namely that the purpose and underlying philosophy of the Hague Convention would be at risk of frustration if a return order were to be refused, because her Honour identified the retention as “the most ‘blatant kind’”…Given that these were children who were born in Greece and had spent effectively the entirety of their life in Greece until the mother unilaterally determined to retain them in Australia, Greece was clearly the appropriate forum for issues relating to the welfare of these children to be determined. In those circumstances it was appropriate for her Honour to place significant weight on the first of the objects referred to in Article 1 of the Convention namely the prompt return of the children who had been wrongfully retained in Australia.

164.

In HZ v State Central Authority there was no suggestion that the respondent mother’s mental health precluded her return to Greece but, similar to this case, she had alleged that the father had perpetrated acts of violence and verbal and emotional abuse against her, had restricted her freedoms, that she would have little support or financial assistance in Greece and that the father had threatened her with harm upon her return, thus constituting a grave risk of psychological and physical harm or an intolerable situation for the child. Differently from this case, I was satisfied at first instance, that some of the alleged violence, overly controlling behaviours and abuse had occurred. The Full Court upheld the finding at first instance that the exceptions to the mandatory return of the child to Greece were not made out and affirmed that, had the exceptions been made out, it would have been inappropriate to exercise the resultant discretion to allow the children to remain in Australia.

165.

In this case, neither party addressed the relevant considerations with much vigour but I will do the best I can on the evidence before me.

166.

Comparative suitability of the forum to determine the child’s future in the substantive proceedings I have no doubt that Greece is as suitable as Australia in terms of judicial resources. The mother and her family reside in Australia. The mother says that she cannot go to Greece without her family. If that remains the case and sufficient of her family members refuse to accompany her to Greece even for the purpose of proceedings, then she will have to participate from Australia. I have not received any evidence to the effect that Greece has less capacity than our court in Australia to obtain evidence by way of video link or on commission and that would be from the respondent mother and at least her father. On the other hand, the balance of witnesses relevant to the allegations of the respondent mother are in Greece, that is the father, his parents, his sister and the various persons from whom he has obtained evidence to date. That number is likely to be expanded rather than contracted. Taking the availability of witnesses into account, I am satisfied on balance that Greece is the more suitable forum to determine the children’s future than is Australia.

167.

The likely outcome of the substantive proceedings. This is not easy to answer and neither counsel before me attempted to do so. I am confident that an outcome in either jurisdiction will follow on an examination of all relevant evidence which I am obviously in a position to assess at this stage. In Australia the paramount consideration is the best interests of the children. In Greece, from what I understand, the focus is also the interests of the child(ren). I note that at page 31 of the annexures to the application filed on 24 July 2006, there is an extract of applicable law which includes the following:-

Article 1511

Every decision of the parents concerning the parental car’s exercise, must aim at the child’s interest.

The court’s decision must also aim at the child’s interest, when, according to the law’s provisions, the court decides relatively to the placement of the parental care or to the mode of her exercise. The court’s decision must also respect the equality between the parents and not make distinctions because of the sex, race, language, religion, political or other convictions, nationality, national or social origin or of the property.

According to the child’s maturity, his opinion must be asked appreciated before each decision relevant to the parental care, provided that the decision concerns his interests.

168.

According to Greek law, custody of a person involves the following:-

The custody of the person of the child mainly includes his / her upbringing, supervision, schooling and education as well as the determination of his / her place of residence.

During the upbringing of the child, his / her parents support him / her, without any sex discriminations, to develop his / her personality responsibly and with social conscience. Penitentiary measures can only be taken if they are pedagogically necessary and do not prejudice the child’s dignity.

During the child’s schooling and vocational education, the parents take into account his / her abilities and personal aptitudes. For this reason, they should cooperate with the school and, if there is such a need, request the assistance of competent state services or public organisations.

169.

I am unable to predict the outcome of proceedings in either jurisdiction without knowing what evidence is to be adduced and without having an opportunity to see it tested. For the purpose of this exercise, I am satisfied that the outcome of the proceedings, wherever they are conducted, will be a determination arrived at with the children’s interests being a very real if not paramount consideration.

170.

Consequences of acquiescence. I am not satisfied that there has been any acquiescence on the part of the requesting parent.

171.

The situation awaiting the respondent mother and children if they return. There is no suggestion of any criminal charges or civil penalties which would await the respondent parent in the event of her return. Seeing as it is not the respondent’s proposal to return to Greece come what may, I will not dwell of circumstances as they pertain to her.

172.

I am satisfied that, the children, are returned to Greece, they will be cared for by the requesting parent and his family and enveloped in whatever warmth and love that family has to offer. The girls’ material needs will be met but they will have no mother. That is a harsh reality and, if I had been satisfied that the respondent mother’s mental illness was such that she is currently not in command of her own circumstances, this is a factor which would weigh heavily in favour of me exercising the discretion to permit the girls to stay. However,

I am not satisfied on the evidence that it is practically impossible or even highly undesirable for the respondent mother to return to Greece. I repeatedly asked counsel for the mother to inform me of what the mother had done to make life better for herself in Greece and to prepare a path by which the children could be returned in her care although living entirely separately and part from the requesting parent. The response was that she had done nothing because she was unable to contemplate returning to Greece. Absent cogent evidence that the respondent was, at the time of the hearing before me, effectively precluded by psychological or psychiatric illness or by some other reason from returning to Greece, I regard the fact that the mother has done nothing to make her lot better to be indicative of trying to close off all options other than permitting her to stay in Melbourne.

173.

The anticipated emotional effect upon the children of an immediate return

.

I accept that the children will suffer emotionally by reason of being separated from the respondent mother who has been their primary carer. They have not seen the requesting parent nor any member of their family in Greece since October 2005 when they were then aged 4 years and 2¾ years respectively. They will be bewildered at the loss of their mother and not understanding about the loss of their Australian family members. However, the alternative, may be that they are deprived of having a relationship with the requesting parent or from ever knowing their Greek family or their Greek way of life. It is a comparison of matters which have very different qualities. The known and familiar status quo against that which lies in the future. I have no direct evidence as to the medium to long term effect of depriving the children of their primary carer at this stage in their lives. I note that Dr B’s evidence, about the effect of the children being separated from the respondent, was expressed to be predicated on the history provided by the respondent mother being correct. Whatever be the truth of the mater as between the requesting parent and the respondent, I accept that separation from the respondent and her family will be an emotional blow to the girls and will produce anxiety and sadness. At the end of the day, however, I am not satisfied that this predicament was brought about by other than the wife’s actions in respect of which she has failed to satisfy me that she does not have control.

174.

The extent to which the purpose and underlying philosophy of the Hague Convention would be frustrated is a return order were refused. The child welfare issues raised in this case are matters which, in my view, are best dealt with by the courts in Greece. It is not contended that the respondent will be unable to participate meaningfully in proceedings in Greece about with whom and where the children should reside. However, if the respondent mother had persuaded me that she was precluded from returning to Greece because of mental illness or a dependency on her family (which she has not), this would be a factor in favour of me refusing to make an order for her to return.

175.

I also consider the extent to which the underlying philosophy of the Convention has been compromised by the court process here. The children left Greece in October 2005 and should have been back in Greece by February 2006. The relevant application was not filed until 24 July 2006. The respondent’s psychotic episode and her failure to comply with orders and directions for the filing of material were responsible for considerable delay and impeded the State Central Authority from gathering its evidence. Then the State Central Authority obtained an adjournment of the final hearing which was then re-listed in mid-January 2007. It was most unfortunate that the adjournment added another 4 months to the process. Then the matter proceeded before me and there has been a regrettable delay in my delivery of this judgment.

176.

The consensual removal of the children from Greece occurred 18 months ago. The children have been wrongfully retained since, say, February 2006 and the wrongful retention has subsisted for more than 12 months. In Re C (Abduction) [1999] 2 FLR, Thorpe LJ was critical of the delay in the determination of those proceedings in the following terms, at page 488:-

Sadly this case is not an illustration of good practice. The abduction took place on 9 June 1998. The father’s application to the Cypriot central authority was made on 15 July 1998. Good practice would have ensured the determination of the issue and an order for the return of B before the expiration of the long summer school holidays. The trial did not take place until 6 months after the initiation of the proceedings. The Cypriot central authority is responsible for 2 of those months. But in a straightforward case with no evidence but the affidavits from the family the determination of the proceedings in this jurisdiction should not take 4 months. At least we have completed the appellate review within 2 months. The goal for which we should strive in this jurisdiction, both at first instance and on appeal, should be 6 weeks from initiation to conclusion. It cannot be too strongly emphasised that this is intended to be a hot pursuit remedy and if the courts permit it to linger into anything else they aid the creation of unnecessary litigation issues.

177.

The comments of Thorpe LJ in relation to the convention being a hot pursuit remedy and the need to dispose of the matters as expediently as possible are as apt here as in England.

178.

Whilst the time lines in this case are far from admirable, I am satisfied that the delay, itself, has not thwarted the purpose of the Convention. This has not ceased to be a case which should be examined by a court of competent jurisdiction, in Greece, as soon as possible. This is not a case which should, because of the affluxion of time, rest with the respondent’s unilateral and wrongful retention of the children in Australia.

179.

Hypothetically and on other evidence, it may be that I would exercise a discretion to refuse an order returning the children to Greece. However, on my determination of the principal issues of grave risk of harm and acquiescence, no discretion is enlivened.

180.

I found the case in some respects to be difficult but, in the final analysis, the difficulties which I perceived were around the presentation of the respondent’s case and not the substance of it. On the evidence which was presented to me, the result of the girls being returned to Greece is not a result which is attended by doubt or disquiet on my part. No doubt, if the respondent mother had better evidence to present, it would have been presented on her behalf. Further, if she was unable to give those instructions herself, she had retained professionals to present a case for her. At all relevant times she was represented by qualified practitioners whose task it was to advise her as forcefully as necessary. Alternatively, if worst came to worst and they assessed the respondent as a person, who by reason of mental disability, was not able to understand the nature or possible consequences of the case or not capable of adequately conducting, or giving adequate instructions for the conduct of, the case, they could have made application (supported by appropriate evidence) for the appointment of a case guardian. They did not do so. On the other hand, in the running of this case, the respondent mother instructed counsel appearing on her behalf to resist any order which would give the mother the opportunity to change her mind and follow the children to Greece[119]. I think that reflects a resolve and capacity to give instructions which is inconsistent with the respondent’s case that she is not in control of her own circumstances or unable to put in place any measures by which she would be able to continue to care for the children when they are returned (as they will be).

181.

I will accede to the application of the State Central Authority. I will hear from counsel as to the form of the orders whereby both children are to be returned to Greece.

I certify that the preceding one hundred and eighty (181) paragraphs are a true copy of the reasons for judgment of the Honourable Justice Bennett

Associate:

Date: 23 March 2007

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